i am only 17 but i know i am in love. i have had a girlfriend for two years now but i think i love someone else. i think i need to get out of this relationship but i never can. i was in love with my best friend whom i cheated on my girlfriend with. i dont know what to do but i nkow she doesnt love me like i love her. i mean she is into open relationships. we mess around sometimes but i dont know if i should persue her anymore or just focus on my girlfriend or even break up with her...she lives 500 miles away now when we used to live together and see each other daily...what do i do?
either stop cheating on your girlfriend or break up with her. by cheating on her it's obvious that you don't truly care about her, so it seems like you made your decision already.
I know that it's hard. It takes a lot of practice, and some admitting that you've been wrong, which is hard to do. But there's a fundamental switch that I think you ought to be making. Stop thinking about who the best woman for you to be with is. Come at it from a different perspective. Try concentrating on being fair with each individual. Unfortunately, it's going to involve you getting laid a bit less. You've got to tell your current girlfriend that you're interested in other people now. The long distance relationship isn't working. You've been fucking other women. This will probably break her heart, and she'll not want anything to do with you for a time, probably forever. To be fair to your best friend, you have to explain to her how you feel about her. This is very important for you too, because although it will still hurt a lot that she doesn't want to be as close as you do, it will hurt less than if you can't discuss that with each other. Your heart will probably end up being broken over her. That's what usually happens when one person wants the other more than the other returns the feeling. It's gonna suck. You know that stuff they say about these years being the best of your life? It's a load of crap.
i didn't say that you're a terrible person, i said that cheating is terrible. telling her was the very least you could do, and that doesn't justify cheating; cheating isn't okay just because you come clean about it in the end.
