Theres this one guy that you may have already read about but hes really sweet and everything, but really horny. He wanted me to have sex with him and I wasn't ready so for a while we just broke apart from eachother. Then he lost his virginity to some weird girl and told me that he wish he lost his virginity with me and he wished he waited and he loved me. I personally don't believe him and still don't, but I know he cares about me. We haven't talked in a few months but I have talked to him recently and I kinda have feelings for him again. I am ready to have sex now I think, but I dunno what to do. I told him I still had feelings for him and he didn't say much. Help! And its hard to just forget feelings you have, especially for a second time! Peace
oh and he always asks me to cyber online with him so i can't ever talk to him and it ruins like the moment of me trying to seriously talk to him!
Haha who invented cybering? Anyways, not to sound horrible, but he's probably not that emotionally attached to you if you haven't talked to him in months. To me it sounds like you want to have sex. Sounds like you're attracted to him and just looking for someone to say hey go for it. Hey sex is fun. If you are looking for just having a good time, go for it. If you're looking for a relationship with him then having sex with him probably isn't going to do anything for that.
I understand what you mean I tried to talk to him tonight and like I told him everything and he said he needed to think and I was like about what and he was like a lot of stuff, so I dunno. Then like I told him I wanted to see him and we are gonna hangout sometime this week hopefully, but he got all mad when I didn't wanna cyber and got offline. Hes always so horny its hard to talk to him. Thats the problem! I just dunno what I should do. I don't just want a fling, but I am not saying it has to be a relationship that goes on forever. I wanna have fun and I am ready to have sex, but I don't want to be one of those girls he tells his friends about you know. I want something and we can have sex during it. Am I asking to much? Why is it that he always wants to cyber, thats all he ever wants, it just makes me feel like used, but I know he cares, well, I was pretty sure he did until tonight, now I am just confused again! Please help! I need advice, I dunno what to do! Peace
you need to ditch him. you may (or may not) be ready for sex. but you dont want to ruin it with some guy who may (or may not) be interested in you. if somethign ever happens between you, great. but if i were you, i wouldnt push for it. but i have to laugh at the cybe rthing. sdont do it if you are uncomfortable. but i thought you should know this: Compfused.com - Cyber Sex Gone Wrong haha and this: The allure of cyber sex knows no demographic boundary. It seduces people from all walks of life, spanning every conceivable difference in age, sex, religion, culture and marital status. nick and i found these amusing
Yea if the dude's freaking out about you not cybering with him, he's probably not the premiere prospect to deflower with.
Sounds like he has some kind of issue with respecting other people's feelings towards the loss of their virginity...
don't try to convince yourself he has feelings for you other than that he wants to fuck you. if he gets mad at you for not wanting to cyber, he's being intentionally manipulative and if you two got together, that would be a very, very, very shitty relationship.
ahh... you definitely need to ditch the loser, honey. by the sounds of it, this is the kind of guy an older you would look back on and wish you'd avoided. peace, sophia
Honestly this guy sounds like an ass. He loves you but doesn't want to talk to you unless you cyber with him? I'm sorry, but that doesn't sound like love. I would hate to see you simply become the next notch on his bedpost, and honestly that sounds like what he's looking for. If I were you I'd move right along, away from this guy. He doesn't like he has any respect for you, and that's probably not the kind of guy you're looking for - especially if you think it might include your first time. PS to AmandasShadow: thanks for the link rofl that was TOO funny
OKay i hope i replay before you actually think again about actually sleeping with this guy. Wait until its feels right trust me the way you talk about him doesn't sound like it felt right. Trust me you'll know when its time everyone does. Don't rush into anything. I would punch that fucker in the face. If i were you. But i'm not so you better do it for me. All guys are the same except that guy. He is a fucking weirdo. So i definetly agree with everyone and ditch the dickhead. He is after one thing like other men but we hide it a little better then him. So keep searching you'll find that lucky guy.
Thanks everyone. I think I am gonna forget about him, or try, and let him chase after me, and if not then your probably right, hes the kinda guy to avoid. My best friend, hes like my brother, and I were talking and he said he wanted to talk to him about him only wanting sex and if that was it then he needs to forget about it and leave me alone. I haven't talked to my friend yet but I will see what was said in the conversation and tell you about it. Thanks for all your great advice you have really helped me through this so far! Peace and Love, Kimmy
cool just remember, if you get uneasy in regards to your self-respect, it's time to get out of the situation.
Get out of the situation, thats exactly what I am gonna do! Been doing a lot of thinking latley and I have just confused myself so much that nothing good can come out of it. Besides, all you said to not bother with this guy because he sounds like a jerk and just wants sex, and the more I think about it you are all right. Its just hard to think that thats all he wants, I wish it wasn't!
