My friend came out!!!

Hey all. I'm all excited today because I hung out with an old friend who I've known for about 6 years. Well, he's always come off as very gay to me, but he never admitted it. (His parents are very very devout Catholics) So, we went to lunch today & he finally told me. He told his parents so it's all out in the open. I'm so happy about it, because he was always so uptight regarding his sexuality and others. Lots of girls in school liked him & he never showed much interest. So, I start freaking out in the restaurant today. I'm so happy for him. So, now I'm supposed to go to the two gay pride parades coming up with him. It should be interesting. So, were any of you guys that excited when a friend came out or when you came out?

 

yeah i was extremely excited when a guy friend of mine came out. i had thought that he was gay before hand once, but never thought anything else of it. so it was really good when he came out.

but strangely enough, i find that when u come out, it starts a string of coming-outs. you get a lot of responses like "oh my god, me too!!" which is really exciting.

 

So I can't speak for that. I would be honored if someone did though.


I was accidentally outed at work a lillte over a year ago by a female bi coworker though. In a way she outed the both of us. She was being low key about herself. I was at first to nervous to be excited by it but it was in the long run such a liberating thing that I am so glad that she did. I did have some of the other (interestingly enough all gay) people who work in different departments let me know that they were gay since but they were already very out before. My union steward is lesbian but we haven't much discussed GLBT issues or thoughts. It is more of a common knowing thing between us I think. She has introduced me to her partner but that is as close as it has come.

I would be willing to bet that your friend will experience that liberation himself. Good for him!

 

I've had a string of bisexual girls come out to me. It seems I am a point of interest (not sexually most of the time, emotionally) to bi girls - very consistant patterns. Strangely, of the several I know well, nearly all of them have had boyfriends for over two years. In high school people rarely are together for more than a school year...it's interesting.

I was never more excited then when my best friend Nick came out to me. It was before I had come out to anyone - he said it first - and it was just the most earth-shattering moment for both of us. Very spiritual, in a way.

It's definitely exciting when people come out.

 

one of my best friends came out to me...he said that i helped him realize that he was bi...it was really a great moment because i felt like i had made an impact on someone in a positive way...most of my friends and i call came out at the same time...but only two of us weren't going through a phase...me and this other girl...then other people started coming out to me...random people at my school...like, "i heard you're a lesbian...well i'm gay...lets hang out!"...anyways...it is just a really special moment when someone (esp. a friend) comes out to you...because that means there is a certain trust and openess in the relationship. yay.

 

I wish I was gay so I could come out and get a shit load of praise. Oh well.

 

You're right, sweetheart, you don't know what you're missing. Who could resist the seeping rath of half the nation which regards you as a disgusting second-class citizen in need of correctional therapy?

Shit is more like it.

 

yeah praise isnt the majority of what i tend to get... but you do get some praise, of course, because not all people are assholes... yeah when i came out like quite a few other people i know have been like "me too!"

 

In truth (backing out of aggressive bitch mode, which I rather enjoy) I do recieve a lot of "praise" when I come out. I confess, it's true. As a lesbian in a northeastern liberal state with a lot of open-minded people around, the sneering reactions are only occasional. Most people are commending the honesty of the action, not the actual sexual orientation.

However, I am constantly aware that most people are not so consistantly fortunate. Praise? How about getting kicked out of the house by your parents? It's been known to happen time and time again! So when I get all huffy about people who accuse us of having it pretty good now, it's in defense of all the kids in Alabama, Georgia, Kentucky...I mean what the fuck do you DO down there...live in fear, probably.

Too much has happened historically (and too much still continues to happen) to gay people for coming out to be a joke. Or something to be taken lightly.

 

i once almost came out to my mom...but right before i could say anything she said...and i quote, "if you are gay i'll kill you"...and she was serious...i'm not be dramatic...she actually said that and meant it...although i doubt she'll actually kill me...it was still one of the scariest moments of my life.

 

Are you serious?

I wonder what makes these people believe they even remotely deserve to have children. I really do. Even if she was spewing words and not thinking...

 

I Have Told My Mother And Sister I Am Bi-sexual But Im Yet To Tell My Father Or Brother! I Did Not Realise I Was Bi Until I Was 15, 5 Years Later And Im Leaning More Towards Gay! Anyways A Friend Of Mine Was Staying At My House While He's Parents Were On Holiday, We Were Walking To School And We Decided To Go And Steal He's Parents Car, I Was 13 He Was 15, On Our Way "Driving To School" He Told Me He Was Gay, I Told Hime He Was A Dirty ****, He Stopped The Car And Started Crying, I Jumped Out And Walked The Rest Of The Way To School! After School I Appologised And Blahh, Then We Were The Best Of Friends Again... 3 Weeks Later He's Parents Came Home From Holidays, Packed Up And Moved To Canada... Havent Heard From Him For Nearly 6 Years Now! Pity, I Could Do With A Friend Like Him Around!!!

 

Maybe I'll turn gay and then I will realize the "other side". I'm an open minded brother who's not afraid to experiment!

 

I suppose if you can know you're gay and live a straight live anyway, you could be straight and do the opposite.

Get yourself some nice shoes and get going on that.

 

Do you think a haircut would help as well? And maybe a wax job on the 'ol chassis?

 

Ha, one of my (previously straight) friends was getting really close to this girl. I kept telling all our others friends "I am SURE there is something going on there!" And they all kept giving me wierd looks and were like "Nah".
And a month or two later, oh yes they came out as going out.
Course, I wasn't out at that point....

 

ha, yeah, that happened to me too. Whit and Hill. obvious as anything.

I found out secretly, though, they weren't out.

 

Yeah, I think they had to be outed.

Ahh, I just love gaydar

 

Hey all!!! Thanks for the posts. It is definitely a liberating thing. I'm happy for him. It was just such a realization for him to admit it to me, after all this time.

Also, I just wanted to say thanks rock'n'roll girl for your sig. I have it as my wallpaper. So, I'm happy everytime I put the comp on, Lol!

 

tell him congrads..


peace
chickens