Understanding Women & Dating

How to pick up hot chicks
(This is for all of you guys... this man is a genius!! his words are wise and his methods tried and true!)
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some guys are confused over why it seems TO THEM they're doing all the right things in attempts to attract ladies, only to NOT get the ending result they were hoping for.

Dating and Women in general I agree, (without understanding the underlying elements of both) can be HIGHLY CONFUSING.

So I thought it'd be a good idea to start a thread, where I, "your loving moderator", will post "lengthy" tid bits (when I can find the time) that will enlighten you gents on some things I personally discovered, was shown, and learned myself, and wish to pass along this knowledge to you. I don't claim to be a master by any means on any of this, and alot will simply be regurgitated information as I have come to understand it all now.

But I can assure you, i'm very confident its right on point. Because I have applied it, I have changed, and I have seen it all be oh so true.

Feel free to reply to various portions of the thread as you desire. As i'm sure through a group collective much can be learned. But I hope this will be a shot in the right direction.

AND LADIES...
before jumping to conclusions as you like to do, take the time to read the various sections yourselves. You might just learn some startling things about yourself, or you might even blush a bit and think... DAMN, HE JUST NAILED US ON THE HEAD!

Trust me guys... the girls AREN'T going to tell you these things.

Why?

1. Cause they want a guy THAT ALREADY KNOWS THEM! Because what that says subconciously speaks VOLUMES!

2. Cause even alot of women don't realize why they are the way they are. THEY JUST... ARE. It's just... who they are. They may make no sense to you, but that's all the joy of being a woman.

Understand women in relation to todays day and age of dating, and you'll save yourself a load of heartache, confusion, and frustration.

so, where to begin......

WHY WOMEN DRESS SEXY, AND HOW TO ATTRACT THEM!

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Have you ever wondered why women you see out at bars and nightclubs (and even at malls and restaurants) sometimes dress so SEXY?

It's an interesting question.
I mean, let's think about it from the woman's perspective...
An attractive woman gets attention from men all the time...
no matter WHAT she's wearing.

Attractive women don't have to "accent" their beauty in order to attract men.
And the question becomes VERY interesting when you consider that often it's the most BEAUTIFUL women that go to the GREATEST lengths to enhance their beauty.

You know what I mean...
A perfectly beautiful woman gets an expensive operation to make her one cup larger...
A tall, stunning model spends all day at the mall shopping for just the right high-heeled shoes...
A naturally beautiful woman spends hours in front of the mirror getting ready to go out... and puts on tons of makeup... (I know, my ex GF would of been one of those)

AND FOR WHAT?

Could it possibly be worth all the extra time and effort... spending HOURS and HOURS to get that "extra little bit" of beauty, when a woman already has "more
than enough"?

Hey, no one ever said humans made SENSE. Especially WOMEN... lol. (Don't get too excited. Us Men have our strange points as well.)

Let me tell you about a few of the reasons why women go to these lengths to squeeze that "extra little bit" out of their beauty...

1. To Maximize Her Strengths In Order To Attract The Best Man
Let's turn this picture around, and look at it from another direction.
Let's imagine that an attractive woman is getting ready to go to a party.

There are going to be a hundred men and a hundred women at this party (I know, I know... you think that I must be smoking something... because most parties
have 100 men and 10 women... and resemble the sausage counter at your local market... but humor me here for a second).

If there are going to be a hundred men at this party, it follows that a few of those men are going to be the "best" ones.

Do you think this particular woman is going to want to settle for one of the "random sausages" running around?

Nope.

She wants the "best" one... if possible.

And that guy has OPTIONS.

Soooo... she needs to "fix herself up", EVEN THOUGH SHE'S ALREADY BEAUTIFUL... if she wants to have the BEST chance of getting THAT guy.


2. Competition From Other Women
This particular idea was one of the most interesting and surprising things I learned about women while I was educating myself about dating and attraction.

Here's the deal:
Attractive women tend to be VERY, VERY competitive.
Recently I was introduced to a concept called "The Bitch Look".
Sounds charming, doesn't it?
Here's how it works...
When a "hot" woman walks into a room, EVERYONE checks her out.

The "sausage" looks her up and down with a "let me get a really good look because I'll be using her as a spank-it fantasy later. LOL
The "top guys" who have options glance at her and make a "mental note" to talk to her later.

The OTHER hot women look at her and give her... yep, you guessed it....
THE BITCH LOOK. Why?
Because another hot woman is instantly seen as COMPETITION.
A hot woman doesn't want OTHER hot women competing with her for the "best guys". So they give other women "bitch looks".

It's competition, intimidation, and millions of years of evolution all rolled up into one special package.

(Think about this for a minute, because there's a clue here about how to attract the MOST attractive women. I'll reveal the secret later...)

So let's just say that attractive women DON'T LIKE COMPETITION.

In order to MINIMIZE their competition, they FIX THEMSELVES UP... and emphasize their good points TO THE MAX.

When an already-beautiful goes to the trouble to pick out just the right clothes... the ones that flatter her figure... and put on just the right makeup... in a way that draws attention to her finer points... and styles her hair... in a way that draws attention to her and frames her face...

...it puts her ABOVE the competition


3. To Get The Most Attention And Approval
Now that we've talked about a couple of the underlying reasons why women go to great lengths to make themselves more beautiful, I want to talk about the one reason that has the most VALUE to you...

This reason holds the secret of actually ATTRACTING beautiful women.
But let's not get ahead of ourselves just yet...
At the very CORE of human psychology and behavior are the twin concepts of ATTENTION and APPROVAL.
Some evolutionary theorists think that the basic formula goes like this:

If you get more attention from others, and those others like you more, then you and your offspring are more likely to survive and pass on your genes to future generations.

Is this making sense?
Think about it this way:
If others of your species DON'T like you and don't give you any attention, you are going to have a hard time finding a mate... and reproducing.
And if others don't like you, then you aren't going to have the benefits that come from the group... like protection, combined effort, etc.

It just so happens that an attractive woman has an UNCONSCIOUS (but VERY accurate) indicator of whether or not "the group" likes and approves of her...

It's the amount of ATTENTION she gets.

If a woman is getting a lot of attention, it keeps her feeling "OK". She knows, at a deep, primal level that she's accepted by the group... and that she's going to stay healthy, and have a good chance of mating with a "top male".

But this particular concept has a DARK SIDE to it (don't they all?).

Just like anything else that triggers feelings/emotions (very addictive chemicals), attention and approval can lead to a literal ADDICTION.
It's like money, fame, power... all the famous ones... YOU CAN'T GET ENOUGH.

And here's another VERY interesting point:
If you're a beautiful woman who is always getting attention and approval from men, and you meet a man who DOESN'T give you that attention and approval,
it has an INSTANT and POWERFUL impact.

Further, if the man you're interacting with actively AVOIDS giving you attention... and gives you DISAPPROVAL, it can have the effect of instantly SCRAMBLING YOUR SYSTEMS.

Again, attractive women don't meet a lot of guys that could care less about her beauty... and, instead, see it as a "cover up" for some "hidden" thing...

Which leads me to the "secret" I mentioned earlier...

If you want to learn how to ATTRACT these "unusually beautiful" women, then you need to get a clue about what creates the idea in her mind that YOU are one
of the most "desirable" men.

And how can you do that? Well here are your options.

1. Become rich and famous.

2. Get plastic surgery to look like Brad Pitt.

3. Trigger ATTRACTION inside of her.

Here's the interesting thing about triggering ATTRACTION:
When you do it, she can't CONTROL it.
If a woman starts feeling ATTRACTION for you, I'll guarantee you that she didn't "think about it and decide to feel it".
And I guarantee you that she can't CHANGE IT by THINKING ABOUT IT.
And guess what one of the BEST ways is to TRIGGER this "automatic and unconscious" physical and emotional response called attraction IS?

Here's a hint:
It has something to do with these two concepts we've been talking about... ATTENTION and APPROVAL.

If you're interacting with an unusually attractive woman, it's VERY important that you don't communicate to her that you are "overwhelmed by her beauty"...
or that you can't control yourself.

Further, if you actively control the amount of attention that you give her... and you don't show her "approval" too quickly (and even show her some DISAPPROVAL in a cocky and comedic way)... you'll often create a POWERFUL interest inside of her.

Why is this?
Well, think about it for a minute.
You're the hot woman walking into the "sausage party".
For the first two hours, you keep having guys walk up to you and say "you're really hot" and "can I get you a drink?". Every guy that comes within ten feet of you can't stop looking at you, and the ones that talk to you make it clear that they would be willing to do anything for you...

And then you meet a guy that isn't like any of these other guys AT ALL.
He's clearly not impressed with your beauty, and he's even being funny and busting your balls...
You can't tell if he likes you or not, and you feel CHALLENGED by him.

How are you going to respond?
Let's add another element...
For some reason you can't explain, you're starting to feel a GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for him.

NOW what do you?
That's right: You give him all of YOUR attention and approval... hoping that he will give YOU some in return.

In other words, you switch from the one being pursued to the one DOING the pursuing.

NICE! =)

Interesting isn't it how that works. But it does.
The trick here is to separate yourself from the rest. By being confident, even slightly on the cocky side, with a good dose of funny. Being that tease. Not being overly nice, and holding your ground. Showing that you're in control of YOUR reality, and you are the choser, not the chosee.


Gettin shut down should never be looked at as a bad thing.
Sometimes its fun to go out with a bunch of guys for the sole purpose of seeing who gets shut down the hardest and then trying to figure out what ya did wrong, or what ya could of done differently, and tryin it on the next. You gotta realize, that pickin up chicks in bars and clubs especially is rough buisness. You have no idea if they're there with a friend, with a bf, have a bf, just came off a relationship, i mean its like lookin for that needle in a haystack. I honestly have prefered to talk to and get girls numbers OUTSIDE of the club. Way more affective. Plus, just pickin up girls is but only the first step. I mean 1 out of a 100, no matter how attractive, is still gonna be good odds of a girl you'd like to date. They're still human, and their personality, personal issues, clingeyness, and lord knows what else will come into play. The whole dating thing is a pretty complex process that you gotta understand how to be from beginning to end. Its IN the process that I think most guys get hung up.


THE TOP TEN MOST DANGEROUS MISTAKES A GUY CAN MAKE WITH A WOMEN
And What To Do About It...

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MISTAKE ..1:

Being Too Much Of A “Nice Guy”

Have you ever noticed that the really hot, interesting women never seem to be attracted to "nice" guys? Of course you have. Just like me, I'm sure you've had attractive female friends that always seemed to date "jerks"... but for some reason they were never romantically interested in YOU.

What's going on here?
It's actually very simple...
Women don't base their choices of men on how "nice" a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.
And guess what?
Being nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION.
And being NICE doesn't make a woman CHOOSE you.
I realize that this doesn't make a lot of logical sense, and it's hard to ACCEPT... but GET OVER IT.

Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on it, you'll NEVER have the success with women you want.


MISTAKE ..2:

Trying To “Convince" Her To Like You

What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like... but she's just not interested? Right! They try to "convince" the woman to feel differently.

Well, I have news for you... YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION! Never, ever, EVER.

You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you by using "logic and reasoning". Think about it. If a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being "reasonable" with her? But we all do it.

When a woman just isn't interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind. Bad idea. One that will never work.


MISTAKE ..3:

Looking To Her For Approval Or Permission

In our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys are always doing things to get a woman's "approval" or "permission".

Another HORRIBLE idea.
Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them... EVER.
Don't get me wrong here You don't have to treat women BADLY for them to like you.

But if you think that treating a woman well means "always getting her approval and permission for things", think again. You will never succeed by trying to get
approval. Women actually get ANNOYED at men who look for their approval.

Doubt me? Just ask any attractive woman if Wussy guys who chase her around and want her approval annoy her...


MISTAKE ..4:

Trying To “Buy” Her Affection With Food And Gifts

How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had her REJECT you for someone who didn't treat her
even HALF as well as you did? If you're like me, then you've had it happen a fair amount. Well guess what?

It's only NATURAL when this happens... That's right, I said NATURAL.
When you do these things, you send a clear message:
"I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I'm going to try to buy your attention and affection".

Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. That's right, I said that women see this as MANIPULATION.

 

MISTAKE ..5:



Sharing “How You Feel” Too Early In The Relationship With Her



Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women is sharing how they "feel" too early on.

Beautiful, intelligent, interesting women are rare.

And they get a LOT of attention from men.

Most men don't realize this, but attractive women are being approached in one way or another ALL THE TIME by men.



An attractive woman is often approached several times a DAY by men who are interested. This translates into dozens of times per week, and often HUNDREDS of times per month.



And guess what?

Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of men.

That's right. They have EXPERIENCE.

They know what to expect.

And one thing that turns an attractive women off and sends her running away faster than just about anything is a guy who starts saying "You know, I really, REALLY like you" after one or two dates.



This signals to the woman that you're just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast... and can't control themselves.

Don't do it. Lean back. Relax.

There's a much better way...





MISTAKE ..6:



Not “Getting” How Attraction Works For Women



Women are VERY different from men when it comes to ATTRACTION.

You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.

When a man sees a beautiful young woman, he INSTANTLY feels a sexual attraction. But does the same apply for women?

Do women feel sexual attraction to men based mostly on looks?

Or is something else going on?



Well, after studying this topic for awhile I can tell you that women usually

have their "attraction mechanisms" triggered by things OTHER than looks.

Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around?



Think about it.

Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men... and they're attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone.

If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a gorgeous young woman.

But it's not an accident. You have to LEARN how to do this.



And ANY guy can learn how...





MISTAKE ..7:



Thinking That It Takes Money And Looks



One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they've even gotten started... because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money... or guys who are a certain height... or guys who are a certain age, yadda yadda yadda



And sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things.

But MOST women are far more interested in a man's personality than his wallet or his looks. There are personality traits that draw women to you like a magnet...

And if you learn what they are and how to use them, YOU can be one of these guys. YOU DO NOT have to "settle" for a woman just because you aren't rich, tall, or handsome.



Let me say this again: If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful

sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.





MISTAKE ..8:



Giving All Of Your Power To Women



Earlier I mentioned that it's a mistake to look to a woman for approval or permission. Well, another similar tactic that a lot of guys use is GIVING THEIR POWER to women. Said differently, guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever the woman wants.



Another bad idea...

Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can walk all over... Women aren't attracted to Wussies!





MISTAKE ..9:



Not Knowing EXACTLY What To Do In Each Type Of Situation With Women



Now I'm going to blow your mind...

A woman ALWAYS knows what you're thinking.

Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than men at reading body language. That's ten TIMES.



I know, it might be hard to believe. But for example, if you're out on a date with a woman, and you want to kiss her, she knows it.

And if you don't know exactly what to do and exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at her and getting nervous, she won't help!

And this goes for ALL aspects of women and dating...



Approaching a woman, getting her number, asking her out, kissing her, getting physical... everything.



If you don't know what to do in each situation, you will probably screw it up... and LOSE EVERYTHING.

And you KNOW it.

It is VITALLY important that you know EXACTLY how to go from one step to the next with a woman... from the first meeting, all the way to the bedroom.





MISTAKE ..10:



Not Getting HELP

This is the biggest mistake of all.

This is the mistake that keeps most men from EVER having the kind of success with women that they truly want. I know, guys don't like to make themselves look

weak or helpless. We don't like to ask for help.



Hey, I've been there myself.

After several long term yet failed relationships, getting back into the dating scene proved difficult. Especially trying to get dates with women that I was really attracted to. It frustrated the hell out of me. One night I was out with a friend, and I saw a woman I wanted to ask out, but I just couldn't get up the nerve to do it. I can still remember that night... right on the spot I made the decision to do whatever it took to learn how to be successful with women and dating.



Well, after a little bit of reading and research and trying all

kinds of crazy things, I finally stumbled upon what it'd take. And from that point on everything turned around, and soon I found myself on more dates, getting to know more awesome ladies than I ever found possible. First time in my life I was completely happy just being single and getting to know people. Either I was always in a relationship, or completely heartbroken as to why it went wrong. Typically for me, I never had a hard time attracting girls and finding a GF, it was keeping them long term that was the issue and after I learned, what I mentioned above... I totally could see where I went wrong.



"CHEMISTRY" and "SEXUAL TENSION" EXPLAINED!!!

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NOTE: Somewhere in this posted topic I'm going to reveal to you an almost "magical" technique... This particular technique is one of those "gems" that you can use in many situations with women... one that has the power to instantly

transform the energy between you and a woman into an almost INSTANT ATTRACTION...



Here's an interesting thought:

Ask 100 attractive women if they know what the words "Chemistry" and "Sexual Tension" mean, they'll all nod their heads and say "Of course!".

NOW...

Ask 100 guys off the street if they know what the words "Chemistry" and "Sexual Tension" mean, and about 98 of them will give you a dumb look and say "Uh, not

really". A few will probably say things like "Um, is Sexual Tension like when you and a chick are having sex in a weird position and you get a cramp?".



The reality of this situation is that most attractive women know EXACTLY what Chemistry and Sexual Tension are... and they can describe them in DETAIL... but

most men have literally NO IDEA... they're completely clueless.



Think about that.

I'm talking about an incredible phenomenon here...

How is it POSSIBLE that one of the most important aspects of attracting a woman is something that most men know NOTHING about? And how is it that almost ALL attractive women are totally "in the know" about this stuff?



Is there some kind of strange conspiracy against men?

Are women keeping a secret from us guys just so we won't be able to break the code? Maybe.



I mean, think about it... If you were an attractive woman, would you want to find a guy that you had to TEACH the concepts of Chemistry and Sexual Tension to... or would you want

a guy who just "got it" on his own... "naturally"? Duh. You'd want the guy who already "got it".



So more likely than a conspiracy against clueless men, women just naturally respond to men who GET IT, and DON'T respond to men who DON'T.

So let's talk about these concepts a little bit more.



When a woman uses the word "Chemistry", as in "There was chemistry between us" or "I want to meet a man and have natural chemistry", she's talking about

ATTRACTION.



Chemistry is about a woman perceiving that she and a guy are "naturally compatible" because her emotional and physical sparks fly when she meets or is around that guy.



NOTE: I DID NOT use the word "logical" here.



Chemistry is NOT the result of a woman meeting a man and then thinking to herself "Let's see... he is six feet tall, has a good job making 37% more than the medial salary, is the correct age for child rearing... I think that we have a natural chemistry...". Nooooo way.



For a woman, Chemistry is either THERE, or it ISN'T.

There's no two ways about it.

Unfortunately, most guys hear the word "Chemistry" and they think it somehow equates to "The guy must be good-looking so the girl thinks he's sexy... and

since I'm NOT the most handsome guy alive, women won't feel it with ME".

This is only because most guys don't get that you can make a woman feel ATTRACTION for you REGARDLESS of your looks, age, income, height, or anything else.



So, let me repeat:

"Chemistry is about a woman perceiving that she and a guy are "naturally compatible" because her emotional and physical sparks fly when she meets or is around that guy."



Now let's talk about Sexual Tension.

Sexual Tension is about the interaction.

It's that feeling you get when you're in the presence of someone you're attracted to, but there are OBSTACLES, ANTICIPATION, HUMOR, and/or other ingredients in the mix that both increase the ATTRACTION, and increase the TENSION in the situation. Sexual Tension is the combination of being pulled toward someone, but also feeling resistance at the same time. It's about not knowing what's going to happen, but being on the edge of your seat WANTING to know what's going to happen.



Think of it this way...

If a woman KNOWS that she has you right from the beginning, she won't be as interested... this is why so many guys kill their chances with a girl instantly

by going "overboard" and doing too many things to demonstrate his interest.

But if she DOESN'T know whether or not you're interested, and you keep the mystery up, while making her more and more interested, she will think about you ALL THE TIME.



This is creating Chemistry, and increasing the Sexual Tension.

Will a woman feel more ATTRACTION for a guy who always talks to her when he sees her, always calls her, and is always available?

NO.

She'll feel more attraction if he's more mysterious, challenging, and unpredictable.

Remember, Sexual Tension is GOOD for attraction, not bad for it...



So let's talk about some great ways to create Sexual Tension... which will NATURALLY lead to that magical feeling of CHEMISTRY.



Here are a few of my favorite ways to create and amplify Sexual Tension:



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BE COCKY & FUNNY



Being Cocky & Funny, or using Cocky Comedy, is a fun, interesting, enjoyable way to create and amplify Sexual Tension.



The formula is:

Start with an arrogant thought, then add humor to complete.



Example:

If you're standing in line waiting for your coffee, and you notice an attractive woman behind the counter, you could say "Hurry up, you're not working fast enough" in a serious tone of voice.



That's arrogant. It's cocky. But it's NOT AT ALL FUNNY.

You'd sound like a jerk-off if you said that ina cold way.



If INSTEAD you said "Hey, since you like me and this line is always long, how about if I just walk to the front from now on, and you give me free coffee?"... (w/ big cheesy grin)

Now that's a whole different story.



If that same girl behind the counter goes to take your money, and drops it, you could say "You're a klutz, watch what you're doing".

If you did, you'd sound rude and stupid.



On the other hand, if you chimed in with a chuckle and said "you've been in my presence for all of 5 minutes and already I make you so nervous that you're dropping things, wow, you must like me more than I thought!" (in a funny way and with a sly smile), you're going to make her laugh again. And her laughing is Good thing.



Grasping this concept?

This is but one example of being Cocky & Funny.



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WAIT TO CALL HER



What do most guys do when they get a girl's number or email address?



Right, they call or write three minutes later.



"Hi, it was great meeting you a few minutes ago... so, what are you doing?"

OUCH.

Calling or writing a woman immediately is one sure fire way to destroy any anticipation or Sexual Tension that was present in the moment.



On the other hand, if you call up two days later and say "Hey, what up? I'm busy tonight, and tomorrow, but let's do something on Friday. Here's my number,

call me... I gotta get goin..." that's a TOTALLY different type of communication.



By day two, she's already wondering why you haven't called, wondering if you're getting back together with your ex that she's imagining being a model... (lol)

and generally beginning to wonder if and when you're going to call.



Waiting builds tension. Do it. And do it after the FIRST call as well. Learn to become comfortable not knowing what's going on... and waiting to find out.

It's MUCH better.



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TWO STEPS FORWARD, ONE STEP BACK



This is the ultimate formula for AMPLIFYING a woman's anticipation, arousal, and interest in you. (and my personal favorite) Even I don't remember to use it all the time and fall back into my regular guy behaviors.

BUT YOU WOULD HELP THINGS A TON TO TRY!



Moving two steps forward, and one step back takes Sexual Tension,

and it DIALS IT UP.



The idea is simple:

Every time you make "progress" in a romantic way, ANY WHICH WAY, with a woman, STOP.

Then lean back.



For instance, if you have been talking to her, and you start holding hands... after a few minutes, TAKE YOUR HAND BACK.

Then lean back physically, and move away from her for a little while. Then in a little bit go back and grab her hand and hold it longer, maybe stroke it a few times, and then pull it back, and chill for a bit.



If you wind up kissing a little while later, start with slow soft kisses, then lean back, then kiss her again after alittle while, but with a bit more passion and pressure, then lean back, and then stronger kisses mixed with just a pinch of the tongue, THEN STOP kissing her, and lean back again.



Get it?

Women don't get turned on quite the same way men do.



Men are on/off switches.

Women are volume knobs... that need to be turned up gradually.

If you show some self-control, make her feel good, and then go two forward, one back you will give a woman an experience she'll really enjoy, and won't EVER forget...



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TEASE HER



Women LOVE teasing when it's done in the right way.

Some people think of teasing as "making fun of"...

Now I DO love to make fun of women... but I'm talking about a different type of teasing right now.

I'm talking about the type of teasing where you give someone a LITTLE BIT of what they want, then take it away so they want it MORE.

I'm talking about leaning in to kiss a woman, then stopping right before you kiss her... so she can feel your lips just about to touch hers, and then staying there for just a moment...



...and then LEANING BACK. (pay close attention to what she does, you'll often see her retract and bite that corner of her lower lip *god thats hot when chicks do that* thinking to herself... "damn it was right there, and I so wanted to kiss him"



You're teasing her.

You know that she wants you to kiss her, but you're NOT kissing her.

You're in control, and she loves it, hates it, and WANTS IT.

Teasing creates this Sexual Tension rapidly.



You can tease in many other ways...

Next time you're buying something, when the girl behind the counter reaches out to take your money, put it in her hand, then quickly take it away as she grabs it.

(and just watch the playful smile that comes across her lips)

That's teasing.



It's fun, and you can use it almost everywhere for the enjoyment of both you and her...



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ANOTHER REAL-WORLD EXAMPLE



Let's say you and a woman are out together, and you're enjoying your evening.

She decides to throw out one of those types of questions that you're not expecting, but that seem DESIGNED to throw you off...



She asks the question... "Do you think we'll ever have sex?"

Now , most men will answer "I hope so" or "why, do you want to?"

Sexual Tension KILLED.



She asks "Do you think we'll ever have sex"...

You answer back with a laugh "Only in your dreams... and calm down, just because I'm out with you doesn't mean I'm going to sleep with you"... (and wink)

Sexual Tension AMPLIFIED.



When she asked the question, she was TESTING you... she wanted to know if you were going to bite down on the bait. She was finding out if you were REALLY

as in control as it seemed. And now she's left wondering, "well is he being serious, or does that wink means he think we're going to?" MIXED SIGNALS worked wonders.



You either pass or fail those.



The more you watch for, listen for, and pay attention to Sexual Tension, the more you'll begin to NOTICE it. And the more you NOTICE IT, the more you can start to control it, amplify it, and direct it.



__________________________________________________________________

YET ANOTHER WAY TO CREATE CHEMISTRY AND SEXUAL TENSION



I'm going to share a FANTASTIC technique with you right now, so turn on your thinking cap, and remember this one.

This is a great way to let a woman know that you understand Sexual Tension and Chemistry, while at the same time CREATING THEM.



Let's use a real-world situation.

Maybe you had responded to a few online personals, or message a few girls from their profiles, and some women have written you back...

And lets say that one of the women said "tell me more about yourself", etc.



Let's further say that in her online personal profile she mentioned that she loved cats...



You could do the typical guy thing, and drone on about yourself and leave nothing to the imagination, and not stimulate her emotions at all (remembering getting her emotions going can create instant ATTRACTION)



BORING!!

 

OR... you could get creative



You might write her back, and say:



"Here's a litte more about me... I'm sitting on my favorite chair, reading a magazine. You walk into the room, and the air shifts... you slowly and carefully



walk up to where I'm sitting, and rub up against my leg... I look down at you, and you look back at me... "Meow", you say softly... I reach down, and gently stroke



you... and then you go running away... like a typical kitty cat... making me chase after you so I can come pet you some more."







If you are acting like a MAN, being Cocky & Funny, communicating that you're in control of yourself and the situation, etc., something like this can be MAGICAL.







A story like this one communicates sooooo many things at once... things that would take you literally weeks of "regular" communication to convey to her.



A little story like this one, at just the right time can create so much Sexual Tension, and spark the Chemistry so fast that you'll often INSTANTLY take



things to a different level with a woman.







Now, there's a very important factor that you MUST understand...



You CANNOT do this, create a little story like this, and try to use this way of talking to a woman if you're acting like a WUSSY.







This can only be used in the context of you having communicated that you're a MAN... and one that understands ATTRACTION, at that.



If you try to do this kind of thing before you've communicated that you're a masculine, well put together and in control guy, you're only going to make a woman RUN away.







So there ya go, now you should understand a little bit more about Chemistry and Sexual Tension... and have had some of these awesome concepts explained to you...

 

i didnt read the whole think but controlling the amount of attention you give someone to make them 'love' you more is actually classified as emotional abuse

 

i didnt write it, but i've seen his methods in action and they work amazingly well

 

I've never done any of the big mistakes WooHoo!

 

not funny... and if the server heard you or you actually attempted it, they'd be a complete bitch. Sorry, I've worked in service for too long and stuff like that would really bother me in a date... respect the service/food people, we make no monies and our jobs are rarely delightful.

and that one verges on creepy. I mean, really, ew.





Beyond that, it was pretty decent. For those of you who didn't read it, the gist is Treat a woman like you like them as a person and a friend, don't act like you're trying to crawl into their pants the first time you meet 'em.

It also says to play head games, pretty much on the basis that girls play head games. Some do, some don't. Some of that shit would be infuriating for me, since I avoid head games like the plague. but for the "beautiful" girls who do pull that shit... eh.

 

this is supposed to be for attracting attractive women who know they are attractive... these ideas do not work very well when it comes to attracting pretty women with low self esteem, or just in general women with low self esteem... than it is far more easier.. but this is kind of a look into what might be going on in a girls head... it does have its flaws though.

 

Aha Mui it seems that you have discovered www.doubleyourdating.com

David DeAngelo is a genius when it comes to women! His advice and e-books have made a very positve impact on my dating life.

I highly recomend ordering the Attraction isn't a Choice e-book as well as the Cockey Comedy DVD series. I've tried out his advice and it works.

Also check out Doc Love's articles on www.askmen.com

 

what a fucking load of garbage. I hate fucking head games, what is the point of making someone fall for a bunch of lies? You think being fake will help you get girls? Oh please. Having a decent relationship is about being REAL not about manipulation and pretending to be someone you are not. If someone doesn't like you for being you then they really aren't worth hanging out for.

 

Exactly. Would you people rather be liked for who you are? Things like that just don't make any sense, I guess unless you're just going for a fuck, but what's the point of that?

 

I read the entire thing.

 

oh lordy

 

well, one demands your email and the other has tits hanging out of the top of it (no nips though)

definately going to lead to picking up chicks.



if ya'll reallly need a site, try www.clitical.com chock full of advice, including some stuff on dating (I believe it's this month focus)

 

I got as far as how to pick up hot...

Face it, chicks don't like guys who get dating advice from the web.

Also, it helps to introduce yourself as me...

At least it works for yours truly.

 

I read it. While being a calculating, devious asshole is really not my style, I must say that these points make logical sense. I've known women. I've dated women. I must say, that while most of them will deny 90% of what was said in the post, they act by it subconciously. All women say that they don't like assholes, but the problem is that they won't see this behaviour as "asshole" when they see it outside of the context of this article. What they call an "asshole" or "jerk" is a person who attempts these things, and makes it too obvious, making a fool out of himself. But a guy who is good at this, either naturally or by practice, will make it seem completly different. They will actually think this is cute. They will think it's witty. They will think it's romantic, for fuck's sake.

I'm not saying this to insult women in any way. When it comes to relationships, men and women act a lot more on impulses than they'd like to believe. I'll say this right now, men are far simpler than women to understand. You don't even have to go to all that depth to manipulate them.

But that said, I will never attempt any of what was written here. Yes, it would work. Yes, when combined with my good looks it may very well end up with me getting the hottest girl in town, but it's not honest.

Love is not a fucking game.

 

I love it when guys think that they are experts about women and know more than the women themselves. I agree with some of what was said, but I disagree with other things. You just cannot generalize like that and that is just the way that it is.

 

And I agree with the person above (about some things, since I do NOT think we all want assholes). But playing games and learning tricks to get with people is not something I want anyone to do. I just want someone to be who they are and you can believe that or not.

 

It asks for your email so you can subscribe to the FREE newsletter. www.askmen.com does have an advertisement that has "tits hanging out". If you had bothered to actually read some of the articles on askmen.com and not summarily dismissed it,you would find out that its a website dedicated to helping guys become more rounded individuals. They have articles on finance,health,sex, fashion,fitness, etc.. I think I should know since I've been reading this website for close to five years. As for doubleyour dating, I've been applying some of Mr. DeAngelo's advice and it has worked wonders. Its not about head games its about improving yourself as a person and showing women that you are a worthwhile guy. Alot of the advice on double your dating seems illogical but then again guys you should know that attraction isn't logical.



C'mon ladies do you want a wussy guy that kisses your butt,lets you walk all over him and tries to buy your affection?

btw ihmurria whats that on the poster ad on hipforums.com? Oh yes Its a pair of breasts!!! or as you say "tits hanging out"

Just reading some of the posts on the Love and Sex forums shows how clueless some folks are when it comes to love.

 

Askmen is a really good website, its pretty fun. I get very bored when reading dating advice though.

Whatever happened to just annoying the hell out of a lot of girls 'til you find that special one to annoy?