Understanding Women & Dating

you don't need it, you've got it. I've never met you and can pretty much tell you that you would peak my interest


I think what the little "whatever" leaves out is that women are attracted to guys that do that stuff naturally. if you have to take a class to learn it....at the end of the day , your inner self will kill it.

But yeah, it was kinda on point for the generalization that it was. When I read the part about teasing . Damn, I can't remember that last time a guy paused right at my lips and then kissed me. That shit rocks

 

attraction, or love?

as miss fontella points out, the teasing part is right on. I suspect that women are evolving a little though. Yes, when a guy treats me badly, or even indifferently, I get that gut feeling of sexual attraction. But it is accompanied with something else. An uneasiness. I can tell when I'm being manipulated. And I hate it. Then there was my last boyfriend, who does play head games now and then. When he does, I get freaked out and depressed. And when he doesn't and we're doing something together like cooking or reading or whatever, and we aren't doing anything automatically and he's being nice (not too nice, mind you, but actually nice ), I get waaaay wetter and hotter than I do any other time. Maybe what I'm talking about is love as opposed to attraction?
I get more turned on and more likely to have sex if a guy tells me that he's sexually attracted to me, and exactly what he wants to do with me, than if he is an asshole. I go crazy when a man doesn't lie to me, is completely honest, holds back (but is honest about holding back, and at the same time is good at it). I like to be really, honestly and truly on the same page as him. I can read it if I'm not. Like that guy said, we're pretty damn good at reading men. I'm 20X. And I like to feel safe. That's my formula :&
that make sense to anyone? can anyone relate?

 

Wow, thanks Miss F, I'm flattered. I've always wanted to meet a girlwho apprciates me for the cynical jerk I am.

You're very beautiful, and you've got an awesome sense of humor, You're great to have around the forums.

I was sorta joking about the thing though, a little good advice never hurts, but its probably not going to transform you're dating life either,

Like I said, I didn't read the thing, but it probably says something about acting confident, but I don't think confident is something you can really act...

If you're not confident and you try acting confident, you might just come across as a jerk.

 

I just don't like handing out my email to every site I wander across, it makes me grumpy and inevitably leads to spamtacular junk

Sorry, I guess I just suck at reading with breasts plastered about. Maybe not plastered, but it's still too distracting for me to want to deal with.

eh... most of the stuff posted under this thread seemed like head games to me. I don't like headgames, they're just too complicated to deal with. Ditto on passive aggressiveness. Yes, some of it works on some people. I guess I'm just not one of the "beautiful women who knows she's beautiful" that this article was apparently aimed at *shrug*

eh? I don't know what ad you're referring to... I've only ever seen ad's in the movie forums on here that I recall, and those were amazon ads. Maybe my browser doesn't let 'em through, I dunno.

agreed.



Anywho, my intent of the post you'd responded to wasnt' to say that you're articles were the most goddawful things I'd ever seen. Just that hte opening screens weren't particularly inviting and hey, here's another site that I like to peruse and read their articles, talk on their discussion board.

 

I don't see it that way.

I'm not a big fan of "playing games" -- in fact, I wish that the world worked along the lines of being able to just be straightforward and honest and simply say, "Hi, I am attracted to you, and I want to date you, spend time with you, get to know you, and hopefully find that I can love you and you can love me forever and ever."

It simply doesn't work that way. We have to "play games" even if just a little bit. It's not necessarily meant in a way that is manipulative, even though the "essay" seems to imply that.

The fact is, that these things happen to some degree or other even with people who have never read this kind of advice essay, and are not intentionally trying to play games or manipulate.

Some of those things are things that I figured out on my own -- particularly about pouring your heart out to a woman and making yourself an open book. It screws you.

-Jeffrey

 

Oh puhlease. Get a fuckin' room, you two!

And anyway, it's pretty clear that under all the bitter hatred, MissFontella is actually hot for me.

It makes sense: I've proven to be the only guy on this whole fuckin' forum who has the BALLS to tell her to FUCK OFF.

-Jeffrey

 

I don't think it necessary to tease and play games to the extent of the original postings, but much of what else was said does make sense from my experience. Nice guys do finish last, girls do like a real man, a good sense of humour will take men a long way, not appearing desparate in the early part of the relationship.

It does make sense. Without realising it, the more I became attuned to women, the more I was doing the things that were said in the posting. Not surprisingly, they worked.

Overall, I don't think in necessary to tease and flirt as much as outlined, but masculine men who know what women want and know the way women can read body language so well do have more success.

 

The Allposters.com ad banner is flashing right in front of me as I type. Part of the ad shows a pair of breasts between a pic of John Belushi and the guy holding the beer mug.


Womens magazines and the like are chock full of strategies to attract and keep a man. For some strange reason when guys employ a few strategies of our own in order to attract and keep a woman its labeled as playing head games or manipulation. Thats called a double standard in my book.

We all play games and manipulate people without even realizing it. Many guys attempt to buy female affection with fancy dinners,flowers,gifts etc and kiss up to women and let women control them and walk all over them. Women subconsciously recognize these actions as manipulative.

Women are attracted to certain traits and characteristics. Unfortunately many jerks posses these traits and characteristics and therefore many women are attracted to jerks. Motley Crue drummer Tommy Lee is a good example of this. What David DeAngelo does is teach you to develop and project these certain traits and characteristics while remaining a decent guy and not being a jerk.

You have to have attraction in order for love to develop. Maintaining attraction is one of the many keys to maintaining love.

I thought I knew it all when I was in my late teens. Now I'm approaching 30(gasp) and realize that although I have learned a lot about love I still have much to learn.

 

I don't have a banner. yay mozilla


Anywho, yes, women play headgames too. I never said there weren't women out there who don't. To me, it's waaaay to much work to deal with creating head games, let alone trying to figure out someone else's headgames.

Rah for dating advice. But because every person is different, the same advice doesn't work for everyone. So those of you who are truly interested in dating advice and such, visit more than a couple sites.... the more well-rounded info you get on anything, the better you can implement that knowledge effectively.

 

So the only woman you want to meet is the dumb kind that fall for stupid ass head games and lines

 

you just described 98% of women... if you think you would NOT fall for these methods, or think that you would be able to tell the person wasnt sincere, think again.
The dude isnt telling you to play head games, he's telling you what women look for in men they want to have "relationships" with... sure its a generalization, but its a generalization which holds great truth to it... there are always exceptions, but if you are looking to attract a woman, his methods are usually best.

Its funny, because in other forums (myspace, deviantart)you dont get usually as much back talk for posting this (in fact a lot of the women admit that these things work wonders)... must be because this is a "hippy" forum, pft.