Need ways to gain confidence in bed

I'm actually doing a research project and need women to tell me how they gain confidence in bed - how can you not feel insecure about your body? Does anyone have tricks for taking control, and not feeling insecure about pleasing your guy? Anybody who has gotten over a hangup that their breasts are too small or they have hair in the wrong places or ANYTHING, please write me and tell me how you did it. I would love to hear any advice, tips, or suggestions you have. Thanks.

 

When I started out with men, they were always in control. They were the ones doing the work. It made me feel like I wasnt doing anything. So nowadays, I take control. I will iniate and take his clothes off or grab him. Most of the time guys like it. It makes me feel better about performing.

 

yeah jkearns i've learned that to. I would be scared and almost wouldnt take my clothes off lol and then one day I just said 'fuck it' and took over and it when your in control guys have better sex .

 

The bedroom is meant to be a sanctuary. You slumber there, you rest and revive yourself there and you physically love your partner there (and hopefully in other places, too ). Therefore, comfort and confidence are key necessities. (Disclaimer: I would say that learning to accept your body is an necessity before expecting anyone else to.)

To start, atmosphere is essential. You cannot create passion in a nasty enviroment. (Well, you can.... But I wouldn't recommend it.) Make sure that mess and distractions are put away. It's hard to work on pleasure when you're focusing on that pile of dirty laundry or hearing the phone ring. Light some candles, burn some incense, dim the lights and play some soft, heavy-bass music. This way, you've created a play-area that's relaxing, comfortable and sensual. You'll feel better.

Next, work on making yourself feel sexy. Read a dirty story, have a bath, put on some loose lingerie, lather on cream, spritz perfume, touch yourself... etc. Get into the right sexy mindset. If you feel sexy, you'll act sexy. As for minor body imperfections; if the lights are dim and you wear a little something sexy, you'll feel less self-conscious. Don't forget, your partner probably doesn't even notice that stray chest hair or funk mole, so just put it out of your mind. Think of yourself as as exual dynamo- that your lover is lucky to have you.

When it comes to the action, nothing is sexier or displays more confidence than intiating the act. Take control, be rough (if you both enjoy it), tell your partner what you want, talk dirty. Let loose and have fun. That's the key- enjoy yourself or else both of you lose out.