Ralationships = perfection mongers?

I was sitting in my Liberal Arts class thinking about all the people around me in relationships. And it dawned on me... what the hell! It seems to me that a strong majority of the peope in relationships seem to like secretly picking apart eachother and bitching an AWESOME amount! I admit, there are some that escape this stereotype, like couple B out of my friends, but then there's couple A, who are constantly bitching to me about one another in secret, and it's about the stupidest, most pathetic things too! It seems to me that people who date right off the bat have the worst relationships, and those who have known eachother before hand have had time to accept any quirks the other may have. So is it that being friends first is the better decision? Or is it just that everyone around here has a serious perfection problem? If you're going to leap into a relationship without knowing the person, shouldn't you be prepared to take the ramifications of their bad habits and annoying quirks?

What do you all think?

 

Friends are the better way to go, then build from that foundation and know if your 'escalated' relationship fails, you have that solid friendship to fall back on.

 

Yeah, I dated someone like that. We were friends all semester, pretty much dating but not official. She broke up with me after the first mistake I made. She pretty much admitted that she didn't think their should be any bumps (problems) in the road. So she openly admitted she though relationships, if they were ment to be, should be perfect. I was such a sweatheart to her. I honestly thought she was just as beautiful at the gym as she was dressed up. I would go anywhere with her if she asked, cause I enjoyed being with her. I would watch her sleep at night, she was so adorable. I would surprise her with thoughtful gifts randomly. but I yelled at her for laughing at a kid holding a knife to both of us because I didn't know him. He held it to my throat! I was worried! Than he stood back and was still flashing it!

sorry hun, but nothing is perfect. have fun looking for perfection.

if you want the full story, I'll search for the thread, its interesting and left me heartbroken that I didn't get a second chance cos things were amazing besides that. sometimes it doesn't take long to have strong feelings for someone, in this case, just a semester.

 

Exactly. because the ONLY reason anyone ever gets together with anyone is because of their hormones. That's why soul mates don't exist. (see soul mates thread) People are far too self-absorbed in this world to care about another person. People that can love and care about someone else are extremely, impossibly rare. (like me for example)

 

your statement reminds me of the goth kids on southpark. although those are only caricatures, there really are people who feel like that. lighten up! emo is sooooo last year!