all my friends are set on having children, and they'd all make such wonderful mamas but I've never wanted kids. I tell people this (especially men I date surprisingly) and it freaks them out, according to most people this is something I am supposed to do and me having no interest in it isn't right. I feel a little alienated sometimes. It isn't that I don't like children, I do, I like other people's alot but I've just never felt the need to have my own, and I'm 99% sure I never will unless my partner was desperate for kids. I also worry about my parents, my sister is 30 and has no intention of marriage and children either, I know they would love to be grandparents and I feel like they feel a little let down by our views on families. If your children never had their own children would you be disappointed? I just wondered what you mamas and papas views was on this.
Some people would rather not give up their lifestyle for children, and that's fine. My uncle never had children but he spoiled us and treated us like his own children, as well as having godchildren, instead. The same goes for my cousin- she doesn't want to have kids but her sister's children are always around. I must say that I would probably be a little upset if my children didn't want children of their own, but I wouldn't push anything on them like that. I would be more upset if my children had their own children before they got married and graduated from college. I plan on having 4 or 5 kids so there's not much of a chance that at least one of them won't have children of their own. However, if they didn't have kids then I'd just get a ton of puppies and kittens, because I think really the reason most people want grandkids is to keep them young. Your parents should be understanding of you and your sister's views on not having children. Sure, it's expected that they might be a bit disappointed, but it will pass. You can't have children just to make someone else happy.
never have kids for somone else. I joke that I was really cut out to be a spoiling aunt ( I have a 13 y-o son) and that my kid gets some strange parenting. He thinks I'm liberal, and so far rides along when I lay down the law. Personally, this blue ball is at beyond critical mass and not everyone needs to replace themselves.
Don't ever try to be someone that you are not. If you don't want to have kids, great! You'll have an awesome life. Don't let anyone pressure you to change your mind. If you let that happen, you could end up resenting that person and the child.
I've never wanted kids either.....and I don't at this point think that that's going to change. Occasionally I get a feeling like it might be nice to be a mother some day but it quickly passes Only have kids if YOU want them. Dont do it for your parents and don't do it for your partner. Of course when you meet the right guy (or girl) the feeling might change and you might decide you want kids but I don't think you should go into a relationship with the idea that if your partner wants children then you'll have to give him some. There are lots of men out there who are also unsure about kids or just don't want them. My aunt was indifferent and her husband didn't want kids at all. They've never had children and have had an awesome time together traveling and doing things that they wouldn't have been able to do as much with kids around. If I did have kids then I wouldn't be disapointed at all if they decided not to have children. I would want them to do whatever made them the happiest....I'm sure that's really what your mother wants for you too.
What everyone has said is true. Don't have kids unless you want them more than anything else in the world. And never have them for someone else, whether that be a parent or a spouse. If you don't want kids, let others have them.
