I need some advice on how to handle a certain situation. I have a boyfriend who I have been going out with for a month and I am also bisexual. About a week or two ago a girl in my class broke up with her boyfriend. Since then she has been hanging out with me and my boyfriend. She has also been flirting with me although it hasn't been to serious. Last night I found out from my boyfriend that she had been visiting him and that she told him how wonderful he was for going out with me even though society didn't accept my kind. She also told him that she was also bi and hoped that me and her could become friends.I nearly went through the roof when I found out she has visited him and she thinks him going out with me is charity on his part. This morning I confronted her about what had been going on with these visits to my boyfriend's house. She said it was nothing and that she only considered my boyfriend a friend and that she was sorry about the comments she made about "going out with my kind". I then asked her about her being bi and she said she was and has always been bi. It is obvious that she is after my boyfriend and she thinks by flirting with me will turn him on. I also know that she lied about being a bisexual since she has never showed any interest in girls at all. She is one of these girls that is boy crazy and has to have a boyfriiend. My question is how do I handle this?
That's easy: She says that she's bi, so challenge her to prove it. If she doesn't accept your challenge, then you'll know for sure that she was lying and is trying to drive a wedge between you and your boyfriend -- and, by doing so, prove herself beyond doubt to be homophobic. -- Skeeter
How is she going to "prove it"? Make out with soccergirl? Fuck her? That won't prove one's sexuality. Plenty of straight girls have made out with other girls. Some do it just for the attention. Doesn't say anything about their sexual orientation. soccergirl- I suggest you talk to your boyfriend about what you're thinking and find out what his thoughts are on the whole situation. Make sure your current relationship is stable. If she's after your bf, then the only way she can succeed is if he's into her as well. Focus first on him. THEN the both of you can try to think about how to handle her actions and intentions.
I think the best idea is to let your boyfriend know that you're concerned about it, but not get too paranoid. If you turn into a hellbitch over it, you could end up pushing him away and looking paranoid for no reason. As far as the girl is concerned, how about a good ol' fashioned bitchslap? No, seriously though, don't waste your time talking to her if you don't feel she has anything to give friendship wise.
i think you're over reacting here. and you can't judge someones sexuality by the way they act in public.
Last night me and my boyfriend had a talk and he agreed that she was using me to get to him. He also made it clear that he is not interested in her. I thought that ended that but it didn't. Last night she was hanging out with us and she was flirting with me. Because of all of this I have a plan. There is another girl at school who is bisexual and a couple of girls at the local college who are also bi. I am going to arrange a meeting and tell her that I know of a group of bisexual girls who meet and ask her if she would like to join us. If she agrees we will have the meeting and play "spin the bottle" and see how she reacts. I don't know if it will solve anything but she is starting too really annoy me and I want to teach her a lesson.
well, that can be fun and all, but she might not have a problem with kissing other girls. Then all you have is a big girly make out session. Which isn't necessarily a bad thing, but not what your intentions are. BTW, what does your bf think about your "spin the bottle" idea?
Maybe it will or maybe it won't but, talking hasn't solved anything either. As for what my boyfriend thinks, well when I told him about it he just rolled his eyes.
