Isn't it strange how freely love is used?

I keep on reading all these posts and they constently refer to "love". WHat i truly do not understand is how can you say you love someone if you just met them. It's impossible because love is deeper then an instant connection. It something cultured from connections and personallities. Infused with analysing the unique stain in everyone . I hate that title "love actully" though it is an okay movie it should be called "lust actully" It is like people are spitting down on such a pure and powerful word, and using it so lossely just dilutes the meaning

 

I dunno. there are many forms of love. unfortunately, our English language throws them all together into one word, so it's difficult to know what one means when they utter the word.

I have love for many people in these forums. For some, that love goes a bit deeper, whether it be someone I consider a good friend, or a little sister, or something more. And the love I have for each of these people is different from each other. I have no problem saying that I love someone when I haven't known them too long or if I've been in contact with them online for a while, but haven't met in person yet. So, when you say you don't understand how one can say that, which form of love are you referring to?

BTW, what does this have to do with the gay forum?

 

i guess it might go in relationship forum since it more of an univeral word for everyone. But this is about relationship too just if their not normal, so its as important here i guess then anywhere eles. But in all reality i don't look around that much so i just placed it here.

It is true how lacking english is the only words i could think of about feeling close to someon were:
Love
Like
dote
Idolize
fondess
conectivety
attraction

YOu can see this list is quite weak but it is just off the top of my head.

 

What I actually regret is the fact love has come to signify romantic love and become a Hollywood marketing trade.

A guy has no right to tell another guy "I love you" without being asked "err what do you mean love? like romantically? like you would love a girl? are you gay?" (hmm ok)

Sorry but love does take many forms, and you can love someone without wanting to sleep with them, like a friend, a teacher, parent etc.

But in this case I agree that if you just met someone it's more appropriate to talk about a "crush", or "falling in love", or "infatuation"..but whatever

 

I am a strong supporter of love. You all have good points, but if you don't believe in love at first sight, you're sad and lonely. As the townies in "The Hairy Bird" say, "Is that how you fall in love in your world? You're introduced? That's sad!" And it is.
I am more of a romantic than even I give myself credit for. My trouble is I'm mostly content to be nostalgic and not overcome my fear and come out to anyone.

I agree with jungee. The Greeks had four words for love, and different ones were used in the Bible for loving thy neighbour, thy family, thy LORD etc., etc.. English has "love". A serious deficiency in a language that includes a word for the fear a woman feels in her nightmares when she followed by a pack of phantom hounds down a long and lonely country lane. The word itself escapes me for now, but that is its definition.

As for the point of the post, whether it is possible, it is a mixture of Problems of Language and Emotion, the initial high of meeting someone you desire absolutely, that confuses us into thinking we are in Love. Despite being a romantic, I know Love is nothing more than chamicals in the brain.

 

i've fallen in "love" with many people and i've always ended up sad and alone. mostly because the people i fall in "love" with are too old, married, live too far away, dont exist, or i'll never meet them in my life time (either that, or they're dead.)


there's one guy, who i first liked (cutest guy i've ever seen in my whole entire universal life, and all that) and then had a crush on him which turned into total love and then increased into me being totally atached to him (which i still am)

i don't think i'll ever know what love really is.

 

Isn't that a contradiction ?

 

i hate the way it feels after you think you've loved someone, and then you start to understand that they could never feel the same way about you. it's just this empty feeling.

 

C.S. Lewis claims there are four types of love:
Affection,
Friendship,
Eros,
Charity.
Then there are 3 subgroups of each. It all gets so crazy. Read his book, the four loves. It comes from a Christian standpoint but he makes some excellent points.