Hi, I'm not Ladylocks but she's been kind enough to let me try this forum out before deciding if I want to give out my e-mail to the adm. later on. I'm a guy. All the guys I know cheat on their girlfriends and seems like they're having the time greatest times of their lives. Yet, it doesn't seem to be in my nature to cheat on my girlfriend. I do feel envy, emptiness etc. and I really wonder where they get the energy, time and motivation to keep banging new girls and ditching the old ones without giving it a thought. Yet at the same time it feels great to have one but fulfilling relationship based on true love. I always think about cheating but I always feel guilt will ruin everything. The idea of breaking up with a loved one is too painful an experience to make it worthwhile. I feel it's important to have one love, one girl for life. Yet it still feels like I'm missing out on something. Yet at the same time I can't find it in my nature to have such shallow relationships like these players. I feel happy and unhapppy. All I end up feeling is confused.
how about this... If you want to date others, break it off.. Nothing feels as horrible as being cheated on.. If you want that luxuary you shouldnt be commited..its not fair to you or your girlfriend..
hmm, trust me trust me truuuust me, your not missing out on anything. theyd probally like you ta think that, but your not, your not at all. all that comes from that is drama and moooore time until you can find true love (that you may already have), messing around with these girls (and i have friends, like you, who cheat and mess around with guys that have gfs) and they definatly arent worth the time. the guys that cheat are immature and nieve, the girls that cheat are immature and nieve. you do it once, even if its jus out of curiousity, you could definatly do it again..and again...and again...until you find yourself unable to have a real, drama-less relationship and youd wonder why get rid of the urge to, b/c if you dont you may hold on to it after your married with kids, and who wants that? its just the age old trick of (inwardly) miserable people making happy, mature people feel thier missing something...secret is, your not
Shroom's a genius, listen to her. Seriously though, dont' cheat on someone. That's awful and it would break their heart. If you need to have sex with other people, do them the courtesy of breaking it off first
you said it would be too painfull to break things off. Well, what about your girl's heart if she found out? It's not worth it to anyone.
why take advantage of a good thing? why mess things up when things are going good with your relatioship? i mean if your satisfied why screw that up? sure you may think you're missing out on something but if you're happy and things are going well right now, dont go and mess things up. dont become another cheating man.
How about breaking up with her so she can find someone better. If you cheat on her then she deserves alot better then you. And how about making better friends then bunch of cheating morons? Heck I think if your really seriously thinking about cheating on her (which sounds like your thinking about it alot) then she still deserves better then you. Sorry but that's how I see it. Honestly how would you feel if you found out she was really thinking cheating on you and was thinking about it alot?
Keep in mind that the girl that you are considering cheating on has made a commitment to you. Now take the time to reflect upon that commitment. She chose you out of all the men on this earth to be commited to. Whether it lasts or not she must think highly of you. Don't be an ass and hurt her. Life is short and often painful. You shouldn't do anything that you know would ever intentionally hurt her. That's one thing you can do to help make this world a better place. If you are having these thoughts then you should break up with her. Don't stay with her for a long time pondering over it. You're only waisting your time and hers.
well I agree with what pretty much everyone else has said... and I state that being promiscuous is really not that fun.... it leaves you feeling more empty and lonely than when you started. Cheat once and you WILL do it again...even if you feel awful about it... It sounds like you and your lady have been together for some time and you guys have been true to eachother...there is nothing more interesting or rare than finding someone that you truly care about and who cares about you. Banish these thoughts cos life with a beloved can be beautiful and painful enough without cheaters...
