Hey everyone, I really need some advice About a month ago my boyfriend and i broke up, we were together for 8 months and it ended really abruptly for both of us and i've found it quite hard getting over it. In this month we have both had exams and so i have completely avoided speaking to him, partly cos my mind has been on my work and partly cos i havent known what to say, but now that the exams are over and i've had a bit of time to sort it out in my head i was think i might talk to him again and tell him what i feel about how it ended. Is this a really bad idea? i'm thinking perhaps its too late and he'll think i'm obsessing over something thats clearly over, i do not want to get back with him I simply need to explain to him how i feel... i appreciate any thoughts one the problem though its not a very interesting one but i'm really confused Thanks Willow
tell him that tell him you want to talk, and explain stuff, but that you accept it's over and don't want to get back together. im sure if he's reasonable he'll want to chat :sunglasse and it wasn't boring at all, i think you don't really need advice, you just need some suport. it's clear you need to sort things out, and clean up the messy break. i wish you the best of luck
I think it would be better to forget the idea of getting together to talk since it sounds like it's clearly over.What do you hope to achieve ? It might lead to more pain for both of you if you try that.If you couldn't talk about things before,you probably still can't. ~peace
if your not going ahead with this person , best just say nothing and move ahead..there are pitfalls in trying to set things strait ...are you being honest that you need to move on ,,, the way things are is how they are they wont become any thing else ....you could get bogged down in a futile re relationshp 1 failure , several billion other possibilities choose one!
let it go... lovers come and go the river just rolls rolls rolls seriously, i really wanted to talk to my ex about how things ended and not get back with him... but if its in the past, leave it there and push on. its not worth it, put it in a journal to get it out, or write him a letter but dont send it, just burn it symbolically to let him pass by
