how do you deal with fighting with your sig. other?

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  1. hippiejuan

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    When I fight with my significant other, I refrain from smacking her on the face; I try my best to just punch her in the stomach - the bruises are less visible that way

     
  2. Heat

    Heat Smile, it's contagious! :) Lifetime Supporter

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    I do not tend to argue. If upset, I state what I feel and why and then wait for the response. I do not yell and to cry for me is when it is all over, not during. When it is solved then sometimes I have a cry as it rids the last of the negative for me. During would not be fair as tears are not fair to the other person.

    If the reaction or words from the other person is not something that I can agree on without more thinking I tend to walk away and think about what was said in response to an issue. It is not a matter of not solving it but taking the time to really understand also what he is trying to say and if my view is reasonable given his feelings as well. Usually with most things it comes down to a compromise as my partner and I are different people with differing views. Tends to rather balanced depending on the issues as there are times that I have compromised but there are also many where he has. We have not ever had a disagreement that has lasted more than a few hours as if left I feel problems fester and then are harder to solve.

    I also am a believer in saying I am sorry if I am or I have said or done something that is upsetting.

    Fortunately the larger than life issues we tend to agree on, so they have not been a problem....for example my kids, morals and lifestyles.
     

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