best way to turn a girl on?

eh, kinda a wierd question for me to ask, but, whats the best way for me to turn my gf on? shes 16 and seems like she doesnt get turned on easily at all, any suggestions?

 

I always start in deep. We are their making out hands all over each others body as she slowly massages my penis. While she is doing that I will rub her pants and slowly move my hands up her waist, up to her breasts and massage those for a while... I will bring my hands all the way up to her face and hold her face for a little while then slowly start moving my hands down her back. When my hands get pretty far (about midway) down her back I will pull her in tight to me. When she is up against me I will bring my hands the rest of the way down to her ass and and kind of hold her for a few, and then start my way back up. Once again about lower back range I will grab and pull upwards so that it pulls her skin up (gently of course, most my girls have loved this), bringing my hands around her body and back up to her breasts... Usually by this point in time we are laying down and I will rub her pants while kissing her. Just kinda bringing my hands up and down her body, caressing her at the same time. I will start to kiss her neck while rubbing her pants still and back to her and back and forth a few times.

When I am ready to go on further I kiss down her neck and over to the ear... The ear is always the killer (Thats about the time their about ready to strangle me, lol) I will be on top of her now at this point, as I undress her shirt, kissing her neck, kissing her breasts, then her lips, then back down again. I slowly make my way down her body gently kissing down her stomache as I go, making sure all of my body is rubbing against hers as I go. I will undress her pants for her and then...

1) If I am going to have sex with her, I will Slowly slide back up her body rubbing against her, my chest and her pelvis, my chest and her breasts, until I am back up top, kissing her all the way up. From their we know how it goes.

2) If I am going to eat her out, I will start about mid thigh and kiss her their, gently rubbing her vagina or clit depending on what they like. I slowly make my way up to the vagina (about 5 kisses length), kiss around the top of the vagina, and then go down the other thigh... from their I go back up and slowly start to lick.... and we know how that goes as well...

good luck (YES, I LOVE FORPLAY!)

The more hornier a girl is, the more intense orgasm she will have and cause chances for multiples

Gah I need a G/F lol.

 

Honestly... I'm not surprised. At that age... you really don't know what you want. So, my advice to you... is just experiment. If she doesn't respond or tell you what she likes... then it's pretty mush a lost cause. A girl needs to tell you what she likes. You can't just go asking people how to turn her on, because all girls are different. Your best bet is asking her.

 

Agreed with silent... Some girls absolutely hate forplay and just wanna fuck... that is no fun... but if thats what they want i guess

 

Find the clitoris. That's about the only universal standard I can give you.

 

lord drewbee, you're turning me on. you do have quite a method. Anyway, yeah, what he said. All girls are different, so you really have to find what she likes. I didn't have an orgasm with a guy until I was 17 I think, and I got a boyfriend that somehow found all the right spots. I didn't know what I wanted until then, so maybe you can be the lucky one to help her out. I would suggest eating her out personally. Good luck!

 

drewbee- how do you not have a gf? you actually understand what turns a girl on... ive never been with a guy who gets that. and the ear thing- yes. both myself and every girl ive been with have basically called ears the second adn third clit.

DBCF - GO FOR HER EARS and the back of her neck.

 

My suggestion: put your hand on her theigh and rub her neck with your other hand. After a while, start kissing, making out, whatever, and then kiss her cheecks and move up to her ear and blow in it or nibble at the edges and then move down to her neck and find a tender spot. Then go back and start kissing again and start to move your hand on her theigh and keep rubbing her neck; then slowly work your way up to her breast and gently caress.

After a while, if she doesn't do anything to you, move your hand down to her crotch and begin rubbing; or slide your hand gingerly up her shirt and play with her nipples a bit. Now, slide your hand down her pants and feel along her vulva until you reach the area closest to the naval; her clit should be there. Start to massage it and gradually increase the intensity and frequency of the strokes and try to loosen her pants if she'll let you. If you can't, just try to get as far down as you can and reach inside of her vagina and press up and move your hand back and forth; as far as you can. You should begin to feel a small bulge after a while (this is her G-spot), and she should really enjoy that.

At this point, if she still isn't doing anything for you, get her to almost orgasm and stop, and then go again a little later; if she still doesn't get the hint, place her hand on your member and mention that you would enjoy some pleasure too. If all goes well, she'll submit, but don't stop pleasuring her.

I know this is a lengthy way to get around to it, but it is a sure fire way to, at the very least, get a handjob. You could just skip all that and go right down her pants, but I don't know what she's like. I always did this with my girl and I still never got a real handjob; but she'd been hurt in the past so I considered that and gave her time. She ended up breaking up with me because I was smoking bud occasionally; which made me realize that she was a selfish bitch, oh well. Anyway, give it a try.

 

Like others said, every girl is different..
Just explore and caress her body, give a little rub here, a little lick there, a pinch here..just lay back and let that good ol' horney feeling take your body over..
All the advice above it good..

 

Yea, I know what you mean, I had a girl come on to me two minutes after I began to caress her back, she just wanted me to put it in, kinda grossed me out the way she was acting, "she.. like.. animal" I told her I could give her a sensual massage instead of sex, she refused, so I though she was rancid and I told her to get off me!

 

lol..rancid dont think that was a little mean..

I agree foreplay is a huge part, i find that I cant have sex unless I have had foreplay...

 

hahaha thats awesome

 

Here's a few tips from an old post of mine elsewhere ! Get nice and comfortable.

With her lying on her back and me to the right of her so I can lean above her from the right (I'm right handed, switch to the other side if u're left handed). I'll describe what I do in this position first and then cover the other things u can do with the second.

Stroke all over her body to start of with. A sensual touch varies from woman to woman. For one it might be a light feathery touch with the nails slowly dragged up and down her body. For another it might be a much firmer touch with the pads of your fingers. Experimentation is the key.. that and picking up on how she responds. Does she wriggle like it's ticklish? Can you feel goosebumps? Try a different touch. Can you see her starting to flush/breathe harder? Always a good sign. Again vary your touch and find one that your gf likes. Touch and pressure is everything AND bear in mind what may work fine in early arousal is hardly adequate later on (generally a much firmer/some would say harder touch is required as a lady gets more turned on though some just prefer the same light touch throughout). Move in a downwards direction. Slide your fingers up the inner side of her thighs (first one and then the other) towards her crotch but avoiding direct contact with clit/labia/vagina at this stage. Once you reach the crotch with your fingers, slide around the labia towards her pubic bone. Repeat several times. Don't be afraid to go back to a more generalised caress of her entire body. Tease her .

Once you're ready for more, don't just dive straight in with your fingers into her vagina. Again use a more general touch.. say the flat of your palm and rub it firmly against the genital area you've been carefully avoiding before now. If she's dripping wet at this stage, u'll feel it and know it and can consider mixing some finger penetration in though not too much.. u're still wanting to get her as turned on as possible (even frustrated that u're teasing her so much!)

Another point to note is almost everyone knows that the clit is the female equivalent of the penis. But not many know that the labia majora is the female equivalent of the scrotum. Play with the labia majora. Most guys like their scrotum been played with.. so too do women enjoy caresses to their labia majora. I use two fingers (palm facing vagina - fingers curved like a pianists) and run it in between the groove of the labia majora and labia minora. Start from the bottom of the vaginal opening and run fingers up along the mentioned groove and it will lead you straight on to the clit. Again avoid it the first few times.. and then just as she's least expecting it have your fingers run up around the grooves till they meet at the clit. (I always find this a gasp inducing moment if u've spent long enough making them really want you to touch that spot). Also if you've done this right they'll be dripping wet which gives u all the lubrication u need to insert a finger or four (depending on what's comfortable for them of course!)

There are several clitoral caresses that you can use and I vary them but generally I use a light touch initially especially if it's still hidden beneath it's hood and not very erect. Usually this is with two fingers over the hood and I simply rub from side to side/or just rub down one side/or in an O/even tapping gently over it.. start slow and move to very fast (as she gets more excited). How fast is fast enough? Simple.. nothing is quite ever fast enough . But the key again is variation not only to tease her but to give your fingers a rest. When I need a break I often move on to something else (generally finger stimulation/penetration at this stage). As the clitoris protrudes more some (becomes more erect) some ladies will tolerate a more direct touch.. other ladies will find it much to sensitive and will still prefer that u rub the clit indirectly through it's hood. If she's pushing towards you fingers go harder. If she's pushing into the bed then go lighter. If she tolerates a more direct touch I often use my index and ring fingers to spread the labia majora and use the middle finger to rub directly on the clit.

Fingering the vagina.. again there are several techniques that I use and vary. The first time u insert a finger always make sure she's wet. If she's not then tease her more first. I tend to start with one finger (my middle) and in keeping with my teasing theme I insert that slowly and just within the introitus (opening of the vagina) at first. If that's wet I "tickle" the opening just letting the tip of my finger in each time my finger strokes and then all of a sudden I'll just slide my finger in as deep as I can (hence make sure she's dripping wet). This is another gasp inducing moment if done right.

There are several things you can do with your fingers. Just a slow in out motion with one or more fingers (simulating intercourse). Bear in mind that the introitus has the most nerve endings (especially stretch receptors) compared to the inside of the vagina which has much fewer nerve endings. That's why a lot of ladies like thickness over length. Use that when u finger her.. as u move your fingers from inside to out, spread them in a v shape so that they stretch the introitus. Not too much though, u can over do this one. Or use the reverse.. ie 3/4 fingers if you can get them to slide easily in. How many fingers u can get in depends on the girl. The younger they are the more toned the muscles generally are and the fewer fingers u will be able to get in. Use as many as she finds pleasurable. Bear in mind some ladies actually find a degree of discomfort pleasureable too.

Other things to do with your fingers? Well there's the running your fingertips along the anterior wall of the vagina (palm against the labia - hook fingers) that's been described in another post to find the G-Spot. (This always feels like a bump to me and most gals will know when u hit it). U can also draw little O's inside with the tip of your fingers (ala Sybian/Rabbit vibrators that have a revolving end).

Play find the cervix (neck of the womb - link to pic for those who don't know what it looks like.. it's in the upper diagram)

http://health.allrefer.com/health/c...-anatomy-1.html

The cervix doesn't actually have a lot of nerve endings BUT some ladies definitely find it makes a difference when it's touched/hit during intercourse (hence why some ladies like a really long one). There are several things u can do.. push hard/deep against it (simulating deep penetration), run your fingers around the circumference (draw O's around it).

One other thing I do to have my palm flat against the labia/clit and to curve my fingers so that's it's lying against the front (anterior) wall of the vagina (like for G spot stimulation). Then I simulate intercourse but as the fingers are withdrawn they rub along whe whole front wall of the vagina and as they come out the palm/lower end of the fingers is putting pressure against the labia/clitoris and the reverse is true. As you insert your fingers back in along the front wall u're also putting pressure over the clitoral area with your palm and sliding your fingers internally over the G spot. (Really a best of both worlds if done right - just can't be done as fast as some of the other techniques and less likely to induce an orgasm).

When u're ready to make her come, I'd suggest one of two things. Direct clitoral stimulation using a firm touch as described above or vaginal stimulation using a thrusting in out motion or both. With the vaginal a very deep fast thrusting motion usually with two/three fingers is most effective and I mean fast. And once she come that way if my hand is tired (and believe me it's usually quite tired) I'll move on to direct clitoral stimulation. Generally speaking if they are aroused enough, it's quite easy to bring them off to multiple orgasms - the key really is the heightened state of sexual arousal. Keep going after they come and don't stop vary between the two types of stimulation. When do u stop? Well when they hit what physiologist would call an absolute refractory state . That's when the nerves no longer function as they would normally which translates in real life to your touch is ticklish and they are giggling as opposed to coming some more . You can stop then as there isn't any point to continuing not unless u want to tickle them of course.

How long do u do this? Well that depends. If the aim is to have sex then I'll stop after one/two orgasms and move on to penetrative sex. When the ladies are that aroused it's not difficult for them to have orgasms from sex as well which is always very nice for you too (the payoff!) especially when those muscles clamp down hard on you. If u're not looking to have penetrative sex (and often my gf and I have what we call "exclusive sessions" where we concentrate solely on one person's pleasure either mine or hers) then keep going till she can't take it any more.

 

I dont have a g/f because I am not one of the more attractive males around me... so the ladies always flock to them first and i am left standing alone lol j/j its not really that sad, i swear!!

I think alot of it is i am just kinda sad bein alone and when someone does come along i fuck it up because i just assume their going to fuck me over lol. It seems to be a habit of my x's lol. Oh wells...

 

~*hey ~ foreplay starts about 24 hours before you actually start making out!! maybe i'm just too friggin' old *haha* but the way you treat a girl is so bloody important to gettin' some ~ if you treat her with exactly what she wants at every exact moment you're with her i can guarantee you'll get all the some that you want!! unfourtunately this may take years if not a lifetime of study if you are not naturally gifted in such ways ~ here's my advice *PAY ATTENTION* ~ if you want any dirty information i'd be happy to dish in private ~ the best of luck sweetheart!*~

 

How to turn her on you ask?

Well let me tell you a secret, make her feel comfortable!
I had no intention of having sex with this particular female, lets call her Cindy,
anyway I made Cindy feel safe by telling her that we did not have to have sex if she did not want to at any time, and then asked her to choose a key safe word that would stop the session right away without any bad feelings on both parts. The second thing I did was I pulled it out, not my dick-tracy but my "kit" my small black case with massage oils, lube, dental dam , flavor condoms, and an assortment of pleasure condoms. This made her feel so safe and she told me that I was the 'safest' guy she ever met.

Anyway if you make your own kit you can then just let her choose what items she wants to use (this way she does not have to say what she is willing to do or into if she is shy), for example flavor condoms are for blow jobs, dental dams are for eating out, and you can play games with different pleasure condoms, such as "guess what condom I am using, regular, ribbed studded, or ribbed and studded" This is so much fun. When I pulled out a studded condom Cindy was so curious to know what it felt like she begged me to put it in just a few times, 3 to be exact!.

Anyway this play time is so much fun because you and her can talk about it instead of just doing it right away. And the touching before sex really makes her hot because she gets use to your touch her before you go at it.

Then again some girls love the 5 minute bang session,so forget the above^^



Oh and by the way after I got her all hot (she said oh damn I am soo wet), I told her I did not want to have sex again, she took her hand of my rod, I removed the studded condom from my hard pole, zipped it up and then left. why you ask? simple, I love to tease!
It has been one year to this day and she still brings it up when we talk about sex and "why" I did not do her then...

Got to love the safe word!

 

Oooooh I forgot to add, put the radio on a good station, min volume, It will give you something to talk about if there are any 'odd moments', and you can get some cheap blue led mood-lights to create a glow and shadows of your bodies if you are into it. Later...

 

whatttt??? are you kidding me, most guys would be like hell yeahlets fucking get it on!!!! wow ur pretty cool, i like ya

 

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