so, a long long time ago I met this guy, we started emailing and talking on the phone and got really close, and then all of the sudden he cut off contact with no reason. 3 months went by, I was horribly hurt, and then out of the blue he started emailing me again, said he was in love with me, and then told me he had a girlfriend, she had found out and on and on. This was the first I had heard about a girlfriend, I was shocked and we stopped contact entirely. So, almost two years go by, and he emails me agian, apologizes and I forgive him and we start talking again. Just recently we've been talking alot, emailing and stuff, and everything was nice, we were friends again and I was developing some feelings for him, but mostly just friendship. Then today, just now in fact, I checked my email and found one from him. He said he and his girlfriend, even though they're very different people have decided to try to make it work and he feels he needs to cut off contact with me and give her all his attention. I feel like such an idiot, I trusted him again, I was his friend, I liked him. I'm so stupid, and now I can't stop crying. I told him that's it, no more second chances, I'm done. In fact, I'm done with everything to do with love, it never works, it never will. Love and any extension thereof sucks. Sorry everyone, just needed to get that out
NAMASTE SISTAH Well i know first hand your not stupid.You went with your heart and there is nothing wrong with that.He sounds to up and down.Also if that is how we is you are better off with out all that in your life.Things like that in are lives makes us stronger.Try to look at the positive as hard as it may be but you are free of his game.Give your self some healing time and things will look up.And what i know of you sistah you are love so theres no need to give it up. Your Brother Ecoofarmer
thank you so so much brother, that means so much to me coming from you. And you're so right too! In fact, I feel fine now, if he doesn't feel he can be friends with me, then I want nothing to do with him, I mean, if you can't be friends with a person at the very basic level, then there's nothing to build on anyway. In fact, I honestly think that's where all the other relationships I've had went wrong, but that's another topic, lol anyway, I feel way better now, still hurt but I feel great. Thanks so much for your kind words :0) oh, and that picture is lovley :0)
Have you ever read "He's Just Not That Into You"? Because if he has a girlfriend, he's just not that into you. You can do SO much better, a thousand times better than someone who cuts off contact with you without giving you a reason at the time. That's just cruel
thanks sis, and I totaly agree. The part that hurt me wasn't the him not being into me, it was that he didn't feel he could be my friend if he has a girlfriend, which to me means he didn't value what we had before as a friendship, that's the part that hurts the most. I think that's mostly cause I've lost more than one guy friend before cause he got a girlfriend and then just cut me off, that hurts worse than any break up I've ever been through.
umm, I'm not totaly comfortable saying so on here, cause I don't know how he would feel, but maybe you should PM me roses
last spring i was talking to a guy on here untill his crazy exgirlfriend emailed me and said they were still together i felt kinda had
sucks right? I felt worse for his girlfriend the first time than I did for myself, I wish I had known so I could have stopped the way things were going, but then I realized it wasn't my fault, he was the jerk who decieved us both. lol, this whole thing has solidified a new "no falling for or dating guys online" rule for me, so yay!
You didn't say whether you ever met the guy face to face. I take Internet relationships with a HUGE grain of salt. In my opinion, it's a mistake to take such one-on-one relationships seriously if there's no chance that you and the other party will ever meet in person. For it's only through face-to-face, in-person contact that you can ever get to really know the other person. -- Skeeter
yeah, online can suck, but sometimes it's that or nothing... but don't worry about him, save the love for someone you can meet in person
