Does being fake make you as crazy as it does me?

In social situations I am one of three possibilities: confident, talkative me; quiet, shy me; or a fucking fake, lying piece of crap and I absolutely hate it. I don't get it. I try really hard, but sometimes I just can't get away from it. And it definitely gets worse with alcohol (not necessarily pot, because I'm too busy figuring out how to think and talk when I'm stoned, haha)

 

It's all a matter of perspective. I can blend in perfectly in any social situation. Is that fake? Well maybe, but I look at it as a game and it no longer seems fake.

 

I'm either talkative or quiet depending on hte situation or the people I'm with. I'm never act fake! I hate it when people do!

 

yeah, I hate it when people act fake, also, so when I do it, it pisses me off even more! I think I developed the habit from my mom and I'm so used to it that it's just so hard to shake.

 

I don't like being fake, I always keep it real

 

yeah, I don't like it, either. but sometimes I just fucking do it, even while I'm telling myself not to do it. aaarrrgg! it makes me so mad!

 

hey tam, maybe it's because people around you are being fake?

i am generaly open and honest, but if people are quiet and shy i often am too. yet if someone opens up to me, i open up to them

try and be yourself people will love ya for it

 

yeah, see I'm pretty much the opposite. when everyone is being loud is when I'm the quiet one. but if everyone around me is quiet, I like to talk a lot.

I'm just starting to get pretty good at being myself all the time, but I still fall back into that fake habit.

 

That's how i am, i can fit in in any crowd. Some people may interpret it as fake, but under certain circumstances, like at the bar for example, where i change my attitude.... i just believe that there are some people out there who don't need to know the real me. Like they aren't deserving...and to be honest, people at the bar usually don't want to get to know the real you anyways, they jsut wanna try to take you home.

 

are u really being fake? or are u learning to cope with various social situations? some people (a friend's wife for example) are very adept at fitting to various social situations.. but that's not saying that they are not themselves.. they just adapt to the people they are with and if the group is quiet they have a way of making it come alive. I envy such people .

the thing is u don't have to lie in any situation do u? u can always just have a polite conversation but stick to your points of views.

 

I don't have to lie, but sometimes I do anyway. I just make shit up that never really happened, or I exaggerate some things. It doesn't happen all the time, but when I feel really insecure. Which is a lot of the time, but most of the time I just deal with it. Other times, I make shit up. I don't know why.

I just wish that I could be open and honest and straightforward all the time. I think if everyone was like that it would take away a lot of the stress in this world. I try to be like that a lot, but it's really hard. For me, anyway.

 

just keep being open/honest and it'll get more easy with time.. as u grow older u realise that people like u for who u r and u'll also find people that u like for who they are and those will be your friends

 

thats exactly it, that's what i do...you just put it into better words

 

There are times when I put a front - usually that's when I don't people to know I feel shitty. But for the most part, I don't think I act fake.