How can I do it?

I want my navel to be pierced, but my parents........They are against it. They hate my idea. My mother say: "Navel is a link between mother and her child, you are not allowed to do it".
I tried to save money, but it's not so easy. I tried to find another salon, where prices are more democratic, but I couldn't find good salon. Salons, where prices are small, are bad salons.
How can I prove that piersced navel isn't bad? I've got pretty body, I'm not chubby. How can I prove it??????????????

 

I'd say the best thing to do is show your mother that you have your life together and the fact you want a piercing isn't a sign of you "heading down a wrong path," or are being led astray.

Get good grades, be responsible, be safe, and be respectful.

Peace

 

Thanks for your advice, Ahimsa!!!

 

how old are you?

I say wait untill your parents let you do it. its not worht the hastle. I got all my piercings with my parents permition except my lip (when i was 16) and my lip caused a lot of hastle thats for sure.

wouldnt you rather have your parents agreement and know you are going to somewhere hygenic and safe than just do it onthe spur and against their wish at some where unsafe?

 

Dear Fleassy!
Of course, your advice is more rational, but you don't know my parents!! I'm 14 years old, but I don't look so. I look like 15-16 years girl. I don't know is it good or is it bad.
And again about my parents. they will never agree. They are very stubborn. They don't let me to dye my hair, and about something pierced...They hate such ideas..
I will never get their agreement!!

 

my mom wont let me get my lip peirced...my dad said she prolly would if i just got my grades up and he said if i did he would talk her into it...so just be patiante...i cant get my first tattoo till im 16..the only reason im getting it so young with agreement is because my dad does the tattoos.

 

SO IS A PLACENTA. Did she save THAT in its original form, too?!

Your mom is being unreasonable. Your ears were the things you used the first time you ever heard her speak your name. Is she against you having them pierced?

She's being nonsensically ritualistic. It's not as though you would be getting rid of your navel!! It will still be there, to be a reminder of the link between mother and child. She needs to lighten up!

I do not recommend you sneaking out to get it done outside of having her permission. If you are under 18, it is true that your parents can tell you what to do. That's just the way it is. If it is so important to you to get your navel pierced, well, it will still be there to be pierced when you turn 18.

I suggest you analyze why you think you want it so bad. I don't think there is any pressing need for you to get it done, do you? Some of the reasons people have are aesthetics, boredom, peer pressure/fitting in... If you just think it will look nice, well, for whom? Are you less attractive now while you don't have it pierced? Are you not an individual until you have it pierced? Are you not unique even with an unpierced navel? Are you hoping that when people at school see it, they will admire it, and you, and you will be popular?

What is the big need to get this done, that it is worth displeasing your mom? Granted, her objection to it is SILLY and absurd, but my concerns run much more toward why you have no patience to wait to get this done when it is wholly your own decision.

What does being pretty and not chubby have to do with it?
First of all, that's kind of insulting to women who are chubby. They can surely still be pretty.
Second of all, who said a pierced navel is "bad"?

-Jeffrey

 

if you -really- want it, you can wait until you're 18. Make sure you get yourself educated first, on the procedure, cleaning, healing time and good places to go as well as the cost involved. If you're going to hair salons (sorry if you mean something else by 'salon'), I wouldnt' go - go to a piercing place instead. They specialize in it and are probably much cleaner. Go to a place with a good reputation, with everything sealed and super clean.

Let your mom know how much you've researched it - that you're truly interested in getting it done RIGHT, in a clean place and you know how to deal with it afterwards. In a couple years you'll be able to get a job and save up money much more easily that way. Patience.

 

give her a choice

either you get your navel done, or you get one of these:

 

Hey, Mr Migu!! You are genious!!!

 

Anita, I would say, you are still you, even though you say you look older. And as a teen one always feels maturer then one actually is. since when do you want that piercing? I would say a waiting time of one or two years before taking a dicision towards body modification is not too much. You still grow, in your mind, and maybe things look different in a year or 2. You will have plenty of time to get informed about everything, and to save money to go to a good and clean studio, that will only take as much money as it needs to work clean and professional. At 16 you're still young, and maybe your parents will see things differently.

 

I've got my navel priced and my mom didnt like the idea at 1st but then i got my grades up and then i slowly talked my mom into it and now shes gogin to get hers done... i really think if u show your mom that u really want this she'll give in. but u have to show that your willing to work for it.

 

Lilhippiechic! You had got enough money, but I haven't got them now! I'm from Russia, so in my salon piercing costs 900 rubles (26 euro). I haven't got money!
And my parents will never give me money for it! And I don't want to lie them! Where can I get money???

 

I think that you should wait... My mother is very against piercings... But once I turned 18 there was nothing she could do.... there were many piercings that I have wanterd and have changed my mind with time.. You can wait...

How to get money... Dont knbow what to tell you.. Rob a store? How about get a job helping someone in your neighborhood out.. I dont know who to tell you to get the money.. I personaly think you should wait

 

I did mine myself when I had just turned 15. I have had it for 2 years now and my parents still don't know. I really don't think it's a good idea to do it yourself, but if you really want to, go ahead. Just make sure you use REAL piercing needles. Safety pins are a bad idea, same with sewing needles- make sure you have a 14g barbell that is brand new, and inform yourself on the subject first. The more you know, the less stupid decisions you will make. I recommend bmezine.com. If you aren't sure about something, don't do it. But hey, if you have any questions, feel free to contact me. No question is a stupid question.

 

I am sorry, but recommending sombody to do it by one self is the most stoopid idea! it can go good, but it can go terribly wrong!!


check this out to get an idea....
http://www.toms-piercing.at/info/trash/pfusch.html (and I have seen worse)

because if it turns out to get worse, you have to tell your parents, because then a medical treatment can not be avoided, and then things will get very baaad! Trust me: Save your money, wait a year or two, show your parents you are responsible, maybe they will give in. If not, you can still find other ways to go. It really is worth the money to go to a place that is experienced and clean.

Sometimes I think, parents don't want to be responsible for "damaging" their children. There are so many things that can go wrong with piercings, imagine if there's something going wrong, and your parents agreed beforehand! They will feel guilty for the rest of their lives to have agreed on that shit!

I Always wanted my nose done, when I was 14, I wasn't allowed, and here in germany they are very strict about not getting poeple under age piercings, if there is no parent note. (getting pierced is legal for 16 year olds) So I waited two years, got a piercing done, and my mom actually liked it. Maybe she could enjoy it, because she would not have been responsible for it. Trust me, your parent's only concern is your health and to protect you, and they are just doing their jobs! Try to see it from their points of view! Have you ever tried to talk about the issue in a responsible way? Get informed, and present them your knowledge. Showing responsibility and maturity will open you doors........

 

copy the girls in that thirteen film they were smart haha

i want my liip done and have since i was about 13 (16 now) but im still not allowed it lol so i tihnk im just gonna wait till i go to uni or sumthin

dunno how to help ya anita sorry

 

I used to be the type to always do what my parents said. My dad wouldn't let me dye my hair (especially something like pink or purple or green) and definitely wouldn't let me pierce anything except my ears. When I was 15 I decided to go ahead and dye my hair and he liked it (it was originally dark brown but when I dyed it it became more of an auburn). Then my best friend and I dyed our hair purple AND pink and I came home and my dad said "did you dye your hair?" and I was like "yeah" and he just rolled his eyes. He wasn't too upset and didn't scold me or anything so I kept dying my hair whatever color I wanted and I would have gotten other piercings too. I wasn't too rebellious. I don't know where you live, but here in Missouri, usa, it is illegal to get ANY piercings unless you are 18 or have parents' permission. But some specialists will do it as long as you assure them your parents won't find out who did it. Right now I'm the kind of person who says do what you want, and show your parents you're the same person, piercing or no piercing. But don't go around trying to be someone you're not, even if they don't like the REAL you. A lot of parents are very controlling of their children and I disagree with that. Parents should be supportive and something as minor as a belly button piercing shouldn't be something that would make them very angry at you. So, I don't want to be responsible for telling you to do it or to disobey your parents, but I don't see a big deal with a piercing as long as you don't let it get infected. All that matters is that you aren't hurting anyone else and take care of yourself, and make sure that if you do get a piercing make sure the specialist sterilizes whatever they use. If you're gonna do it anyway, then do it anyway. If you're not, don't. The choice is yours; just because your parents TELL you they don't want you to do something, that doesn't mean they have control over it. Only YOU have control over your own actions, and since you know they disagree with it, then YOU are responsible enough to make your own decisions and to learn the consequences.

 

Or else if you don't want to disrespect their wishes, wait until you are old enough to make your own decisions or are not in their home or whatever.

 

Old enough meaning LEGALLY allowed to make your own decisions.