I decided to have a threesome with another girl and a guy anyone done this before? any tips? it might get confusing! thanks SHINE ON!
Sorry, didn't realise you meant with a specific guy and girl. In that case you just need to remember that it is only sex, and just broach the subject with them. It helps to get a little drunk, but not a lot. That's about all I can help with, all mine have been with guys only.
I think that the only way to avoid the almost certain complications and stress that can arise from such a situation is to not do it. If you are determined to do it, be aware that yes, there can and will likely be a thrill from sampling two people sexually at the same time (I personally have not done it), but there can also be all kinds of feelings of jealousy and inadequacy that may arise. Don't go into this unprepared. (Well, I guess that's what you're trying to avoid by posting about it here to get thoughts on it.) What I mean is, be really circumspect about it, and your own feelings. If you are able to have sex that is completely meaningless, you might be able to do a threesome just fine with no mental harm done (physical protection is another matter). But then, if you can have sex that is so detached from the people you're having it with, what's the point of even having it? Better to masturbate while fantasizing something you really would like... -Jeffrey
I would rather stay loyal to one person so I can give no advice. But this thread reminded me of a seinfeld episode too, where Jerry finally has a threesome. I guess thats why I clicked on it. I think after Jerry had the threesome, all sex paled in comparisson to him, though I will have to watch it again and see what happens.
maybe ask your friends to have three separate threesomes on different nights. that way you all have a whole session of two people pleasuring you. (adds some suspense as well) i'm only 15 so have no threesome experince...yet ...but i would get jealous if i got myself mentally ready for something and then it didn't happen. three separate sessions would make sure you don't get disappointed.
OK, I advise caution, but nowhere near as much as everyone else seems to be! Threesomes aren't actually life-destroying. What causes problems is when people aren't emotionally mature enough to handle it. You need to be able to separate your naked and non-naked time together, and to know that it's just a bit of fun, a game or whatever. That's the important thing. If anyone involved is under the impression that it's anything other than some fun and orgasms, you shouldn't go ahead with it. That's kind of why I wouldn't have advised doing it with people you know, or at least who you know very well. It's just more history you have together that will make it harder for you to carry on sensibly once you've all got your clothes back on. I'm not seeing you need to completely forget it ever happened once you've done it; ideally you should be able to talk and joke about it afterwards. Unfortunately you never know until you've done it how people are going to react. if they've done it before then there'll be no trouble. But to finish on a high, the best advice I can offer is from the lead singer of a band called Butthole Surfers. If that's not an inditement as to its truth then I don't know what is:
Threesomes fun, are emotionally safest when you are the third, and you go in knowing that all you want is the sex. That way there's no jealousy on your part or your partner's. If it's there between the couple, it's not your issue to deal with, and perhaps they should have explored that possibility before having the threesome.
thanks to everone i realize now that ill be fine, im not taking this that seriously,i just want to experiment with my life, plus the people that im doing it with are a experienced couple. they just invited me for the ride! and i know we will all have a great time during and after. thanks for everyones advice Shine On!
Since you already have this planned with another couple I suggest you all make sure you know what you want from this experience (other than a great orgasm). If either of you have any reservations or limits then it's better to get them out in the open before hand. I never had a bad experience personally but one time my girlfriend and I were with one of her best friends and the friend had a hard time afterward. But she sure didnt complain during!!! Have fun and let us all know how it turned out!
You are very young. It is very difficult to give an advice without knowing you; if and how you are confortable with sexual life and yourself. If they are of your age it may be ok. If they are adults, perhaps you should wait a year of two. Keep your time. The point is not if you take it seriously or not before doing it; that makes no sense. the point is how you could emotionally react to that experience after. That kind of experience could result in some kind of addiction or otherwise a sense of repulsion. So my advice is to meditate deeply if you are ready for that kind of experience just now.
