my boyfriend isn't comfable with it. he's scared becaus there's double so much chance that he's gonna lose me. anyone experienced that?
I know exactlly what u're talking 'bout. I had a girlfriend that dumped me after she discovered i was bi. I think she thought i could like another boy or girl and she didn't like that. I really dunno; bit wierd the situation though lol I just tell ya that you should speak with 'm and explain 'm your feelings so he underestands and doesn't get worried. btw if someone doesn't respect that aspect from u the his not worth your time
Everybody who hangs out with me knows I'm bi, and it really doesn't bother anyone. I flirt with people of both sexes frequently...:H
i kno what your talking about also ... today i was talking to my ex (which by the way is the only guy i like other then him i consider myself lesbian) and he was like i dotn like you being bi... i was like but if i didnt like girls then you would be the only person i'd like... he was like well thats good for me.. no competition ... i thought it was funny but i get were your coming from.
Myself being bi, I have experienced both sides of going out with someone whoe is bi and being bi. Bottom line for you and for him and his concern is an pen line of communication. I would discuss with him to clarify with one another what kind or type of relationship you are wanting or willing ot have. If your bf is paranoid of losing you to another rater it be a man or a woman if the lines of communication are not connecting and boundaries set in your relationship then he what he is feeling is most likely normal. As GLBT persons push for civil unions and gay marriage, there is much more thought and disscussion in lines of if you being bisexual would indeed be able to 100% be willing to have a commited relationship and exclusive relationshep with him and him only. Choosing to be even though bisexual in my opinion, one would needs to ask themselves if as I did, was 100% sure I would be able to have a commited relationship with the boyfriend/girlfriend. In my opinion to be bisexual and in a commited relationship, then acting on felings or desires restricted to one gender and one gender only would on your part the answer to his question or concern. If you do not think you could honestly stay with exclusive him and not be with women on the side then he may need reassurance on the issue. I just feel honesty to be the #1 important part of communication with any relationship. Every relationship I have even started with either gender from saying 'Yes" to a date in itself have made myself from the start to let them be aware of my past and past relationships with the other opposite gender from the start. If the issue is not addressed until to say 6months into the relationship this comes off as being broken trust and such from then on out. to reaveal the issue first hand this in my opinion begins the relation with honesty and trust at the beginning and not mixed feelings of trust issues later on down the line. I support gay Marriage and Civil Unions, for many reasons. Lets SHOW them we indeed are capable of having long term trusting monogos relationships. Any thing Less give more amunition for jerry fawlell and pat robertson even more fuel to feed the flames that in judgement and nit picking come out their mouths at GLBT persons always ready to BBQ every little 'wicked and evil demonic act' according to them we are all about. Sorry I am manic and have gotten carried away and will stop my rant now. Peace and Blessings rx
The last guy I was with (actually, I was engaged to him) was unaware of my lesbian side and I kept it well hidden for as long as I could because he was an observant Jew and I knew how he felt about homosexuals. But it just got to the point where, the longer I held it in, the less I was attracted to him and the more I was attracted to girls (it didn't help that he didn't know what I clitoris was and didn't really care for foreplay at all... he just liked plain old intercourse). Eventually I told him and a week later we split up. I never talked to him again, he never talked to me again. Its sad but we're probably both better off, especially because there was a HUGE age gap and he had kids, 2 who were older than me. But either way, I think monogamy is monogamy any way ya slice it. I could never cheat on somebody, I wouldn't be able to look them in the eye no matter what sex they were.
i know what your talking about. i had a boyfriend that was exactly the same. its not just other guys he had to worry about, its girls as well. he knew that i had been with girls before, but i knew he is very unstable with the fact that his girlfriend likes other girls. i never cheated on him and never would on anyone else, but he just got so paranoid that our long relationship just never lasted. when i started hanging out with one of my lesbian friends more he started to think that i was cheating on him with her. he had to pull out of the relationship. we are still friends, but i know he still thinks that i go around with different girls all the time, which he should know better. -_-
well, its part of the stigma that follows being bisexual. most people will assume being bisexual means being promiscous, which in my case it's totally false. I think it's more of a matter of trust more than anything, it doesnt mean that you have more chances to fall for other people, maybe thats what your boyfriend thinks. you should reassure him that you're with him for a reason and that your sexuality has nothing to do with the ability to remain faithful, thats something that comes with your own principles, not your sexuality.
yeah def. It got to much for me in the end and I had to finish with him. He was ok with it to begin with until he started to get paranoid about everything. If i was talking to a girl, he'd get all clingy and possessvie and it got to much and to upsetting to deal with in the end and I told him if he couldn't trust me it wasn't going to work. He doesn't speak to me anymore, sad but I guess thats the fun of being a 'fence-sitter'
yes i understand the situation. im 23 and knowone knows how i feel i still dont either. any time i have ever tried to bring the idea out that i might be bi, my boyfriend just thinks its like some porno fantasy type of thing that will involve him in some way. or he is uncomfortable about it so i am to, but i know the feelings are still there cause i have always been attracted to both men and women but in different ways. for know ill keep it aside so i dont make him jealous ,love is to precious to throw away over something i havent ever experienced yet . my advice would be not to push the subject to much if you really love him and are in a committed realionship you dont want to loose. theres always another time to open up or open him up with it. GOOD LUCK
I know this thread is a couple of days old but, I have experience with this sort of thing so I may as well add my two cents. The first boyfriend I had was a complete jerk about me being bi. He even said I had to stop being bi or he would break up with me. Being that he was my first boyfriend and I thought I was mature adult I told him I wouldn't be bi anymore. I thought that if I stopped thinking about girls and looking at girls I would stop being bi but the more I tried to supress my feelings the stronger my urges grew. I finally couldn't put up with it anymore so I broke up with him. Because of this I realized I am bi and am happy with the way I am. Right now I have another boyfriend who is comfortable with me being bi and I only want to be with him. That doesn't mean I don't look at pretty girls and start having thoughts about them.
He's insecure Damn bring a women for him to fuck or a married couple full swap. Tell him every once in awhile you need to be fucked by two men and if he wants to be one of them he better start enjoying it . jealousy will destroy a marriage or relationship. And they can make your life miserable.
I I Had two bisexual wives. We did frm fmf before and had her girl friend live with us for a year . it was like having two wifes. My second wife brought women home and couples for full a swap . one day she brought hola a beautiful submissive girl your boyfriend's insecure that can be easily solved. Bring home another girl we're in bed with you tell him to come join you if he he really has problems.
I love sharing my wife to think she is in bed with a women just turns me on and she knows it so she is with a gal any time she feels the erg to! she treats me often by letting me watch them play! To watch her in a 69 with a female is a site to see! I watch them completely naked wow which intensifies me watching! Wow....
