I have been friends with this girl for about 2 years now, we were like straight up best friends in the whole entire world. I practically lived at her house for months at a time. For the past month or so we havent hung out as much and its basically been my decision. So about a year ago i got big into drugs and was willing to try anything once. It fucked me over and I went through my fair share of problems because of it. I mean I still smoke alot of weed and drink but Ive gotten over the whole "hard drug" scene. I did just about every drug there was besides crack. I didnt really realize the affects of the drugs while i was taking them because i was having such a good time. Ok so I have been watching my friend birda for about a month like I said roll everyother day and do 8balls nightly. Everytime I try to confront her about it she gets all deffensive and tells me that "she has a different head on her shoulders" blah blah blah. Im not going to tell her not to do it I just worry because I feel like Im loosing a good friend because Im done with that whole scene and shes just begun. She is a year younger than me and I try to tell her what happened to me because In a way I want to scare her out of doing it as much as she has been. It just makes me really upset to see my friend like this. Like the other night she had a horrible day at work and what not and when she got to my friends house after work she was all pissed off and immediatley said "WHERE ARE MY FUCKING DRUGS...I NEED MY DRUGS" that started to worry me the worse. Anyone have any suggestions?! Im so overwhelmed by this because I want to help her but its impossible to help someone that doesnt want help. I can see that shes going down a very bad path. She is definetely fucking up, the drugs arent even the main reason shes fucking up...well in a way yeah because she chooses drugs over the two classes that she has a day and is going to fuck up college because of it. UGGHHHHH Im sorry I just had to get this off my chest...
oh, I'm so sorry. I hate seeing people do that to themselves. There's not much you can do. REmember when you were in that phase (I've gone through it myself too) would anything anyone said make you stop? I would just try to keep an eye on here, let her make her own mistakes, but offer some advice randomly. I wish I had the magic answer. but all I can do is hope she wises up before she REALLY fucks herself up, and wish you peace in your heart. yeah, my advice doesn't really help. Sorry.
she will make her own decisions... and headymoe is right, you can't really stop her. the important thing is for you to be there to help her when she hits the bottom. she's pretty close, if she's swallowing eightballs and rolling on a regular basis. i know it sux, picking up the broken pieces, especially since you've been there/done that... but really, it's all you can do. *many hugz for sarah JAY 420* for the record, i've never smoked crack, either!!
thanks guys i apprieciate it. It just sucks because I feel like Im losing my best friend to drugs because she gets mad when i try to talk to her but im just going to lay off and see how it plays out
yea, waiting for her to play it out may be the best thing for the moment. i mean, i must confess ive HAD to do that with really close friends (recently, my bestf has been through a emocionally abusive bf that made her wanna be abusive to herself) because sometimes they dont want to listen to anyone and for me, i dont even have all the answers. no doubt, im a caring friend to the fullest, but ive learned sometimes i just have to listen to her and hope it turns out right. im sure a possible addiction to drugs is more severe than a bf, but i know where your coming from, it hurts to not be able to get through all the time...
it sure does hurt when they are stuck in there own ways....but like headymoechick said...I know when I was in that position I didnt want to listen to anyone either...so i am just going to play it out...
