Is it ever justifiable? I'm a little worried about one of my friends at the minute. She split up with her boyfriend briefly, because she found out that he had sex with a different girl some time ago, behind her back. Now they're back together, and I'm glad because they really are great together, and even though he did something really bad and upsetting, I don't really understand why because I know that he really loves her. Anyways, the reason I'm a bit worried right now is because my friend seems to have developed an unhealthy vendetta against this other girl. It's obviously understandable, because of what she did, but my friend has been resorting to things such as walking by, hitting this other girl and pretending that it was an accident. Today she decided to go and stick an insulting note on this other girl's car, and she was going to slash her tires as well but I don't think that she did. I'm quite concerned that this obssession for revenge can only lead to trouble. Remember what happened to Captain Ahab in Moby Dick? Am I right to be concerned? It might not even be any of my business, but I do think that my friend is being very unwise. What do you guys think?
You really need to get her to not carry this on mate... her boyf and the girl were wrong... but really it was her boyf that betrayed her... the girl is just an unhealthy vent for her anger i think. hmm hope that came out right, tis late :s Hope it works out ok bud , Love Claire
And me. I think she has no justification to harm anybody else. She should not be judge, jury and enforcer, she cannot know all the facts of the situation that occured between her "friend" and the girl.
i can never be bothered with revenge.. if the person has been that much of an arse, a person has been so horrid to me and done something to really hurt me... well then be reacting and taking revenge it'd be like wasting enegry on a person who is obveiously underserving of my attention. basically... if you use revenge.. effectively your proving to them you care, your giving them what they want ... showing them that what they have done has beat you.. you give in and you take revenge.... it is up to the stronger person .. to walk away - although when you do care you do have to pull yourself away from revenge...
If she really feels that bad why did she get back with the bloke? She's behaving in an outrageous manor. You'd be acting as a proper friend if you told her she's out of line. She needs to explore and understand her feelings regarding the situation because at the moment she's responding without understanding and she might not know when to stop. Slashing tyres? That's seriuosly fucked....I'm kinda thinking that she may be unbalanced if she's even going to those extremes......
revenge never ends, no matter what she does to this girl she's always gonna feel wronged. revenge is always pointless.
