He keeps kissing me, and hugging me ... I hug him back, I don't kiss him back ... But I have a boyfriend ... But my boyfriend acts like just a friend, and i need the love ... and my boyfriend, he never holds me or kisses me unless I ask him to ... And then well, my boyfriend is just too shy ... He wasn't shy when I met him, so i liked him ... but now, he's hella shy ... too shy ... And even though I was rarely happy while dating my ex becuase he was chasing girls {my best friends} & he never gave me his number nor asked for mine which bugged me & he was my best friends ex ... Anyway my best friend went and freaked out on him on Wen. night because i told her he kissed me twice the other day, i wont even mention that he kissed me Wen. afternoon.
Sit down and talk with the boy. Tell him under no circumstances that he should be kissing you. Your other post mentioned that it was upsetting your boyfriend, so make it stop. Friends hug, no biggie. I dont' kiss any of my friends though. Lay down the rules, in no uncertain terms - not your boyfriend, NO kissing.
on the other post you left, i, in no uncertain terms, advised you to leave your boyfriend. it is up to you if you want to take that advice. i usually try not to be that dogmatic, but the fucked up things he's said prompted me to be that way. and in this case, i'd say that the physical affection between you and this ex are causing too much friction with your friends and your current boyfriend. it seems like there's almost a battle over you between the two of them. i'd say you tell both of them that you want nothing to do with either of them. this might not be what you want to hear, but the stuff your boyfriend says to you are signs that he could become abusive down the road. and the stuff your ex does shows that he is disrespectful of boundaries. stop both of them - and it may be hard to be single, but i bet if you try it out for a little while, you'll be happier because you'll be getting to know yourself. you don't need to be in a relationship at 16. they do more harm than good at that age. i'm sorry if this isn't what you want to hear, but based on what you wrote, this may be what you NEED to hear. *disclaimer: this is just my opinion. it is your choice what to do. i understand this may not be what you want to hear. it just sounds like a toxic relationship. i usually do not ever give flat-out advice on these forums, but in this case, to ME, this sounds like you should leave him. but if you don't feel like that is the best thing to do, it is up to you. this is your life, not mine. i'm merely giving my opinion...
He's now my ex- after him and a girl that i thought was my friend got on three-way on the phone with me & destroyed my self-esteem...
