I just read something interesting about what makes us fall in love. Thought i would share. The reason why people fall in love is because when we have sex a chemical(oxytocin) is released. The more sex the stronger the bond. The chemical doesnt last forever though. After 3 years it starts to go away. It says that suddenly your lover has faults. It's not because they changed, just that you're now able to see him or her without those blinding hormones of infatuation and passionate love. At this stage, the relationship is either strong enough to last, or the relationship ends. If it last another chemical kicks in. Endorphins, for example, are still providing a sense of well-being and security. Additionally, oxytocin is still released when you're having sex, producing feelings of satisfaction and attachment. When we break up after going out 4 a couple years i guess its like a withdrawl from a drug. Over time it gets easyer, but at first you still want to feel that feeling you use to have. I think its soo true.
So you need to have sex in order to fall in love with someone? I fell in love without having sex first.....
i think you have lust and love mixed up, thats time i cheaked love ment a deep connection between two people on a emotional/spritul level, thats just the basics i think it goes a littile deeper then that
I know you can fall in love with someone without ever having sex with them. Love is a funny thing...it can happen in so many different ways. I can kinda agree with some of that though. It's true that relationships do go through phases. You have the first stage,that's often refered to as the "honeymoon stage",that's when everything is new and exciting. Then in time,that fades,but a relationship takes on something new...which is usually security and well being. Of course,some relationships aren't strong enough to survive the change. That's all true typically,I'm not sure though if that's just the way human interaction plays out or if it's really to do with chemicals in the brain.
The way I see it is there is a difference between physically falling in love and emotionally/mentally/spiritually falling in love. What I mean by this is you feel the physical aspects of love, but you aren't exactly emotionally, mentally, and/or spiritually there. Basically lust. That's what it seems like the chemical reactions and things explains. But to truly fall in love with someone, it's best not to get the physical aspects confused with the mental. It's really easy to do and kind of hard to distinguish between once it's happened. The best kind of love is the kind that can combine all of the above and never lose that flame. I just wish more people would be patient enough to find that...
