ok... idont know if its just me or if its anyone else, even if u dont feel liek this could someone give me some advice if it wouldnt be to much trouble ... ok well i party a lot(mostly with ppl older than me ) and i m not in a relationship and i havent had one for a year almost exactly... and lately and for like the past couple months, i have been feeling really down... usually i dont care like ill do stuff with someone when we party , u know gotta mack haha, but like everything is good while its goin on but afterwards always sucks, i feel like shit... lke no one cares about me enough to have more than just a casual hook up that dosent mean anything...and i dont really know what to do...every time i party its always the same....and i seriously...idk it just sucks, sorry guy if it seems like im complainin i dont mean it to be like that i just dont knwo what to do ... can someone help me out...?
I used to do the same thing. I would make out with guys at parties and at the moment,it felt fine. Then afterwards,I felt bad about it. The thing is though,I have often felt that way after being with a guy I was in a relationship with. Sometimes,sex and all that goes with it,just isn't right...and you will feel bad afterwards. You'll feel kinda void or something. My suggestion,would be to party or whatever you want...and just don't take it beyond platonic with anyone for awhile. If you meet a guy that's worth your time,you'll know it. In time,you'll figure out how you feel and what feels right to you.
thats the problem, its never JUST making out...and idk it just sucks, because i would have stopped my "macking" side of me if i could haha
...Cheer up love, a lot of girls do that. There really isn't anything wrong with fooling around as long as you are careful, and dont get attached. But yeah I know how you feel. I always feel like shit when guys try to just get with you for ass, I mean it is flattering...i guess, but sometimes a girl just wants to cuddle and feel loved..
I think you may be feeling bad cause maybe the guys are just using you. But Idk, the whole story or the people you hang with. I do know that for a lot of people, being with someone without an emotional connection just leaves them empty. It is kinda like you give a piece of yourself away, a piece way down deep inside and you just kinda feel hollow afterwards. I say hold back on the party for a while. Let people see more than the one side of you and how loverly it is and can be. Eventually somebody is gonna say Damn that bee gots some fine ass honey but it is nothing compared to that bee. I gots to get her in my hive. Sorry it just came on me. Got to go
If you don't feel good afterwards, there -is- something wrong with it for you. Maybe that scene works for othe people, but you have said you feel bad afterwards. Why do you do it? "u know gotta mack haha" makes me think you might feel obligated to do so because of your friends (peer pressure, yeah). What if you made a promise to yourself to not do that at every party? If it were every other, and then fewer and fewer, would you feel better? What if you upped your standards and looked for someone who was genuinely interested in you as a person, not as a one night fling?
its not peer pressure at all, its just me...idk its not like i feel TERRIBLE lol cuz i know going into it is just like a casual thing well usually a drunken casual thing and i know not to get attached and i usually dont, but like usually the ppl that its with are already out of highschool like had just graduated... and dont go to my school anymore, but this last time like he goes here and i hang out with his friends and used to hang out with him... i just feel like crap idk... maybe it is the empty thing...but i think like i know its me cause i allllways do this, btu then i think... like im not good enough for whoever to carry on anything past just doin stufff.... idk, im just....idk
