Should it bother me...

...if my girlfriend had sex with some stranger in a disco toilet the night before we met and end up together???

 

its okay that it bothers you...but dont let it affect the relationship...as long as she didnt do it while you were together

 

yes well, everyone says that, but put yourself in my position

 

Dude,
The way I see it, you don't really have a right to hold it against her in the realtionship. You weren't together. Is she supposed to hold off doing something that she wants to in fear that it might offend someone she will meet in the future.

That said, it would probably bother me a bit. Not so much that she had sex with someone else, but that it was in a disco toilet. I guess you have to eveluate whether or not this is typical bahavior. If it is, then you must decide if you can live with someone who behaves like that.

peace

 

well that does bother me the most, having sex is pretty normal but sex in a toilet in a disco... that's not ok

 

hehe... pretty normal

 

well its not normal behavouir no (a lot of people do it though)


and i am putting myself in your position right now....

alright it would bother me

but people arent perfect they make mistakes...maybe this was a one off...it doesnt help that i dont know if she has a history of doing it though...you have only metioned this one thing

 

I think it would bother me aswell, but if you really like this girl try to cope with it and don't let it interfere with your relationship..
Talk to her about it and let her know how you feel, she'll understand.. But there is nothing she can do about it now so try not to let her feel guilty.

 

i went through something very similar with my last (and ex) boyfriend....he slept with someone the night we met and when we got together he didnt tell me but heard it from someone else. I felt like he was lying to me, and now that i think of it, it wasnt because he actually did it then but i just couldnt trust the fact that he slept with someone he had just met and gave me the imprssion he was used to that kind of thing, so i could never trust him. needless to say i'm not with him anymore, i just couldnt cope with the whole trust issue.

 

You have now H.I.V and well join the other in the oven soon.

 

Sex in a disco toilet!? Is she a hooker or something!?

 

I understand how it would make you uncomfortable. But you've got to remember, you weren't together yet, and she's only human, she enjoys sex. And I think getting laid in the bathroom at a disco would be pretty fun. She certainly isn't the first person to do it. So just let it go. You're the one having sex with her now.

 

Pretty well agree with the majority.
This was before you and her were together...so she didn't do anything wrong really.

Would it bother me though? Yep,I am sure if would. It's the fact that it was with a stranger and it was in a disco toilet. That's just not my type of thing and sure,it would bug me thinking that my partner had been the type to do that.

 

dude...just think like that....."i dont have no ring on these finger" look man she dont own u...so if u want 2 go and have sex wid some1 in the toilet then go 2 a disco, get drunk and have sex wid some girl....remember this...if ur drunk and u did stuff....it neva happend cos u wont remember it ..... (dude that was jus jokes dont take it seriously) hey dont worry i feel the same way as u do cos my ex did mo or less the same thing and it pissed me of infact i was fuckin pissed of wid her and i did some nasty stuff bhind her back so dat i wont feel like that again....hey but wat the hell...it was jus me

 

Your girlfriend slept with a stranger in a public bathroom. I think that shows what standards your gf has. Not judging her, but if that's the sort of gf you want then go ahead. There are plenty of girls out there you know.

 

Decide what kind of girl you want to be with. She sounds very open and sexual. I am pissed that so many people here are like, "ew she's nasty". She's just sexual. It's OK FOR GIRLS TO LIKE SEX!!!

If you can't handle a girl like that, find one with a little more reserve in that department. But if you want someone who can enjoy sex and not feel bad about it, stay with her. It's not like she cheated. And damn, at least she was honest. She didn't do anything behind your back, or lie about who she was with.

If it makes you uncomfortable, you should find someone else. She might seem fun, but her idea of fun might make you a little uneasy. That's ok. It's ok for you to think that's not too cool and it's ok for her be openly sexual. No one is in hte wrong here, it's just about whether or not you two will mesh well together.

 

Be careful, she could have STD's and not even a condom can protect you aganist ALL diseases. Some diseases are also hard to trace until years later. Do you really want this shit to come back and haunt you?

Sex with strangers... she's literally fucking with death.

 

you people are so close minded.

 

You're just 16 and I'm sure you're just having fun and eventually you'll break up with this girl as most people usually do. The thing is, one day you may want to have a wife and loving children. Do you really want to ruin that possibility cuz of some STD you got from a cheap and stupid slut who got it while having sex with a stranger in a public bathroom? Think about it.

 

well... i'm not sure abouth that... i first heard it as a rumor, and then i talked with her she denied it... but a very good friend of mine told me that this is the true... so i don't know who to believe to