I didn't know what forum to put this in. All year I have been depressed. I have two parents who love me but I only have two good friends. It's not that nobody dislikes me it's the fact that I can't talk to people because I get nervous and don't know what to say. I sit with one person at lunch and only talk to like 5 people throught out the day. I'm always alone and it's driving me literally insane. It makes me depressed and I don't know what to do. I tell my mom but she thinks I can control it and she thinks I'm making it up so I can goto a new school. There are 2 high schools in my town and my mom made me go to the one in which I know no one. If I was to go to hte other school I think I would be happier and hvae more friends. My mom tell me friends are useless and school isn't about friends. I'm in a marketing program and I don't do very well in it because most [projects invole partners and I don't do them because I hvae no friends and I can't work with people I don't know. THe other school has a marketing program too, why can't i go there. Well anyways today my lonlyness really got to me. After taking MCAS for half the day I got extremely depressed at lunch and cried wehn I got home after i got off hte phone with my mom. I continue to tell her i was therapy or counseling which ever will help me and she ignores it. I tend to ignore my problems and act as if they don't exist. I live in my own world inside my head and I am invisible to the public. If i can't see you then you can't see me. If I forget about something then so will you. I am unexistant to many. <<<---- that's how i view myself but, when I'm with my 2 friends I am happy and outgoing anf un to be around. I know i hvae problems, but what are they? just normal teenage depression? a need for attention? HELP ME PLEASE. I NEED ADVICE.
i was likethat too in high school. not only did it get very little attention from most people, but when i DID get attention it was always mean and hurtful. i had a small group of close friends that made life bearable. all i can say is thatyou should try to focus on you right now and find out who you are. it's not easy, but once you are comfortable with yourself, you'll be more confident interacting with other people. if you need anything, please feel free to pm me! anytime!
Forgive me, but your mom seems like an uncaring bitch. Friends aren't important? What the hell? Your mom expects you to go into marketing without the social experience and interaction she is denying you, and take it with a smile? I can't say my parents have been so cruel to me. Really, they've done their best. But I know exactly what it's like to be, shall I say, "socially handicapped". I feel like everyone I go to school with, with the exception of 5 or 6 friends (none of which have ended up in any of my classes), has a this contract with me: "You don't bother us and we won't bother you." Besides making dating anyone virtually impossible, it really just sucks when people pretend you aren't there, and you, in turn, have to pretend that you aren't there too. It's been this way my whole life. Both my parents are shy people, so I came out terrified of social interaction, especially with the opposite sex. The whole thing builds on itself. I feel like theres this expectation that I shouldn't talk. Even though it's one Ive created myself by never talking in the first place, it continues to exist and keep me afraid of social interaction. In recent years, I've come to a couple of realizations: 1. People, friends, enemies, they all come and go. They're your classmates or your coworkers or your friends now, but someday they all move away or die or whatever. I keep from getting depressed by reminding myself of this. We can't base our OWN happiness on others. Not that other people don't matter, but ultimately, you have only the company of yourself garunteed in life. This leads to - 2. Not caring. I don't mean this in a negative way; I mean understanding that what those other, temporary people think of you doesn't matter. If you speak out, they could think you're dumb, they might think you're annoying, they might hate you for bypassing your "social contract". But does it matter? You stand only to gain by forcing yourself to interact, and at the very worst, you will be the same place you are now. You won't automatically turn into a happy, talkative person, but I find thinking this way really helps me feel better about myself and a little more confident about talking to people. It hasn't helped me find a girl though; people around here are kind of cold in general.
Sorry, I'm not a woman, but this thread was on the top of the list. When I saw the word "alone" in the thread title, my sympathy was triggered.
Just choke your Mom out, that's what I did to mine when I was your age and she learned real fast to not fuck with me, the best part though was when I got hauled off to a psyche ward for a month and got to miss school and take pills all day.Good adolescent times.
Okay I'm no psychologist but this statement to me seems very childish (Not insulting you). What I mean is that is clearly a child's way of thinking and I've heard you say before you feel like a little kid so this leads me to belive something happened in your childhood. It could be anything from a parent's divorce to just the way someone treated you when you were young. Something like that could be bothering you and you don't even realize it because it is buried deep in your subconscience and has stunted your emotional growth...just a thought. Remember you are a real girl, with real emotions and real need for love and attention from friends and lovers. People are not machines, and you are not a robot. It's so wonderful you want to get help, its the first step of learning to be happy. truely happy. As for your mom, I don't know where she stands on this but some people don't belive in psychology, think that therapy is a waste and that emotions are one dimensional and easily controlled. They're not, your living proof. Try and explain this to her, I know it will be uncomfortable and awkward but in the end it will be so worth it. Trust me. I'm your friend! and many people would know and love you if you give them a chance and open up. Try and come out of that hard shell, I bet it's lonely...turn on your love light. Good luck hugs and kisses! I'm pulling for ya! ~Molly
Carrotflower, is that really an appropirate response to this poor child who is suffering, and needs affection and information, not being laughed at?
16 was definitely my most drama-filled time of my life and i think it is the same with everyone else. i do agree with the other people in here that it is psychological and really you have to be comfortable with yourself before people can be comfortable with you. thats really tough at 16 when youre maturing so much mentally. have u ever tried meditation or yoga? its really calming and helps you to get in touch with your inner self. i got into that over the past summer and found that it really helped me to see the real scheme of things in life. a good book to read for that whole perspective is Siddhartha if you havent read it. i dont read really at all but i loved that and plus its a really thin book and a very quick read. its basically about a young mans search for his self. but in the end thats your journey to take and you have to do what you feel is best for yourself and none of us hear can tell you whats best for you. we can only help lead you in ways to find out. much love and good luck
I didn't expect many people would reply and I'm happy of the outcome. This morning m,y mom told me I was perposaly being a bitch to her. WEll, mom FYI, you can't control all of your emotions. My mom used to bring my brother to counseling all the time. He's been in a state mental institute for 6 months now under federal law. My brother really fucked up and need serious help. I think my mom should try nad help me before I turn into a bad apple. All i ask for is counseling and a little guidence in my life. Molly, you are soo right. Maybe this afternoon will clear my mind. It should be fun.
Your mom owes you some counseling at least. Can you talk to a counselor at school if she won't do it? There are programs for young people whose parents won't help them. When my sister lived with her birth family (she's a foster sister) she used one of these programs, as no one in her home would help her. Your school counselor could help you get some help. Love and prayers for you, sweetie.
I feel too uncomftable talking to anyone at school. Our counselers only help with schedules and stuff like that. My counseler is a guy and I feel more comftable talking to women.
Listen Maggie, I was just being real. Who the fuck doesn't have problems as a young teen? Your confused, your trapped, you don't know why your alive, you hate everything, or at least I did, but I'd like to think I can speak for a ton of ex-teens who were on the verge of killing themselves. All I can say is it might get better for you, and it might not. You'll never know unless you stick around. Oh and btw, I can't believe you recomended a school counselor, hahaha what a joke.
