When is it time to talk to a shrink?

I have really been feeling like shit lately...

I will feel really depressed and the only thing that makes me feel better is to bathe so I am doing that two or three times a day now...Every friday all of this is not a problem at all...I am 100% great every friday, saturday I am usually prety good (especially when I stay at Skyes house friday night and saturday night and then sunday I get depressed and mean...like Isnap at my parents and everyhting liek that and then during the week before I talk to skye in the afternoon (basically when I am home alone with no one to talk to ) I get really restless and tired and cranky...then as soon as I hear form him I am fine and then if he is going to come over I am even better...alternatly if I take a bath or shower before I talk to him I feel alot better..not 100% but still alot...There are times (like friday night) where some small thing will happen and my mind will just go all over the place and I become a total pessimist and cry for a while (untill I talk to him)

Before I was with Skye (when I was still with my ex) I just felt horrible...just felt sad and lonely and angry and uptight all the time...like nothing ever made me happy (I just sat in the house all day and all night..literally..the only time I EVER left the house was to go to school. I wondered if I should talk to somone then but figured it was just because I was halfway done w/ my senior year and was anxious...but then after I broke up with him he kept saying he was genuinly councerned that I might have manic depression (I know two people who have it..its NOT that)

I guess I am just wondering when is the right time to go and talk to someone?
Like how long do you wait to go and get help...

I mean DO you just walk into their office and say "I have been feeling liek shit and smoking weed and taking showers seems to be the only thing that helps"??

Basically just any advice as to whether I might need to go or how long I should wiat to go..anything like that....

thanks so much

 

And then there are times like a few moments ago wehre I just felt restless...not happy, not sad, not energetic, not tired just really restless...like I just want to burst out of my body...

and thats the thing..I felt like that then got on here, read something and it went away...who knows...I think I am just reading too much into it

 

go travelling! it always clears the head

 

Don't hesitate to go to a counsellor. Sometimes it just helps to be able to "unload" stuff on someone actually trained to listen to you. If there is nothing actually mentally wrong, the talking will help. And if there is something more going on, the counsellor will catch it and point you in the right direction.

When I was your age I wanted to see a councellor, but my parents said no... they were afraid of what strangers would think. So I started smoking a ton of weed... it numbed me up enough so I was able to function in society. It's called "self medicating". When I was 20 I finally found someone on my own... after having a breakdown and mentally blocking 72 hours of my life.

I did some traveling before my breakdown, and for awhile it was wonderful. While actually travelling, I was very mentally even. When I returned home everything fell apart. Running away doesn't work in the long term... physically running or mentally running by using drugs.

Feel free to IM me if you want to talk.

 

I'm probably pretty darn close to clinically depressed most of the time, but I simply can't afford to see anyone professional about it so it doesn't really matter.

 

I know...my parents dont take it seriously at all (and then again I really done feel comfortable tellign them how I feel) so it isnt really that easy...I want to wait till Im on my own...I just...I dont know..like today I feel 100% fine. it was a sunny day and things just felt different but who knows...I'm just getting really tired of going back and forth

 

When you truly have depression you're depressed everyday not just on the weekdays.

 

Sounds like you have some anxiety issues... try doing some breathing/meditation exercises. Councelling is great - can you go to a school/college concellor? Sometimes you can get access to free confidential councelling. Too bad you aren't in Canada - we have free mental health services here

 

Well I realize that..it isnt every day..usually I will be fine most of the weekend day but something will happen and it will just hit me...other times I will be fine on a weekday (like today...) thats why I didnt get it...it stays pretty normal...like if I have an overall bad feeling that day it is more likely to be a weekday because I dont get to really see or talk to skye...which affects my moods probobly more than it should

 

I'd suggest, first, just find some other adult to talk to...doesn't have be a counselor. A teacher, a friend, whatever...just someone you trust that you can vent to. I don't talk to my parents about my feelings, so it's nice to have someone else out there in the world to vent to...I've choosen a teacher, who has become a great friend to me. It can be anyway - just has to be someone you trust and can share with. Take walks, get exercise, etc...that helps a lot. Try your hardest to see the positives - just try to think of at least one positive thing each day...and that might help you greatly. Good luck!

 

dont tell her she's not depressed just cos its on one day and off the other. Clinical depression is one thing but everyone gets "truly" depressed sometimes... i really think it sounds like you need to go to a counselor.. Also cutting down on weed can help...in some people marijuana just aggrivates depression.. Also try to eat sweet fruits (they make you feel good and refreshed!) and exercize when you're feeling down... also what do you think it is about bathing that helps?

 

I dont know...if I just take a hot shower and wash my hair then come and dry and style it and I feel better

or I will go take a long hot bath and shave and feel better...

I really cant figure out what it is

One thing I was wondering though..is it possible to have bouts of depression that only occour when your alone? Like the only time I get like this is when I am home alone or with just my parents here...

 

I don't mean to sound like a bitch but I hate it when people throw the word depression around like it's nothing. Sure you may be sad, lonely, and depressed but you probably don't have depression.

It's a horrible disease.

 

I agree with you
but I think there is a differnece between being depressed and having depression...I dont htink I have depression I just am really unsure about how long I should wait, or how long I should let it go before seeing someone

 

If it's really getting in the way of life then I say go get help. It can't hurt.