In a relationship, which matters more a persons intellectual atributes or their superficial attractivness? I honestly place brains above all else, I'd rather date somebody who is vastly intelligent and looks "average" ( not that such a thing could be measured) than somebody who is completly clueless about the world around them. It may sound pompous, but I really don't care. What do you think? I'd love to hear from you.
I would put beauty third, and intellect second, as far as what I feel is the most critical quality for me to see in a partner.
how would you describe your current relationship?, I have a hard time connecting with people(well at least in the area I live in now who knows how things will be after I move):H just curious
I hit the jackpot. I've got a gorgeously sexy as well as highly intellectual husband. It's awesome because he loves having a good debate, deep and engaging discussions over wordly matters that are important to both of us. We've been together for 9 years. But if I were in a situation where I had to chose between brains or beauty, I would, without a doubt, choose brains. Looks can fade, and I would be unhappy in a relationship in which the person was a shallow moron with not a single intelligent thought floating around in his brain.
How do you define beauty? How could you truly claim to love someone without finding him/her beautiful? I've met so many people that at first glance are very physically attractive, but once you talk to them for 5 min. they become incredibly ugly. And I've met plenty of people who, at first glance are nowhere near any mainstream definition of beauty, but once you get to know them they become more beautiful than any supermodel. So I don't see where I have to choose. Brains and personality are key factors in what makes a person truly beautiful.
Personality........soul.......spirit........heart..........emotion.......whatever you call it, that is the #1 factor by miles to me. I agree with you about beauty, I see it in the eyes, like they are a window to the soul. Hippie Vixen's eyes are a great example.... and KJHippieLove88, off the top of my head those are two pairs of eyes that just beam beauty out of them.
Well to clarify, I simply was curious. Of course personality is important, Lord knows it's difficult to detach yourself from these pre-concieved notions of "beauty" and "ugliness" Your absolutley right, I should try not to think on those terms Thank you for showing me my error
One attribute alone isn't enough. I wouldn't want be with a beautiful dumbass or with a genius Frankenstein. As much as it makes me sound like a real jerk when I say this, perhaps I'm one of the only people who realizes just how much beauty plays a role in finding relationships. People always say "brains over beauty," and for the most part, I agree, but ... looks are always an important factor for just about everyone, but since it makes you sound like an asshole when you say that, nobody owns up to their instincts. Regardless, I'd rather go out with someone who's half and half than someone who is stacked in just one attribute.
I like personality and brains the best. If a guy is cool in my opinion,then I will think he's attractive. I've learned from experience,dating guys based only on looks or materialistic things is a bad idea. That's boring after awhile. I would much rather like someone based on their sense of humor or their intelligence(which could be anything,doesn't mean that they need to be highly educated).
After significant Time w/a SO possessing both, I'm of the Opinion Beauty oftentimes is a Curse (aka vanity). Snap is of greater importance than 'brains'/Intelligence. Have said this, the most important aspect is actually
Yeah i don't agree with when people act as if looks arn't everything. Trust me they are to some point/extent. I mean who wants to be with someone that is hideous. Yet women are the liars, they say looks are important and look who u see them with. I wouldnt want to be with a stupid blond bimbo like brittney spears/pam anderson, but also i dont want a ugly nerd who has no personality besides books or society shit. I like people who are openminded and can think for themselves and arnt brainwashed by societies ignorance. Id like a girl who thinks like me and who is creative, poetic, intelligent, openminded, unique, intriguing...etc ..etc. ..etc
for me beauty and brains is sort of the same thing, i find intelligence beautiful. i don't find the norm "beauty" attractive at all. i prefer alternative guys who are usually intelligent.
I dont look for whatever.. if i meet someone and and we click..hence a relationship will begin.. I dont have certain things i look for, its a waste of time and too many rules about things, it ridiculous.. Like I said, if i meet someone and we click, then it goes from there...
I would place brains over beauty any day of the week, although I would have to feel that "initial attraction" if I would go out with someone, because if you dont have that...it wont last.
i'd say personality over looks. looks matter to a certaint degree, but i think there are some girls out there wit beautiful personalities that it makes them hot. if that makes any sense?
My idea of beauty is far from the average idea of beauty, so I don't know how I would rate that anyway. But I'm definatly attracted to brainiacs. I don't care if it sounds elitist, but sometimes people are so stupid around me that I can't bare being around them. For instance- when I told this girl in my French class that I want to major in Latin American Studies, she asked me to speak Latin. :\ When I told her, "Oh, no no, it's South America, you know, they speak Spanish and Portuguese" she asked me, "Where is that?" I even asked her what twice to make sure I was hearing correctly. I don't care how gorgeous, musically talented, rich, interesting, or adventerous a guy is- if he's like THAT then I'll be far, far away.
