to pick out your own engagement ring? i think if im the one who's going to be wearing it i should pick it out first or at least pick out a few i like so i know he'll make the right choice. its not an issue of size just an issue of the cut and setting as he already know what size i want he's just into more traditional styles and i like more modern settings. he says he feels funny giving me a ring he didnt design but i found one i like thats retail and a lot cheaper then what he was going for. what do you think? should it be a collaborative decision or should i just let him suprise me?
I thinks its completly okay to help pick it out. But at the same time he should know your taste and know what you would like for a ring... But all in all i think you should decide on one together.
My faincée picked out her own, and I was more than happy to buy her the one she wanted...back in the days when I actually had money and a sorry excuse for a job, ahh. Congratulations, lynsey!
me and my fiance went to pick ours out together it was nice because we each got a ring that we would want to wear forever.
wow, that was really quick...a couple weeks ago you were so in love with dhs...you move on quickly, i will have to take lessons from you. and no it isnt a bad thing to pick out what you like....i have a friend that is a jeweler and that is absolutely normal.
You are engaged? Are you sure about this? Are you going back to your Ex? I'm stunned. I picked out my ring. My Mom gave me her wedding ring band and it was up to me to put a stone in it. I wanted to wear her ring and Bill didn't mind at all. We didn't have a lot of money when we first started out and my way was cheap but it had a lot of meaning. I have part of my Mom with me and part of my husband.
I'm all for picking it out with your fiancee. I know I definatly will whenever my boyfriend and I get to that stage because he can't pick out jewlery and I have specific tastes. To me, the most important part in that whole process is a unique proposal. Although I'll know that it's coming, based on shopping for a ring, I won't know when or how. I guess I'm just a hopeless romantic that way.
wow, that was really uncalled for considering you only know one side of the story and well frankly it's none of your buisness...
thats sweet Laura. you guys are such an awesome couple. i am engaged to this wonderful joint im smoking right now im thinking of calling it 'sorry your just not big enough to be a penis but ill still smoke ya'-i invented that joke last night heh.
There is nothing wrong with picking out your ring.. It will be on your finger.. Women like different sizes and shapes.. I don't like large rings, nor diamond shaped rings.. I'm picky, I'm a woman.. That's like us having to pick something to get our guy for a holiday/anniversary/birthday, we sometimes struggle.. I always ask him what he wants..
It's not wrong, I had the unique situation of having the stone before the ring, the stone was in a pendant and had originally come from my fiancee's great great aunt. When I asked her parents for their blessing, they gave me the pendant to use as the engagement stone. I asked her with the pendant and then together we picked out the ring that she wanted.
i picked out my ring but i had never worn gold before...it's white gold, i never liked yellow gold...and it turns out i'm allergic. major bummer as i love the ring
You want to run the whole thing don't you? Its not about him giving you a ring that he has chosen, its about your making sure that he makes the "right choice". Being picky about any gift given to you is incredably tacky. Your trying to control the buying of your engagement ring suggests how much of a partnership your marriage is going to be.
I don't think there's anything wrong with it at all. You probably have a better idea of what suits your finger shape, if nothing else. For example, I have pudgy sausage fingers rofl and wouldn't want a solitare because I would feel it looked weird... lol does that make sense lol? Anyway I wouldn't want to go right into the store and say "I want that one" but I think it makes sense to talk about it before it happens, so he has an idea of what you're hoping for. Why shouldn't you have imput?
i guess it would really depend on your reasons for wanting to pick it out. hopefully, though, your fiancee is intuned to these reasons. perhaps a certain stone would have more symbolic meaning for your marriage than a diamond, for example. or maybe you want to use a ring that has been in your family for generations. those are good reasons. if you're worried that he won't make the right choice, that's not a good reason. aside from that, it's really his gift to you. i think pointing to a specific ring and saying, "that one!" takes away from that... it's not from him as much. ultimately, though, a ring is just a symbol. think about the meaning behind the ring, and talk to your fiancee about the meaning he finds in it. some men might be offended by the idea, while others might be relieved by it.
