to tell someone that you like them? I can be so confident and I have no sense of shame in other situations, but when it comes to revealing my crush on someone, it's almost impossible. Especially this one guy - he's sweet, funny, intelligent, and we have so much in common...but I'd have so much trouble letting him know that I think this. ak i'm a dick. So yeah, why is it so hard? Who else is too shy to reveal their true feelings?
I know what you`re talkin about.. it`s reallly probly one of the hardest things to do I know.. simply go for it.
I understand, 'cause i'm like you. I guess i have that problem because when i try to say what i feel to someone, i think that maybe that someone will stop our existing relationship (a friendship, for exe.). "no way, she don't feel the same for me!..." this kind of things kill me.
yes exactly. He's a good mate - we have fun together as it is so i don't want to risk that. eh, it's scary :&
Fear of rejection. Thats why it's so hard. Seriously though, go for it. Don't miss the chance and then wonder "what if." It's the worst feeling in the world.
i know...that's exactly the advice I give everyone else, only it's so hard to take my own words of wisdom... it's also complicated with the whole we're friends thing. I'd rather have that then have the nothing that i might have if i did tell him.. if only i knew how he felt i could stop being such a loser, but meh... he keeps sending me mixed signals that i just can't interpret.
I wished it was simple as well. My biggest fear is rejection, i just feel like crap when i get rejected. I also am terrible with picking up signs ,and the games, im terrible at games cause i always lose and i never know whats going on luckly i know now the type of girl i want, so i dont feel so bad about the past and i will just go for it when i meet the right one.
talk to him! if you guys have a great friendship and enjoy spending time together, then that is a wonderful foundation for a relationship! at the same time, he might not want to risk losing the friendship you share.. so i wouldn't take it as a personal blow/rejection. if you talk to him about it casually, that should reduce your discomfort... sort of a way to protect yourself, i guess. maybe that's not the best advice, i don't know, but that's what i would do. and i'd think it should make him more relaxed and open, too. you could just mention that you've been picking up on some signals from him lately, and you're not sure if they're intentional or not, but you enjoy the signals you're getting. that might be a good way to start the conversation.
seriously, buy him a red rose! you can get an instant take on his reaction, go from there. 1. not a good reaction. pass it off as a joke, a whim, some fun. 2. good reaction. get on down...
