sex and love forum feels unwelcoming to me

a lot of these threads seem geared towards straight sexuality. for example, if a guy talks about his bulge, answers seem to be girls will look and men will be jealous. or there may be a thread asking the 'girls' whats the largest penis they have had.
or 'a thread for the guys' how do you like womens breasts, well maybe its not just men who are attracted to womens breasts.
while by defination there are going to be more straight people on this forum, i find sweeping statements unwelcoming.
is there a feeling that this forum should be for straight people and that same sex talk should stay in the gay forum?

S

 

Samhain, don't worry about posting on homosexual topics. You might find a few homophobic bastards poasting trying to defame you, but don't think anything of it. A lot (most I would have to say) of the members are bisexual or homosexual. I don't want to sound rude to anyone, but I think heterosexuals are out weighed by the 'others' (lol) I myself would post on threads that you start.

 

awww I'm sorry u feel unwelcomed here... We're not un-friendly! If you post most of us will probably answer seriously! There are some gay and bisexual people who frequent the boards. Any lifestyle and any person is excepted by me and I'm sure alot of us feel that way. Post away! I'd be intrested in hearing what you have to say and willing to help you research any concerns you have.

 

I don't have any particular feelings one way or the other about homosexuality. But heterosexuals are in the majority, and the majority of posts will be from that perspective.

I only contribute to a post from a heterosexual perspective not because I am homophobic but because that is the sum total of my sexual experience.

 

So what?
It's what happens when you choose a life-style that only includes like 2 % of the rest of the population. You just are going to feel queer in most places.

I do not really mean to seem brusque here, but why is it that you seem to think everyone else should change just to accomadate you? Seems a little bit self centered to me.

BESIDES --- Over in the Alternative Life-styles Section, the Welcome Mat is Out.

Stay here if you want.
But quit complaining if men and women act as if they like one another.

 

i don't think we are unwelcoming... i just think most of us are straight but that doesn't mean that we are homophobic or anything like that...

 

that sounded pretty harsh dontcha think?? i think the love and sex forum should be open to all types of love and sex, gay or not, hell if you wanna talk about having sex with sheep go for it, this is the sex forum!!

 

That was very much unecessarily harsh. Talk about all types of sex and love should be welcome here, and homosexual love - although not as common as heterosexual love - is not abnormal.

He's not complaining that women and men like each other. He's complaining about statements like yours. And besides, he didn't "choose" his "lifestyle."

 

Thanks for your replies I did percieve them as going to be negative and I wish I had given you all more credit.
to quote what someone had said I didn't choose my sexuality, if i could choose that i would have choosen to have a life that ment i could get married and have a family which is still not that easy for gay people.
And importantly I'm not stating that I felt that people where being homophobic, I just felt that people where exculding others by their statements, sadly I think i'm going to have to accept this being in the 2%!!!!

of course we only answer questions from the perspective of our own sexaulity, and if its talking about what you like and want thats fine. but if making statements of humans as a group, its worth remembering that its not only women that would be attracted to that 'bulge' and its not only men that fancy 'womens breasts' etc....

but thankyou all for listening to my rant, i think if one feels that there opinons are being listened to then they are likly to stay in forums

blessings

s

 

We try to keep an open mind on most everything here! As the others said you will get a lot less replies from your persepctive simply due to demographics.

Besides Love&Sex you might want to look in the Gay <-Click Link Forum as well, not sure if they have any subject based posting guidelines in there or not, I don't keep up with that forum.

 

Love is Love.. Sex is Sex.. it doesn't matter the sex. U can post whatever u want, and u'll get the responses from all points of view, most of the post are straight oriented because well.. most of them are.

I'm bi.. and I don't feel unwelcomed here.

 

funny- ive always been impressed about how open everyone in this forum is about being gay or bi or whatever they are!


im sorry you feel so differently though. i think its just habit for some to say 'hey, guys, how do you feel about breasts' but im also sure if a womyn was to respond and say 'i like em' no one would care... well i know only one person for sure who would, but he gets crap for it.

 

i like both sides




the inny's and outies

 

Well I don't,
But if you do, don't get riled, and complain about "feeling unwelcome", if not many others want to discuss it with you.

 

Well, personally, I'm straight. I was bi-curious when I was younger, but I am now straight.

Since I only speak from my own perspective, my response will always be from the straight-woman perspective of myself. I cannot change that.

If you are feeling that there is not enough homosexual representation in these threads, perhaps you should solicit some, from the homosexual forums. Give them a link and tell them to come on over!

I have never felt that there was an unwelcoming attitude toward homosexuals in the Love and Sex forums. Well, aside from the occassional "trolls", who will be derogatory, no matter where they are...

It seems to me that most people looking for advice on these threads, welcome everyone's advice, regardless of sexual orientation. I have yet to read a post where someone says "well I'm straight and you're gay, so you and I don't have the same problems". We all have trials and tribulations in love and sex, regardless of who turns us on.

 

it seems like people have started to post threads directed at both sexes now regardless of the subject matter.

thanks


S

 

I know most of the people here are very open-minded, and I know I myself am. I think a lot of the time when people post entries like that, they're not really thinking, you know? If a person is straight sometimes they just naturally address the opposite sex. I know most people here would definitely not mind opinions from the same sex as well, I know I'd welcome all opinions.

I'm sorry you've felt this way, but hopefully now you feel a bit more welcomed!

 

Do you think people read my thread and started to be more icluding in their langauge??
because ive defiantly seen a change

S

 

I haven't really noticed anything, but then, I'm not really looking for it, either.

But, if you're feeling more comfortable, I think that's a good thing-whatever the catalyst may be.

 

welcome to love and sex. hopefully things change a little . people are pretty open minded. now about the sex with sheep. has anbody done that? it illegal here cause this guy got caught and was prosicuted. later he killed himself. naturally couyld have moved away. but that was obviously not an option. and there i rant silly me