Hey guys....this is the deal...my guy is over in Afghanistan for a year....and we've been sooooo into each other since the very first moment we laid eyes on each other.....and 2 weeks ago he had to leave for deployment....(which he may be able to come home after 6 months instead of a year) but after a conversation with him on the phone tonite he has a lot of doubt in his voice about if we're gonna last or not....he's afraid I'm not going to last is what it is......sometimes I can't explain myself in words to him like he'd like for me too.....verbally that is.....b/c i get tongue tied a lot speaking to him when trying to explain how much i'm really into him.....but i wrote him this letter tonite........hoping it helps him understand me a little bit better....and the letter turned out to be better than I expected...........i'd like for you guys to read it and let me know what you think about it.....it's exactly how I feel.........but i just thought i wrote it really well.........what do you all think???? oh and any comments about it??? please feel free ~~~~~~Sometimes I feel you get really agitated with me. And sometimes I feel you get frustrated when talking to me. Like tonight wgeb we were talking you seemed very doubtful about things, especially, and mostly, about "us". I know you won't get this letter until a week or two weeks from now and you probably are thinking which conversation I'm talking about but that doesn't matter. What matters is that is worries me and bothers me to think and feel as if you are only thinking of how there will never be a you and I. As if you don't even have an offering of hope to give me. I feel as if you don't believe me when I say I miss you and how much you do mean to me but Brandon those questions are unfair. How could I possibly explain to you the depths of how much I miss you and care about you? Especially when the depths are neverending? You ask me to explain these things to you, these things which are, either fortunately or unfortunately, whichever way you choose to portray them as, impossible to explain. You may ask why would being unable to explain such feelings be something considered fortunate? Because you probably consider how I can't explain such feelings as unfortunate, right? Of course, which explains to me why you get frustrated when I can't, with words, explain my feelings to you. And I understand but sorry I am not. I consider it something fortunate because what I feel for you goes so deep it's worth so much more than words. Words are not good sometimes, but silence and stares are. You can learn so much more from someone and about someone by being quiet than from words that someone might say because words anyone can say, in any way and form and in any language which can have more than one meaning which can cause much confusion. Feelings are true, words a lot of times are just words. So I ask you to trust my feelings. And you may ask how can you know if my feelings are true? That's where trust and honesty come in. They aren't bought with words, they are bought with feelings. And feelings are sought by actions of faith which are blind because they can only be felt. And you may be thinking that I'm way in too deep but your thoughts, my thoughts, everyone's thoughts are all misleading at times. Thoughts are words. Remember that. Your instincts are not...they are feelings...so go with your instincts, they will never do you wrong. And as far as my instincts, you're written all over them. And I always follow my instincts....I do now, that I've met you. So I want you to know and understand that because I may not always be so open with words verbally that it doesn't mean I do not feel for you. I feel for you, miss you, care more about you than you believe. I want you to feel that. I want you to trust me, believe me, and have faith in me. I want you to understand that no matter what individual paths we must take in order to complete certain things we need to complete in our lives, understand that when all is done, you will be in my life, or my life will never be completed. I want you and I to be on the same page. It worries me when I hear doubts in your voice about the future and it hurts when you seem frustrated with me when I can't explain something I feel. Trust me, okay? I will never hurt you again. Just don't lose faith in me when I can't explain my feelings in words to you. I'm here, regardless, until the end.~~~~~~~~
stupid backspace key pushed me back a webpage and erased everything i had typed.. so sorry if this is not as detailed, and it's not meant to sound harsh or critical, i'm just trying to regergetate what i just typed, but shorter/faster. first, your letter sounds really accusatory. don't start with, "you are really agitated," and "you get frustrated when talking to me," because these are going to make him feel defensive. these are negative, accusatory statements. instead, say something positive, like, "i want to assuage your concerns," or "i want to make you feel secure in this relationship." don't make it sound like you're blaming him for not understanding your discomfort with verbal expression. put the focus on yourself; you want to make sure that he is happy and secure, not that you're hurt that he's insecure. really, there is a LOT of negativity in your letter. like when you said, "you don't even have an offering of hope to give me." squash that awful attitude! how about changing that to, "i am full of hope, and wish to share my hopes with you." do you see how that sounds better? that positive spin makes it have a more optimistic feel. just in terms of writing style, as a general rule, don't ask a question and then answer it. as in, "how can you know my feelings are true? that is where trust and honesty come in." instead, make it more like, "i hope you trust that my feelings are true," etc. it will flow better that way. too many question marks, for a letter. tell him, don't ask him. especially since it's a letter, not a conversation.. i'd change a lot of your questions to statements. i also wonder about when you wrote, "i will never hurt you again." again? i'm not trying to judge, but that's a bit of a red flag... did you do something in the past to violate his trust? and have you honestly seriously really truthfully deeply resolved the issue? it sounds like your man doubts that you will stay faithful, and possibly... cheat again? you're going to have to go a hell of a lot deeper than, "trust me, okay?" to convince him, or assuage his doubts.
