deathbed,,,and the awkwardness of paying last respects while they still living...

So tomorrow we are goin to see sister diffrance for what may well be the last time,,if it aint,,it will surley be the next to last..

Truley is gonna be a awkward time,,
see we goin to get her dog on account shes no longer able to care for him,,now she wants us to pick thru her personall possesions as well...

Tis fucked up,, she truly has a lot of "phamily", but do to the nationals,, there all in the woods.
She has no "family"..

So i know she needs us to pick thru her shit blah blah blah blah..

But it just seems so icky..

How would you handle it?

Luv~N~Lite

 

Ohw... tough one.. been very close to death several times.. always sucks big time. Good luck with it...

 

"near death",, and "death bed" are 2 entireley diffrent things..

Shes gone "livin on borrowed time" is what her doc told her,, 6 months at best (and he was bein kind, we give it 6 weeks)

Hell everyones been "near death" at least once in there minds eye.. few go giving all there shit away..

 

hey.. I've been 'near death' a couple of times, including near "death bed".. ok?

I know it's hard.. been there.. done that. Hold his hand, watched him struggle for like litteraly 24/7, although trying to get a few hours of sleep in shifts.. and was there when he actually died. Saw the body being washed, carried away.. and a few month later the same story again with another person.

You could've just asked instead of bashing me.. nice going dude, I was trying to be friendly.

 

its the way ya articulated yourself..

i wasnt bashing,, you said been near death yourself several times..
perhaps ya shoulda said
been there done that,,
or oh ive went thru that several times etc..

once again wernt bashin shit just commentin on a limited amount of info wich in my minds eye could only be interpreted the way i did..

 

oh you must try bein a cna or hospice..

 

what I do at the moment is harder then helping people through the deathprocess imho.. everyone dies sometimes.. not everyone suffers during life.

 

Death means shit to us,, its bein expeted to take momentos thats creepy...

 

try what again?

 

being at a death bed? Is no trying in that.. you do what you gotta do..

 

No, the sheep took care of that

 

I'd grab it all, tell her to have a good time, and get the hell out of there

 

someone dying isnt very hard to deal; with .....they no longer care about their stuff n just want company .its surviving somthing bad thats more painfull to watch ....its like life in jail is worse than a speedy excecution .

 

I think that yes she probably does care about her stuff,and maybe she cares about you and wants to give you a part of herself.She probably does need to have people around her who care,if you can imagine what that feels like,then you will know what to do.Surround her with love and light,in person and from afar...You will be okay,good luck!

 

That's cool she wants you to choose something to remember her by. A momento for you to hold onto,something to pass on to a son or daughter. Be gracious & accepting. It's an act of love from her for you. I sat with an elderly person who passed. The 'family' arrived after the funeral to glean any little bit they could from the house;they even took the roll of toilet tissue from the roller & the shower head! These folks are bankers,real estate brokers,not poor or needy,GREEDY! She may be wanting to prevent that scene from happening after her death. NOT ALL FAMILIES ARE LIKE THIS,but....

 

back..


Wernt to bad,, still was creepy..

Diffrance givin us hell cause we didnt bring the truck just brought the blazer..

Thank the goddess!!!

Man as it was we had the whole back of the blazer,, all the back seat except room enough for the dogs,,(we took the pup and met brother wing outside of atlanta an he took seeker) and the whole roof full..

The dood that is takin care of her said she hadnt been to the woods for 2 weeks before we came down,, an she spent a good 8 hours yestrday in her enchanted forest gatherin trinkets she wanted us to have..

She still wants us to come get a second load...

shes makin a A.D. list..

wants us to pick all the bone fragments outta her ashes before we sprinkle them and divvey them up for ourselves,also if someone will kick down the cash she wants to have her tattoos tanned and made into shadow boxes an shit for all of us.... lmao..


gonna miss her when she checks out,...