Slutty or not

Is it slutty of a girl giving glances at another guy in admiration, when she already has a bf?

Is it slutty of her to point out to her friends how attractive other guys are, in front of her bf?

 

no. guys do it all the time! some say that it is slutty but they are just hipocrites.


as long as you are just admiring it isn't. if you want to have sex with them but don't it shows your loyalty to your b/f. if you do have sex with them then it is slutty.

 

If the girl wants to have sex but doesn't have the guts to go through with it , then you can still question her loyalty I think.. it's just simply that she lacked courage.

 

I don't really label people as slutty but maybe something that I wouldn't do or don't agree with?
The first one, no. I think its fine, she's looking but not touching.
The second, I think its ok as long as she's not saying really explicit things as I think that would probably upset the boyfriend a bit!

 

guys get jealous of their g/f looking at other guys. don't ask me why but we are very possesive.

 

... And when girls see their boyfriends looking at other women and commenting on their looks, they don't get jelous?

 

I don't care what anyone says. EVERYONE LOOKS! So it doesn't make people slutty. I'm sure the boyfriend looks at girls too.

 

I hate this word, slutty.... What the hell is it supposed to mean? Especially in a Hippie Forum? A word like that is all about judging other peoples' sexuality by your own.... Let's just abolish this word like ****** or kyke....

 

I use the term slutty to refer to someone who sleeps around with a lot of different people, whether in a relationship or not. I don't care who I offend or who i make enemies with, it's my opinion.

and that doesnt make her slutty, if she looks. look, don't touch.

 

Why is that slutty?

 

okay, lets put it this way, if you need lipclips, you did a few too many people.

Sex is, for me, not for everyone, but for me either a way to make babies or make love with someone very special.

 

Depends on how long they couple have been together, I mean if its a long term relationship and theres trust and stability between the couple I cant see why there should be a problem.

 

But that's just it... you admit that your opinion is not everyone's, so using such abusive language isn't Politically Incorrect or something, it's just not nice. It's passing a judgement about something which you admit you do not understand...

My point about "slutty" is that sex is a really amazing gift that everyone should ideally have respect for... Now, for lots of people, respect doesn't mean monogamy and baby breeding... Respect is treating the act and sexuality in general in a non-abusive way... Blatantly gaping and leering at another person in front of your "other half" is not nice and can feel threatening, so it is not respectful.

Judging other people's sexuality and non-monogamous lifestyles is also disrespectful, and therefore, slutty...

 

I'm sorry, I'm pretty sure I said "I use the term slutty to refer..."

I use. -I-. get it? I didn't call anyone a slut in particular, I just said what kind of person I think is one.

"Judging other people's sexuality and non-monogamous lifestyles is also disrespectful, and therefore, slutty..."
thats an interesting way to use the word slutty. And Judging is a part of life. Everyone does, whether its inteninal or not.

 

Interesting, but accurate. And it's not the judging I'm referring to, but the use of abusive language. Use of abusive language is intentional and something I thought was not acceptable in the HipForums.... Refering to people with different sexualities as "slutty," would you call gay people slutty too, or no, because you are told that's not "cool" now?

 

some in this world do not think it "socially acceptable" to sleep around with lots of different men with no strings attatched.

personally i dont care how many people a girl sleeps with, the moment i get mad is when people start fucking around spreading diseases, there is no need.

but anywho back to the original post

i think that its ok for guys and girls to look, but i think even if you know you're only just looking and dont want to anything from them, its mean to do it in front of your partner, it just makes them jealous and annoyed that you might not be happy enough with them.

 

this all implies that being 'slutty' as you say, is a bad thing

 

i say look look look. my husband looks at different womwn all the time. i don't do it often (aren't many good looking guys where i live), but when i do, my oldman bitches. he needs to understand that just like he feels the need to look at anything with a snatch, occasionally i'm gonna find a man that catches my eye & like it or not i'm gonna give him the once (maybe twice) over.

 

"slutty" is a bad thing. Its called effective language. If a person sleeps around you migh call them promiscuous if you didn't think it was bad. If you call someone a slut its generally known that it carries negative connotations.

 

Interesting arguments. I dont usualy think people are "slutty," sometimes Ill say it out of spite, but I dont really mean it. I mean there are people who have sexual relasionships that I dont agree with, but its not for me to say if they are a slut or not. Im not very concerned with the other people around me. If they want to mess around and fuck like rabits then thats fine.

....but back to the original question lol. I dont think it is really a bad thing to look at other people in admiration if you have a boyfriend or girlfriend. I personaly look at guys and girls alike. I just appreciate the beauty of people inside and out, so if an attractive guy or girl goes by Ill look. I dont look at them thinking "oh god! they are hot I want to fuck them," but I look at them thinking "wow they are really attractive."