This is directed towards those who, like me, have parents with different views and beliefs on most things. My dad is a Christian, pro-gun, deer hunting, Bush loving, war supporting, Republican with some racist tendencies. My mom doesn't really care that much but she is a big Christian. When it comes to me either protesting something or having a certain opinion, my mom is rather open-minded. But my dad is a different story. Religion wise, he's all right with me exploring different things. But when we start talking about politics, we tend to get into heated debates. We are complete opposites when it comes to things like that. The one thing my mom cares about is music. My mom is all right with my music choices because she listens to the same things. But when it comes to my brother's angry Satanic death metal, she hates it. She's tried to censor his music but to no avail. My point is, how many of you tend to clash with your parents on certain views and things? If so, how do you handle it?
i clash mainly with my father....why? well hes a minister and well just recently our relationship has been on the right track, but growing up with him, well lets just say he was the biggest hypocrite there was. hes very close minded but loves music, him and i agree on music. so thats good. my mom on the other hand, calls her self a christian, shes a good person but ehhh... however her and i clash the most b/c our personalities tend to be the same at times. we even look alike she doesnt appreciate good music, and shes also close minded, doesnt like to have fun, sleeps too much, dislikes socializing, doesnt like to do crazy stuff just for the hell of it....so yah shes boring my dad actually had the nerve to tell me at one point. 'if you become a lesbian, ill shun you' whatever. yah so i dont know how i turned out this way but whatever
I used to clash with my mum a lot because she's pretty conservative and narrow-minded and she worries way too much about other people's opinions. She's not a very open person either and she has never really showed very much emotion or anything like that. She's also pretty judgemental and has a hard time accepting that I do things my way and not her way. But she's still my mummy, and she's a wonderful person, and I wuv her. I don't really know my father at all.. He and my mum are still married (have been for about 30 years now) and he was always around but never paid much attention to me unless it was something negative. We used to have horrible fights and it's now beyond the point where I would try to understand him. I suppose the most important thing is mutual respect. Your parents should respect the fact that you're an individual that has his/her own opinions and beliefs and even though they may disagree they should still respect you. And same goes for you of course.
my mum is a very loud,with racist tendancies and very strong opinions about everything and everyone. she is very judgemental and tends to make her mind up and form predjudice opinions about people before she has even said anything to them which can cause problems. for example she is sure that my mate charlotte is a druggie and never talks to her and wont let me go to her house which i find annoying and we tend to have big arguments and fights about it. we are similar in that we have short tempers and can be very loud at times. My dad is quiet, hardly ever shouts and is a total bookworm. he likes to think he is very clever and important. he has a subscription to the national geographic and which? magazine to prove it. we dont fall out purely because he would just walk away at the first sign of an argument.
My 2 parents are elementery school teachers. I clash with my two parents about two main things : hair and school . My mom will insist and play the victim until she gets what she wants, she's always good in shouting too. My dad likes great music and vw vans, that's the only thing we talk a lot about . he used to do things like smoking weed in drinking while he was in university but now he is a total straight-edge with me. These are my parents, they are the only i will ever have so i must live with them... I love them (most of the time)
We have very diffrent mindsets, and disagree on so many things. All the big stuff; War, politics, religion etc, and just stupid petty details. Though I've never done anything (like doing drugs, screwing around) that goes against their very core values. So there's been no need for serious confrontation. We just ride it out and agree to disagree. Seems most of our disagreements were/are me spoiling for a fight. So I try to let it go, know by now what gets us going so don't bring those things up. For a harmonious family life. For the most part we just get on with it, and they don't really care what I do/think. Not in a neglectful way, just 'well you're nearly 20, and a decent person, so we'll humor you'. Which is fine by me
my dad claims to be a christian, yet i know more about the history of christianity than he does.. in fact, he knows absolutely nothing. he supports the union he's a part of, claims to like his civil liberties, and no longer supports the war... but yet he supports george w. bush and the rest of those uber-right psychos. as is expected, we dont really get along at all. the only thing we ever talk about now is baseball.. he used to always whine and bitch about my hair and my clothes and my dropping out (in his mind, homeschooling is the same as dropping out), but now we just avoid each other...well, he sits in his room sleeping and playing online poker when he's not at work, and so its not that hard to stay away from him.. my mom's rather cool, i 'spect i'm her favorite kid. :H
well... the only thing really... my dad hates the music i listen to. my mom likes most of it, except for marilyn manson. we agree on all political issues.
are you sure your not my sister? my mom and i never clash. She never bothers me with anything. My dad on the other hand is crazy. total soldier. but hey at least he hasnt hit me since i got big enough to hit back.
My mom is always going to church alone on Sundays because my dad and I stay up late talking and everything. My mom likes the rolling stones and aerosmith and stuff like that, but she likes crappy pop music like barry manilow, sometimes. She's from Indonesia and mostly lived around Bali once she became a dancer/actor/musician. Both of my parents were really into music, but they don't play any instruments anymore. Basically, she would be considered a liberal there, as most people are strict muslims. She's pretty open minded as long as you don't break any laws or anything. My mom is always usually friends with my friends and treats them like her friends. She can really worry too much about me sometimes and always tries to get me to carry my cell phone, but I hate that thing so I gave it to my dad since he didn't have one and my mom does. Both of my parents know I smoke. I don't do it around my mom, but my dad is fine with it, though he can't do it because of work.... we usually stay up to like 4am. He's a big beer drinker, but I don't really drink, so that's what he does. He's a pyromaniac and always sits on the floor by the fireplace and is obsessed with making the fireplace more efficient and whatnot. My dad used to be a big stoner and he says he's christian because he's used to it and that's how he was raised, but he hates going to most churches and doesn't really care for a lot of the crazy southern conservative christian types of people or anyone like that. He's been racist a few times... mostly when he was drunk and has nobody to blame something on, which was kind of funny because it's really unbelievably obnoxious and he shuts up after I start laughing. My dad works at a power plant for a papermill that recycles old paper and makes it into non-bleached boxes. He saw what happened to Alaska and lived there since the 70s. He's seen everyone from Alice Cooper to the Zep in concert and he's the one who first taught me piano and how to tune my guitar from EADGBE to Open G for slide and whatnot. He got me into the blues and usually supports and agrees with me as long as my mom isn't around. Sometimes I'm not sure what parent I'm closer to. My dad also taught me my first piano chords. He used to play Hammond Organ/Piano and dobro/slide guitar for his uncle's church. My great uncle was the town doctor of Chilhowie, VA in the 60s/70s/80s and he was a lutheran church pastor, but he was Bisexual.... in the 70s my dad was in the Coast Guard in the Texarkana/MS/TN area. He's also worked for the Foresty Dept (he likes music and the outdoors). He's hiked the Applachian Trail and managed clearing for it in Virginia for a while. He used to fly helicopters in the Coast Guard but got kicked out for smoking weed during a month long camping trip in British Columbia with my mom... ended up getting honorabally discharged after begging the head of the coast guard dude in DC. He played blues and bluegrass when he lived (was born there too) in the appalachians and went to school with guitarist Robert Cray while living in Newport News, VA. I think he and his friend were also babysat by Bonnie Raitt while in NC, but she quit babysitting (before she was famous) after his friend's brother drowned.
I can't realy chat about my 'real' parents (because i was adopted at 3).. but my adoptive parents are cool (now).. thats a bout it realy. Apart from they bought up one hell of a son..
haha, i'd write about my parents on here but guess what my dad's going to take a look at the site because he thinks i'm doing drugs and it's because of this website. what a retard hi daddy.
My mom and I are always arguing or disagreeing about something. We have very different tastses in music, and we both have very different political views. She thinks that I'm an ass for thinking that the theory of Communism is cool (eventhough it doesn't work in practice). She's always on my back about something mostly about how I dress (t-shirts and jeans in just about every weather), and about my slothfulness, and reluctance to clean my room. She also hates that I support NORML (National Organization for the Reform of Marijuana Laws), I told her that I wanted to donate and she blew a fit. It's not like we hate eachother, or never get along, we just have conflicting views on a wide range of topics. But don't get me wrong, I love my mom and I don't know what I would do without her. My dad and I are very similar. We like a lot of the same things, especially music. He is more open-minded than my mom about politics, religion, music and whatnot. He's a very relaxed and laid back kind of person. He is easy to talk to, and to relate to. We disagree about legalization, and about my support for NORML, but as long as he doesn't catch me doing anything illegal he's cool with it. He tends to have less of a social life than my mom, but it doesn't make him bitter. I love my dad, and I thank God that he's in my life. I could go on forever about my personal views and whatnot. Personally, I think that I'm more open-minded than my parents, but I also understand that they have had more life experience than me. It doesn't stop me from loving them any less.
