So should I just speak up

I'm with a new boy, and I like him a lot. We've 'been' together a few times, and its really good, but its a tiny bit off the mark... There's some things that I really like that I know would take me over the edge if he did them, but I guess I'm a bit embarrassed about just saying it up front...

any advice?

 

tell him woman! he'll be happy you told him when he sees what it does to you

 

how though, I think thats the problem, I dont know what exactly to say

 

what are you trying to say?
greg

 

just you know, where and how, and how fast or slow, that sort of stuff.

 

I think you should be snoopy about it, and ask him to teach you how to give head the way he wants you to, and you can show you what you like in return. Try to work it that way, so he doesnt have to feel like he is the only one not knowing what you like.
greg

 

why I do always say snoopy, I meant sneaky.
greg

 

tell him

 

Tell him you would like to try something a little different. Your being honest and getting the point across without hurting his feelings.

 

girl, be straight with him. tell him what drives you wild & then ask him to share the same. if you don't wanna do it that way, use cues during sex - the louder you get the more he knows you like it; use your hands to reposition him ect. don't be timid, go after what pleases you & learn what pleases him.

 

Do what my girl does,,,,just tell you flat out what you want,,,,it makes it Hotter having her tell me exactly what she likes/dislikes about what im doing.....unless hes a complete asshole, hell be cool about it.

 

If you want him to do something kinky but he might be agianst it and your not sure, ask him what he thinks about that kind of behavior before asking him. If he is like "People who do that are sick and will go to hell", then you might not want to ask, but if he is like "I might wanna try that", or "that is hot", or something, then you could ask him.

If your not talking about kinky things you should just right out tell him exactilly what you want.

 

No i'm not, I mean places I like to be touched and ways I like to be held....

 

If it's places you want to be touched,then guide his hands while you're making love. Try to show him,without having to say it. Use your body language. You know what I mean? It's hard to say things sometimes...so you have to get creative with it instead

 

communication is key, just be up front

 

Just put it where you want it, and show him how you like it, whatever it is. You shouldn't have to say a thing, unless you're really particular about the details. He'll catch on. Why is what we like such a secret?

 

I dont know, I guess I dnt want to make him feel like hes been doing it wrong, he hasnt, its just there are somethings I want that I'm not getting I guess

 

Give him hints, be serious but playful. If the passion's high, tell him directly.

 

Some things you can lead him to, with your hands. others, Hell girl, tell him how you want it.

Some guys I've been with wern't too experienced and seemed afraid they would "break" me, I guess. A "Damn, Fuck me hard" works fine and doesn't seem to upset them.

Sometimes with a new guy, I'll just lay across his knee and wiggle my bare ass, and he usually gets the hint and spanks me, THEN I get the paddle. Don't need to say a word.

I'll get on my knees on the bed or floor if I want it doggie, and lift or lower my ass depending on whether I want it "normal" or anal.

And I'll "coach" him if he's going down on me....."A litle higher"......"down a little"....."deeper"....."easy"....."faster"....."Aw, right there...Oh MY GOD!"...

Get the idea? Usually you can control the position by getting into the position you want, he'll comply!

 

Before my boyfriend and I actually had sex, we used to swap erotic fantasies. Like "Tell me what would drive you absolutely WILD" type things... When we started out relationship, we already knew every little thing the other one likes... Including all the kinks LOL!

I think it's a good idea (as a previous poster mentioned) to first ask him to tell you what thing would give him the most pleasure... Then it would be easy for you to continue with what YOU really like... Then try it all out.