Okay.... How do my fellow non-Abramic pagans, nature worshippers, etc feel their faith has impacted their sexuality? Personally, I guess I've become much more open to less-mainstream ideas of sexuality and sexual acts... I think I've actually become much more reverential towards sexual acts in fact! That line in the Charge, "all acts of pleasure are my ritual" really spoke to me... Whether my partner is aware of it, I've come to realize that every time I have a sexual experience, it's on this completely different level, this completely different space. I've been pagan longer than I've been sexually active, but Recovering from Catholicism took years... I think I've also become far more sensual.... Like, not lewdly, but inherently, because all pleasure I experience I know is like performing a ritual in honor of the Goddess, I just *feel* more. One of my ex's was a virgin while I was far from... When he looked into my eyes and told me that he wanted me to be his first, oh man! I instantly morphed into sex priestess mode, like I was a priestess of Aphrodite intiating this young man into the world of sex... Okay, so being a virgin you know he was done in two minutes, but so was I because I was just that high off the entire situation.... So, how do you think your spirituality, your faith, has shaped your sexuality?
Like yourself, I was Pagan before I was sexually active, although I wasn't really serious about my faith to being with.After I had sex for the first time I was just greedy for ages and didn't pay much attention to my partner's needs. But as I've delved deeper into Paganism I've become more attentive to my partner's needs, and to be honist it feels good to make sure whoever I'm sleeping with gets just as much pleasure as myself
The great thing about paganism is that it celebrates sex, not try to hide it away as a dirty little secret. Everyone is the result of sex, without exception, if sex didn't exist, we would not exist. All sorts of sex is great, stright, gay, bi, etc.. so long as no one gets hurt - and well well well, pagans have got that covered by the wiccan rede (even if you're not wiccan, most neo-pagans follow the idea of "do what you want, so long as none get hurt"). So why shouldn't we enjoy sex? (fancy a shag )
Well.... Will/want are not the same thing, and Harm/hurt aren't either, but that's not the point of this post...
I agree with everyone here, I've also been pagan or atleast interested in paganism way before I was sexually active, I'm bi and am an extreamy sexual person, I do alot of things considered "kinky" and I think that just being an open-minded person has played a big part in it. and I think that being spiritual and viewing sex in a spiritual way is key.
In case you hadn't heard, celtgrrl and I are getting married in July, and I am looking for a specific ceremony. The officiate asks "Will you hurt to this person?" and the standard response is "Yes", followed by "Is this your intention?" and the response "No". We hurt each other daily without realizing it because, as humans, we are oafish and self-centered by nature. As to the sex question, I find that I am more open to experiment, more comfortable with myself and less subject to taboos that my old life would have mandated. So yeah, it's amazing.
Congrats Zoomie & celtgrrl Hard to say really, my morality was pretty set before hand (pagan a year or so vs thinking for twenty) and am still a virgin. Do agree with the less taboo aspect and being open minded. Also that sex is something special, that's why I'm waiting. Haven't found a guy yet who's 'worth it' and I've got my pride. Definetly have the confidence to get what I want/need and am not compromising. LOL maybe that's why I'm still single, probably scare guys off.
This thread has me curious, beyond tantric sex for a moment, are there any modern pagan practices that mix sex with ritual or something similar?
I think that's one of the first things that I liked about Wicca, how it doesn't regard it as such a taboo subject. Absolutely... and I'm so glad that it's something that as a pagan community, everyone is embraced equally rather than having lines drawn in the sand as to what's morally correct or incorrect..
Since I've been Wiccan, I feel much more relaxed with myself. Like when I first started learning about Wicca I was 13 years old, not really into sex lol. But last year when I was 16 I realised I was bisexual and I believe Wicca has made me feel so much more at peace with myself. My mum's a Catholic and is in complete denial and refused to speak to me just because I'm bisexual, so I did depend on my religion a lot more. I think its made me grow, be more open minded, be relaxed about it and, although it sounds corny, realise that everyone is beautiful no matter what their sexuality and no one has the right to say whats wrong or whats 'dirty'. In a sexual act way, again, I think its made me more relaxed, I just feel more at peace with myself so I don't feel any of the pressure of, "you've been dating him for a week, have sex with him, have sex with him" lol!
