been crazy about this girl for 3 years now, never told her. she might have felt the same way all this time, or part of it, or maybe none of it, who knows but today she messaged me to read her livejournal (though i initiated the conversation, she didnt IM me out of the blue and tell me to read it) and i became incredibly hopeful that her recent entries gavesome clues...her recent entry is a deep reflection on current hardships, which seems to imply relationship problems (she has a bf) and that when one thing leaves your life, it opens room for something new. maybe this is a clear message to me, or maybe im totally reaching. the fact is im a big wuss cus i never said anything to her, and it will probably stay that way. she seemed intent that i send her a message tomorrow. maybe she wants me to tell her im crazy about her. or maybe she just wants some support from a friend in hard times. who knows? but i dont know if im willing to go out on that ledge and tell her how i feel. the joy she would bring me if we were together would be so great that it hurts to think about, and maybe i would be able to give her happiness in return. i know what your all going to say. tell her. i know. but i have been so programmed to be fearful of these situations that i dont know if i will ever be able to do what i know is right. i have NEVER told a girl i like her. i have always just let them come to me, then i turn them away cus they are nasty ppl. shame on me
Its easy for everyone else to say "tell her! why have you been waiting so long?" The truth is, you could easily screw up a good friendship if there is one by telling her how you really feel- the one thing you could do is try to discern her feelings by asking her questions that dodge coming out honestly and asking her how she feels about you. You could see if you are getting any positive clues or responses, and work from there. Other than that, you just have to follow your gut feeling and intuition. That help at all?
no the worst thing that could happen is that you dont tell her, and she gets together with one of your best friends trust me, tell her
Tell her. The worst thing that can happen is rejection and even then, she may come to change her mind. I had a humongous crush on a guy for 2 years and I finally just blurted out that I liked him one day and nothing changed between us for awhile, then one day we started really talking and we clicked and we ended up dating. So even if she does reject you, don't give up hope completely. Good luck!
Yeah but if she doesn't fancy him he might lose her as a friend too, because it'd be an odd situation. So, I'd recommend not telling her straight away, but just try and spend some time with her as a friend, listen to her problems, be there for her. And then I am sure it'll turn out well. Don't rush it, take your time hun. I'm like you in that way, I'm really shy too. And it doesn't matter how often people will tell us wusses to just do it, it's hard to get over that fear of rejection.So, whatever you decide to do, good luck!
Bullshit. You're never going to know if you don't act on it, right? So, just get it over with and put an end to your agony. Offer her friendship during this hard time with her boyfriend, but avoid being her rebound, as well. We've all been there and we know it's tough, but make it like ripping a Band-Aid. Quick and painless. You'll finally know for sure how she feels and vice versa. And I'm sorry, but if you telling her how you feel destroys the friendship - it wasn't a solid friendship to begin with. Cheers to you, do it, and let us know what happens.
Yeah, like rider says... Just do it, if she rejects you it won't be that hard if you're really friends and it's great joking material afterwards Besides I have a friend with the same problems, he wanted this chick and she actually though he was 'cute' too, but before he could pull himself together she found an other that dared asking.
tell her if telling her makes you lose her as a friend, then she certainly is not the one who you are destined to spend your life with, and so why should it matter to you if you only see her sometimes?
