Something Skycanvas posted got me to thinking. (yeah I know you are all going to hate reading that soon note to Heat...stop thinking. : ) ) Why is it that, in a situation that a man was a widow and raising his children, he would be viewed as a good man almost a hero for doing a great job with raising his children. Hang, even if he was not doing such a great job we would grant him the leeway saying well he is a widow and you know the drill. Doing his very best, life has handed him something more than should be. In the case of a man raising his children probably or possibly through no wish of his own (not the raising but the on his own) and doing it as it is what he knows he should do and wishes to do as a Daddy. We do not know the reasons why he has no wife or significant other, we wonder why.....we wonder how they will cope, we wonder who will provide a balance of mommy or female influence in the mix. We somehow assume that it is not the norm. In a norm we would always put in a mommy, daddy, siblings, happy etc.....but that is not real life for so many. In the case of it not working out, we put in a mommy, siblings, happy and a daddy who visits. Why do we instead, not consider that it may just be daddy, siblings, happy and a mommy who visits? What have we been taught as a society is family, or perhaps what we percieve to be a family. And why? Just curious as to thoughts.
Very SIMPLE! Since TIME Immortal, MAN has been out of the home, doing what needed to be done so everyone could EAT. (Cro-Magnon to Present) While the mother has been in the dwelling, caring for the offspring. That's all Society has known. It's kind of a shock to the system for the roles to be reversed.
While I can understand the primal drive and what has driven us from there to being here.......How then today do we reason it away. Today many women do not depend on a Male to support even at the offset of financial....let alone emotional. I have never once even pondered how a child in my kids school is met by a mother.....never once wondered where daddy is. In the situation where daddy is picking up the kids......I wonder. That is wrong.......but to be honest still, do so. I am not saying this is right, just saying this is what I have found..... why do we assume that mommy is a family.......it is wrong, as many times daddy is. Strange
Hell I haven't seen my two boys goin on 10 damn years and them fuckin punks would probably want to try my ass if they ever got the chance.
Have you asked them? Maybe you should as their answer after a little time to adjust to fact that you might just want to see them again, might just surprise you. We never outgrow our need of parents.
I agree with you but also lament that this is so, as today many children are being raised by their daddy....and raised with love as their daddy wants them and wants to be active and raise them. We be a funny lot for those who think we have progessed.
I have been a stay at home dad for a long time. There is a lonliness in this job,because it isn't very well understood and accepted.I have a brilliant, powerful, and beautiful wife that makes a lot more money than I ever did,and I got the nurture part down better than her. She would be frustrated as a full time mom,and I love doing it,even though it's a difficult thing to do. The most difficult part for me is the lack of adult company,Most of the other at home parents are women and a lot of them aren't comfortable hanging with a guy. I'm too busy to go anywhere much anyway.
I'll just add this - men have a tendency to be stack-brained and task oriented, whereas raising kids requires a level of EQ and multitasking that makes most men just completely lock up their brains hard. That's why.
I've been an on the road daddy every since I found out the old lady was knocked up. I told the bitch I didn't want to support anymore damn kids as I had done there and been that in a previous marriage to a Mexican woman from Tulsa.
MattInVegas: Sure they have! They're always being portrayed in movies. They're the ones who cannot perform any task without setting fire to the house, letting the kids run rampant, feeding chili to babies, etc. etc. etc. because deep down all men are complete retards that need to be corralled and manipulated by women. Fuck they even got Vin Diesel to make a movie like that.
I just have to applaud you Keepin'on. There needs to be more men out there like you! I think what you're doing is wonderful! I'm a stay-at-home mother myself, and I can completely relate to how you feel about the lack of adult company. There is a stay-at-home father on my street. He's super nice and always taking his kids out for bike rides and to the park. I think it's awesome. You can tell he just adores his kids. I've met his wife as well, and she's a sweetheart.
Some people think men should do the work and wemon should stay at home, I disagree. If a woman makes 200,000 a year and a man makes 30,000 a year then he should stay home shouldn't he? Or vice versa, has nothing to do with sex. Anybody who thinks is does is a weirdo.
uh, it's just as much your fault as it is "the bitch's" for getting pregnant with your offspring. takes two to tango, dude. you have no idea how your children are, nor do you care...how do you even KNOW your kids are punks? maybe they turned out to be great people, and you don't even know. are you just incapable of loving someone you helped bring into this world? eh, bugger it. you don't deserve to know your kids. they are much better off without you...
