How do you guys know?

Discussion in 'Coming Out and Confused!' started by PhOeNiX_fIrE, Mar 14, 2005.

  1. PhOeNiX_fIrE

    PhOeNiX_fIrE Member

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    I was just wondering what it feels like to be gay ( or straight for that matter). I'm bi, and I just don't really understand it. What repulses you so much about the opposite sex (or same sex) that you couldn't bring yourselves to ever even think about being with someone from that gender. For me, if I meet someone and I feel a connection sometimes i get attracted to them, it doens't really matter what they are. When you're gay, don't you ever get attracted to people of the oppostie sex? I guess what I'm trying to ask is what makes you gay? Is it a decision that you make because of past experiences, or do you think you're just born that way... and... do you ever question it or wish you weren't?
     
  2. PhOeNiX_fIrE

    PhOeNiX_fIrE Member

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    I'm not being critical whatsoever. I'm just curious.
     
  3. Zypher

    Zypher Member

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    i think it differs from person to person. I don't think being gay is nessaccarily about being repulsed by the opposite sex more just you don't feel that atraction maybe there have been past experiences that affect this but i think its not a decision neone concieously makes it can be a sudden or gradual transition but not a decision. Some peopl were born that way some people wont I believe we are a product of our environment and we just need the right stimulas. The right person. maybe you might be the straightest person in the world n oneday you meet someone of the same sex and your atracted to them n you dont understand it. its just natural laws of atraction..there is none! the same thing can work for gay people but its just like tatse in food you cant reely help what you do and dont like but oneday you wake up with a sudden craving for asparagus having never liekd or touched it in your life. thats my theory ! peace!
     
  4. Zypher

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    btw let me just say you know how you feel about someone boy or girl sometimes you cant put your finegr on it but you know how you feel. No one can change that or try and tell you its just hormones or something how you feel is how you feel. love is love. etc etc
     
  5. Defence_mechanism

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    pheonix fire, i think you'll find (and correct me if im wrong, fellow queers :p) that most gay people aren't repulsed by the opposite sex. most will quite happily say that there is a chance they will sleep with or want to sleep with someone of the opposite sex at some point in their lives. have you not also noticed that gay guys are quite likely to say "she's hot", and lesbians are quite likely to say "yeah he's cute"?

    in general, gay people (and bi people) go through a shitload of soul searching and most have travelled through the spectrum from straight to gay. so a lot of gays have actually 'been there' and found that at the time they were attracted to the opposite sex. its just that they kept travelling and realised that, "hmm, you know what? i like my own gender better." :)
     
  6. Duncan

    Duncan Senior Member Lifetime Supporter

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    Actually I've known a few gay people who are repulsed by the SAME SEX. That's why they continue doing it ;)
     
  7. enquvist

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    Lol!!!
     
  8. Axion

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    i am not gay, but i want a man to cum in my ass, so it is all about preference and desires i guess
     
  9. gertie

    gertie Senior Member

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    i think we put too much importance in our society on labeling someone gay or straight. maybe that just me. i guess i'm bi, but the labels just seem a forced fit.
     
  10. rainbowcoloreddark

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    labels are so effing limiting. i cant stand them. ill call myself gay to simplify it for some people. its hard to describe in so many words 'i like girls alot, but if a guy came around that i fell for, i would let myself fall for him'.

    and its not a question of repulsion. its more what is MORE attractive. at least to me. i would much rather have a girls big thighs wrapped around me than a boys scrawny ones. boys have no butts and girls have AMAZING butts.

    so yeah.
     
  11. rainbowcoloreddark

    rainbowcoloreddark Member

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    and good for you! i hope you get that.
     
  12. LOSTBOY7

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    i am bi but i fell in love with a girl so that makes me str8t to most people but if i had fell in love with a guy that make me gay to most people. but becus i am bi i feel gay and st8t depening on the mood i am in
     
  13. ThisBirdHasFlown

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    see I'm having a similar issue. I'm debating whether I'm bi or a lesbain. The only thing right now that keeps me thinking that I'm bi is that I've had a crush or two on guys and was in love once. I also wouldn't rule out having sex with a guy... it's just not really something that interests me. I know sexuality is very fluid and I'm not concerned about labels... I was just wondering if someone who considers themselves to be gay has ever felt the same way.
     
  14. PhotoGra1

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    I think the answer is surprisingly simple: I like cocks & I don't like the pink-nasty.
     
  15. shevek

    shevek Just Myself

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    I use the word gay for myself as a handy shortcut, but it really doesn't say a lot; it only says that I almost always go for guys, but I've done a few ladies too. Sexuality is a really complicated business, and one that, like life, is a constant process of self discovery; labels really are an injustice. I do remember one guy who made fun of the whole labeling business by pasting labels such as "queer" and "faggot" all over his jacket; he definitely had the right idea.

    As for guys' butts, I've known some pretty amazing bubble butts, and used to have one myself. And oh I loved to see guys in tight blue jeans; I think they all wear baggys nowadays because they might be scared that some gay guy will notice their butts. :) Yet some of them will walk around with several inches of underwear showing above their pants, so go figure.
     
  16. SageDreamer

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    I'm not repulsed by women. I'm just sexually indifferent to them.
     
  17. Lagidae

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    Oh, yeah! I love macho glutes with an insolent swagger. Absolutely hypnotic. A law should be passed obligating all males to wear wet, flesh colored lycra in public under penalty of incarceration in a gay disco.

    I'm a guy watcher, I'm a guy watcher...ooooooooo, look, there goes one now...

    Yummy, yummy, slurp, slurp:X ...Gimee more, more, more, how you do like it, how do you like it, how do your like your buhhhhhhhhhhht, more, more, more...

    Bwa ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha...
     
  18. RxHEAD

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    what I'm trying to ask is what makes you gay? Is it a decision that you make because of past experiences, or do you think you're just born that way... and... do you ever question it or wish you weren't?

    I am bisexual only had my first sexual experience with another guy about 4-5 years before losing my virginity to a female. I find myself being able to perform sexually with both men and women, however emotionally I find myself more secure with men.

    As far as if I question it or wish I weren't, I do still question it in some ways and as far as wishing I weren't--I would have to be honest, Yes I wish I was not gay, I have a hard time thinking I wanted or chose to be a minority that is hated on and causes so many conflicts of interests and hatred especially in rual areas where every one knows everyones business and before even attempting to get to know a GLBT individual many times the sterotypes become an opinion of a GLBT person even though they have never even TRIED to know them....
     
  19. shevek

    shevek Just Myself

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    I've found that I'm not turned off to women; I've even enjoyed doing it with women on a few occasions, and I did get involved in a three-way with one of each. However, I do, in general, get turned on to men a lot more quickly than to women.
     
  20. LogsOnSticks

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    I swear, I feel like I was born gay. Never have I been turned on by a woman. I think of them and their bodies and it's just not a turn-on for me. In fact, when I was younger, the thought of having "to like" a girl or to do something with a girl made me feel so uncomfortable as if it just wasn't right...I always got upset because I felt like something was wrong with me.

    That's when I opened up my hormones to guys, realizing that my hormones weren't wrong or something, lol.

    I'd still never do any deep sexual stuff with a girl, only because it wouldn't be "exploring" or "experimenting" or any of that matter...I have no desires or curiosity. Therefore, I have no point in being with women for the sheer "hell of it."

    Sure, there are girls out there who I am very compatible with on an emotional level where it could be a relationship...But it doesn't make it magical or romantic enough because the attractions are lacking.
     

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