talk about fucked up

my girls' father just called me

they are going to deport him. He's mixed and he was born in Germany. His father was a black soldier stationed there. His mom got with his step dad and they all moved here. So he has never known his father. So although he is technically an American citizen, we can't prove it because his mom is such a whore that she doesn't know his father. Just his name (which she doesn't know if its real), that he was a soldier, and that he is black

So now he has to go to Germany ( a place he left when he was 2 months old) where he doesn't even speak the language

damn

 

next time your shopping for a government .....purchace anarky ...the product with a 'world without boarders ' added ......im trapped in this shithole of a country , jus cuz i was borned here .... my sympathies for all who suffer seperation over imaginary lines and cruell buerocrats .

 

Damn!! how come they are deporting him in the first place. I mean how did they find out about the whole thing?

 

but, this is a good thing right? Means your neighbours won't be calling him up with made-up lies and trying to get your kids taken away from you and given to him. I mean, it sucks that he won't be able to be in their lives anymore, but some stepdads can be awesome (mine is, he's definately more of a father-figure than my real dad, whom I also love)

 

he's in jail

has been for 6 years. He's supposed to get out in 3 months. The premise is that he is not a citizen and since he has broken the law he has to go back to "his country"

his older brother got naturalized, his younger brothers were born here...he's the only one not considered a citizen

I'm trying to figure out how to find his father..and hope that he is still alive

 

this is the father of my two girls. I was with him since middle school

I had my son when he was in jail

 

Thats a bunch of bullshit. he cant become a citizen in a hurry before they deport him?

 

edit - post 2000 yay

 

anarky would also have the special added ingredient of no laws and no prisons

 

nope

I considered marrying him but I found out that if I do, it wouldn't be recognized by immigration because they have already notified him of his deportation hearing. truth is, we were thinking of trying again when he came home anyway. I just wanted him to come home and see if he had really gotten himself together. But even marriage can't save him.....only proof that he is a citizen

 

well id gladly trade my papers for costa rican ones

 

i hope they burn this fucked up country to the ground

 

sorry but that is impossible..he is lying to you. i'm an army brat i lived in germany for ten years..i know about this shit..you need to get a lawyer and have all his rights stripped of him so he can't see your kids..he sounds like a complete fucking loser and a mental case..if you care about your kids then you need to take care of this...why would you want someone like him around your children. get your mind right

 

get who's mind right?

I'm not the dumbass that went to jail. He did. And he is my children's father so I don't want them to be hurt by him leaving. They love him. As far as him being a nut case..... can't argue with that but that ship sailed once I finished fucking him. Too late for hindsight.

He really is in trouble though. I've seen the paper work

 

whatever...all the drama these poor kids now days have to go through makes me sick.

 

like drama's anything new. the world's the same as it ever was. it's not like we've evolved at all.

but, honestly, missf, i would seek to limit the amount of time my kids spent with him. sometimes ties have to be cut because they're more harmful than good. in the end it could drag your kids down, too.

 

i agree...the kids have no hope in this world...and no we have noe evolved morally we have devolved...

 

I'm interested in why you think he shouldn't be allowed to see his kids. He's a dumass...yes, but he's never hurt them. He didn't go to jail for a violent crime.

I've already decided not to let them go stay overnight cause I don't trust him to be responsible enuff but I'm not going to tell him he can't ever see his kids because of some stupid shit he did when he was young

 

*admires you for that*

Dealing with an ex isn't too easy and I can hardly begin to imagine what it's like having kids with an ex.. as long as he isn't hurting them in any way or whatever, then he has the (moral, but I think also legal) right to see them! Most be tough though, letting them go with him..

 

I don't hate him. he's been part of my life since puberty.

I just wanna do what is best for my kids. He is not good for me but I won't let that spill over to the kids. If I stand in the way of my children having a relationship with their fathers (without good reason), its me that they are gonna be mad at. Granted, because of his lack of parenting experience I'm gonna watch it closely at first.

I might not have a choice cause he might be in Germany and they won't be able to see him anyway