So, I've been with my girlfriend for 4 months now. On the spiritual it is unbelievable how we connect. Although our beliefs and experiences are EXTREMELY different from each others, we are both attracted strongly to each other. I really love her, vice versa. However, she says she is waiting for marriage until she has sex. To me, sex is a big part of a relationship. Its a huge way to connect and feel each other on a very high level. It also can bring in greater levels of truthfulness, love, and awareness into the relationship. She is definately strong on her stance, and I respect that. However, its very hard for me.....yet I do belive I'm willing to make the sacrifice. Just curious about what others would do?
I dunno about people thinking like that. I learned that sex is part of evolution, making not only offspring, but for humans (and some apes) it's also for bonding, and staying together. I probably wouldn't stay around either. Look whether you share her views on sex, or not. I think being with someone in a romantic realtionship, who has a different view on sex then myself is extremely difficult. (been there, done that, never ever again) To me sex is part of lifem and a vital relationship.
To me sex is like the next step in a relationship. We were together nearly 6 months before me and my ex did it for the first time (although she was 15 and I was 19 when we firts got together, so that was probably for the best anyway). I don't think I could wait for marriage before sleeping with my partner, but I would wait for a while
Some people just have these principles. You should respect that, and if you can't handle a sexless relationship, get out. But if you really want to stay with her, do so. I think spiritual connection is much more important than physical.
if you really care about her all you can do is deal with it if your dick has too much power over you leave her
just what I was thinking.. if u love her, respect her decisions... I wish I would have waited longer...Just dont try to force her into doing something she will regret
This might sound somewhat shallow but, you test drive a car before you buy it don't you? I need the intamacy that only sex can provide in a relationship to truly feel that 'connection' with a girl. I couldn't survive in a relationship without that intimacy and I would never marry someone without establishing that level of intimacy first.
i think sex is important... but i also think it shows a lot more is there when no sex is needed to feel so intimate... then knowing that one day you will be able to share even that intimacy, and you'll be the only one she'll share that with too. different strokes for different folks.. but some relationships can be intimate and romantic without actual sex
I agree if someone wasn't willing to wait if I felt the need to i would move on...no need to stick with one person when they put getting down your pants before your morals.
Well, I thought about it long and hard, and I reached my conclusion. I love this girl, and even though she doesnt want to do ANYTHING sexual (blowjob, sex, ANYTHING) I will stay with her. Sex is one of the greatest expressions of love and life and creativity, and sex used to be a major part of my life. But for her, I will sacrifice a major part of my life. thanks for your advice people.
And where does that leave same-sex couples who love each other deeply, but are BARRED BY LAW from marrying? -- Skeeter
If you can't handle not having sex, then you should speak to your girlfriend about it. Not saying change her mind or anything because you should respect her wishes also, but see where you two can go from here.
