trying to come to grips with what happened...

I was raped a few days ago by someone who I thought was my friend(I've known him close to a year). He attacked me while I was sleeping. I've already been to the ER and everything. I live alone and even tho everything is locked, I'm still totally freaked out. I can't sleep at night.
I was wondering if anyone knew of any type of Rape Victim Support Group in the Albany NY area? I guess I could have "googled" it but thought maybe someone on here would know something. The ER only gave me a hotline to call, I would rather be in a support group.
Peace & Love,
Dara

 

http://www.albanycounty.com/departments/rapecrisis/welcome.htm#needs

That's the only link I could come up with. Maybe you could call though,to get more information.
I'm really sorry this happened to you *hugs*. Do you have any friends you could stay with or that could stay with you? If you need someone to talk to,don't hesitate to PM me anytime. You're in my thoughts and prayers.

 

I searched and couldn't find anything. The hotline they gave you may be able to direct you to some support groups. I am glad to hear you are persuing the help you need. Good luck!

 

planned parenthood usually has a list of support groups. i'm sorry.

 

That has to horrible. There should be many support groups out there. I woudl take a self defense class just so that it settles your nerves a little. My friend got raped and she did that and it took the edge of a little. If you ever want to talk PM me. Sorry you had to go through this.

 

A self defense class is a wonderful idea!

 

Blessings, sister. My prayers are with you for healing.

Remember, you had no control, and no matter what anyone said, it was NOT your fault. ONLY the perpertrator takes the fault in a rape.

Heal, sister.

 

The hotline number that you were given will know all of the current resources in your area.

 

{{{Hugs}}} sweetie, I'm so sorry.

 

http://www.superpages.com/yellowpages/C-Rape+Treatment+Centers/S-NY/T-Albany/

That's the best I can do. Hope it helps.

 

You're in my thoughts and prayers ((hugs))

I hope you find what you need to get through this

 

I'm very sorry for what happened. I hope you can stay strong and seek out people who love and support you. I hope you have found a support group by now.

 

I'm sorry to hear that happened. You will heal, it just takes time. I'm happy to hear that you're looking for a support group. That happened to me in High School, I never told anyone. I was a bit "loose" so I thought everyone would blame me. I have since learned that I had NO CONTROL over what happened. Call your local church, most of them have support groups or can direct you to one. I'm not trying to push the church on you (I'm Pagan) but I know they can help. My blessings go out to you during this terrible time. If you need a shoulder to cry on or just someone to scream at, feel free to PM me. Blessed Be.

 

OK seriously and honestly - when you do take a self defence course -

Go somewhere that will teach you how to kill.

Not some non-violent feel-good touchy feely place that'll tell you to push the guy hard and yell "NO!". I used to go and assist at these courses, and just as they thought they were able to deal with everything I'd just grab em from behind and watch em freeze.

Many of those courses are damn dangerous because they teach women that they're secure, assertive etc. but not give them the tools (killer instinct, speed, strength, etc) to make it count. Buy a gun or a dog or learn how to gouge a man's eyes out with your thumbs. But don't for the love of God take a tae kwon do course (pretty sport spin kicks) or some kind of afternoon wimmyn's non-aggressive gentle self defence crap.

Cause if you piss around with a guy whose intent on hurting you, all you're doing is making him madder.

That being said, rape sucks. Press charges - the hospital should have all the evidence you need.

 

huh?
I would have thought the police would put you in touch with a Rape Victim Support group no?

 

Don't expect any kind of sensitivity or counselling from pigs.

All they do is try and find some visible minority to pin crimes on.

Look after yourself- get the help that you need. It isn't your fault. Talk to the people these folks recommend - and when it comes time press charges and follow through with em. When he goes to jail the real punishment will begin.

 

*biggest and softest of hugs*

remember that theres a whole family of women out there who know how you feel and are sending you healing vibes to help you through this. If you ever need to talk pm me.
Blessings and love
Uma
x

 

Er, please remember that there are also men out there who know how you feel, and hope and wish you the best also. I'm not really good at this touchy feely stuff (being male I'm an emotional cripple etc) but seriously, I hope they get the bastard and that you get through this OK.

 

hey, im not sure about support groups or anything in your area, but i can support you, if needed....... IM me if you need anything, and i hope everything works out for the best.

i would press charges if i was you... DONT let that bastard do that to ANYONE else.

im sending all the good vibes your way, sister.

 

I definately second that.

For the life of me I can't understand what is going through a guys mind when he does something like that. I'm usually pretty passive but this is one case where I would love to kick the guys a$$ that does this sort of thing. Let me at em...

I hate hearing about these sort of occurrences. I've had too many female friends go through this. Please don't feel ashamed or hesitation to prosecute.