Need prayers, advice, and vibes

One of my closest and dearest friends of mine told me that she's pregnant last night. We were both high as kites at the time. She told me that she knows she needs to stop smoking and drinking if she's going to have this baby, and she's now asked me to help her stop. I'm willing to do whatever i can because I love her and it would be too hard for her w/o someone's help. so now i am asking for any advice on how to help her quit. we have both been heavy pot smokers for five months or so now, and she has been smoking it almost every day for five years. b/c of this i don't think she should try to go cold turkey. does anyone know what i should try and do?

also if you could just pray or whatever it is you do for this whole situation. she'll keep it if she has the baby, but she could easily go the other way and have an abortion. i cant really say myself which is the better answer for her... she needs all the support she can get for this situation.

thanks so much!

 

I don't smoke pot, so I don't know much about that. I think pot is going to be easier to quite because it's not physically addictive, but I don't know much about her personality. I know just about anything can be mentally addictive. It's best to leave that for someone who knows about the topic.

I commend you, though. It's a very sweet thing that you're helping her thru this. It's great that she has a good friend like you.

 

Theres no such thing as physically addictive, its called physically dependant, and it transpires prior to addiction. Yes, everything can be addictive (even icecream, yummmm icecream ).

Anyway, I really recommend she stop smoking and drinking... NOW! Otherwise, the baby might come out deformed, or dead, or something, and that'd suck. She doesn't want her baby to have the intelligence of a 3 year old its entire life does she?

It would be extremely difficult to go cold turkey on those things (yay, you said it too, now they can't laugh at me!).

Back to the topic, you should do what they did in that one Third Watch episode. Wait for her to get really high/drunk, then take her to a cabin in the middle of nowhere for 3 days. If she can go 3 days without drinking and smoking, she can probably go the rest of the time. You would need other people to help you with that.

Or, she could check herself into a clinic, and they could help her quit. Or you could call the police, and they could maybe do something.

 

I'd strongly suggest getting some outside/professional help.

After that long using pot it's going to be tough to give up, and then not go back to.

Good luck

 

I am going to move this to Relationships. It will get more responses there. Not really a pure "Women's Issue." No big deal, it will just do better there.

 

Listen, seriously, most of the damage is done very very early on.

See a doctor.

If it's "hey wow, I'm pregnant, man, and I've been drinking and drugging for the past three months but I want to give it up for the second and last trimesters" it might be too late anyway.

If this woman can't stop drinking and drugging now, she is NOT going to be a fit mother. Kids require attention, and if she can't care about it now she won't when it needs, you know, like, to be fed.