Sometimes it seems like my life is out of my hands. It seems like my family is drifting further and further apart. In January, my father tried to kill himself (car in the garage) and was only saved because someone was taking trash out at midnight. His blood alcohol level that night was somewhere around 2.35...he had a very big alcohol problem and was depressed (still is). He was taking away by the cops and transfered to a depression clinic for a couple weeks. When he got out, he didn't move back home right away. Keep in mind that my mother also had an alcohol problem, and she seemed to stop at this time. He lived with my aunt for a month or so (I don't really know), but eventually moved back in. In my eyes, nothing really changed in my parent's relationship. They still never really communicate to each other. Before they had screaming matches, now they had subtle "disagreements" every now and then. My father is still very depressed, and his psychologist keeps changing his medication. I think he's on 2-3 anti-depressants and also has a sleep aid at the moment. I don't really see a huge improvement yet, and it been months. I only write this post because tonight I confronted my mother about her drinking problem. She has been doing her best to keep it a secret from the family but it was fairly obvious to me. She was vague at first when it came down to telling me she was going to quit, and she wouldn't admit to being an alcoholic..I think she said she "might have an alcohol problem". Apparently those terms mean different things? I finally just said that I wanted her to stop drinking altogether. She agreed that she would stay sober from this day forward. I hope she keeps her promise, because confronting her once was hard enough. I'm really concerned with my father's depression and my mother's drinking. I hope the situation works out for the best. I have to believe that my mother is telling the truth about quitting (she has lied to me before about how often she was drinking). I can easily tell when she's been drinking, so I'm really worried. Please comment and give your input...it's extremely appreciated. Thank you so much for reading.
Nice sig It is a shame that people can't behave while drunk. [wow talk about being a fucking hypocrite -me] anyway, it's good that you are concerned, but once you feel like you have done all you can do, just back off and let things happen. I guess we're talking about people in their 30s and 40s right? Parent or no parent, you aint telling them what to do or how to live their lives. You shouldn't even haf to approach them about their addictions. They sound wildly out of control and I'd try my hardest to stay out of the twister if I were you.
Haha, thanks. My parents are in their 50s. And I do feel that I've done mostly everything I can, and I'm at least glad that I put my concern about my mother's drinking out there. Hopefully she'll get the message. At this point it just seems best to take your advice and step back from the situation. There's just been so much going on, I feel like I need to give it more time for it to work itself out. Thanks.
wow... I usaully don't read these long posts.... anyways, my dad used to get suicidal and crazy while drunk well he was always drunk but you know what I mean, he stabbed himself some 40 times in the chest with a screwdriver, drank nail polish remover, he was also very abusive and he liked to threaten to blow my mom up. He ended up dying of diabetes caused by alcohlism. But not all is this bad. My Grandpa (my dad's dad) was an extreme drunk, way worse than my father, but he evetually started the Alcoholics Anonymous in his neighborhood and used it to clean up and help many others do the same. What I guess I'm trying to say is it could go either way. All you can do is be supportive and helpful. Good luck, keep your head up
Oh yes, I forgot to mention my dad is involved with AA. But as I said, he is still depressed. I'm wary about anti-depressants not working at all in this situation. And thanks, Duck.
