I need advice... what would you do?

between the grades of 4th and 7th i had a best friend named danielle. we were really close and had lots of fun together. then she majorly fucked me over towards the end of 7th grade and we didnt talk at all until 10th grade. then i had pretty much forgiven her (as much as i possibly could... kinda like forgiven but not forgotten) and we talked and hung out just a few times. her little sister died in a car accident and i went to the funeral... then i havent seen or talked to her for the past three or four years.

her mom just called me and wants to know if dan and i can go to her wedding which is coming up soon. i told her id ask dan if we're availible and call her back. thing is... i cant stand most of danielle's friends... they are royal bitches and i still have lots of bad feelings towards her for what she did to me. at the same time, we were once really really close and i would kinda like to go. i just cant decide if i want to go or not. i keep going back and forth.

what would you do if you were me??

 

I probably wouldn't go...although I'm sure time has healed some of the wounds.

Just doesn't sound fun if her friends are all bitches.

 

well the friends she had back then were bitches... some of them. but that was a long time ago... so i dunno.....

 

i dunno...i'd probably end up going

 

id take into consideration whether or not it was open bar or not

i think you should go

 

Find out how the receptions going to be and judge accordingly


I'm just not a huge fan of weddings, so I only go to good friends or relatives usually.

 

I'd say go and just support her. Her friends should have nothing to do with whether or not you go. You aren't there for them, after all.

I'm going to a friend's wedding on Saturday, even though my ex who used to abuse me and stalk me is going to be there. She is my friend and I'm not going to let him or anyone else rule my life. Neither should you.

 

all right, thanks guys. i think i am going to go.

 

I never go to weddings or funerals. I hate seeing life come to an end.

 

HA! HAHAHAHAHA

 

hehe mar

 

seems like you fuck all your relationships up..you nasty bitch. you probally fucked her man or something. or her friends just knew how nasty of a fucking whore you really are and told her to fucking forget your nasty ass..you shouldn't go...the fumes from your pussy would ruin the wedding...nasty ****....you should be banned from flaming as well...checkout the death thread...looks like you like to flame people once they are gone..

 

I wouldn't go. You don't owe her anything unless you really want to renew the friendship. If not, don't feel bad. I had a friend like that. I was trying to figure out how to kill her and get away with it for years. I have moved on from a murder plan and I just don't care anymore, but once she wanted to get back together and I had no reason to.

Her sister's funeral is one thing. That's respect, but to go to her wedding is unneccessary if you don't want to. You can politely decline and say you have plans that day.

 

deleted b.c xaus deleted the post from bejjy's alias

 

thanks heady... i dont know exactly what im gonna do yet actually. i think im defiantly gonna think about it and not make my mind up for sure either way today though.

 

i am not following you. and i am not kelly. i am responding to a thread. jeez..you are noid. anyways..don't go to the wedding they are just looking for gifts.

 

how are you still keeping in contact with them??

 

I'm stealing that.

 

cause she is a liar and makes up shit to say on here.

 

What about going and finding closure within yourself & her so you can move forward with whatever happened? One thing to be able to let go of and grow from.

I know you say you were really good friends but it sounds like you were also very young at the time the situation happened. Unfortuneatly you got hurt but could you take the age (at the time) into consideration?


On the flip side if you both haven't spoken in all these years why would you get an invite? Maybe her Mom doesn't know you had a fight or what had happened? Maybe she hopes this would be a good time to let go it and start over?

If you go, Good Luck.