is it normal to feel like I'm going to die alone at this point (18) I've never really had a girlfriend, never been kissed etc. I've also never really connected with another person, I've been infatuated, but that was one way........
well you're not hideously over weight and apparently you have style so you have things going for you. i felt like that at 18...and 20...but then i met a wooooonderful young lady and now i don't feel like that at all. im sure its normal
i've felt like that before too... it is normal, but don't fret. seriously. some ppl don't meet the love of their life until muuuuch later... and some ppl are happy being single forever, it suits them... so yeah, don't worry
You have autism (or something like that, right).. That might be the root cause for being 'infatuated' rather than 'admiring' or 'loving' some one. A fantasy created in your mind for something that probably will never be.. I am sure your aware of such issues some people have in interacting in social suroundings and interpersonal skills. Step back from being intense and internalising your situation and just 'get on with it'. Go join a book club or something along those lines or do something that does not involve having to think about yourself .. dancing or judo. As your interacting with people you might just bump into some one you like and likes you. or You might be gay and your looking on the wrong side of the church ?.
Sounds right. You could do worse. You could be married and realise you hate the rest of the huma race, which is worse.
pretty close to the first.... not the second..... I had an epiphany one day (I asked myself why people realize their gay.... it all made sense suddenly and I saw that I didn't fit it, counterexample that I am) I tried fencing, but the problem w\ that is 90% guys and most of the women there are married...... harry s. truman met his wife fencing.... meanwhile I am internalized figuring out how my mind works and unable to interact with the rest of the world in a meaningful way...... shit at least I know what I'm about........ way better than those guy s who have to figure that out when they're 40.....
i have had girlfriends, kissed lots of girls and had sex... i still feel like i am going to die alone.
unless you die with like a whole lot of people all at once ...I would have to say yeah your probally ganna die alone.........sorry dude
I had that little epithany also. Well being gay was always a possibility.. given your dress sense. I am just kidding. I thought you might have worked yourself out by now, given some of the things you post. Though that troubling little thing called 'love' is always a bastard.
I think it's a quite a normal feeling Quest techie. I remember thinking that at one point but I've been with my husband for 9 years now and we have three beautiful children. I think many people experience those feelings at one point or another in their lives.
i want to die like my grandfather in his sleep, not like the passengers in his car but really if you're asking if you'll die alone that is a most likely a yes becuse how can you die with some one even if you're married or together with someone you'll probably die alone, but don't worry i bet you'll have lots of relationships before then for the better or worse but i never thought about dieing alone what is sader then dieing alone, is the thought that we could be alone forever on the other side, so don't sweat it and do what every you want in this life
There's truth in this... but it's not autism for god's sake. We are talking about an introvert who needs to learn social skills and the only way to learn them is to face them. I think this guy has never been hurt, disappointed, has never actually LEARNED HIS LESSONS in life. There is a precious gift that comes with pain, that's wisdom. Walking on the streets with an infatuated look will keep everyone away (trouble too) and sometimes getting into trouble is just a necessary part of life. I think this guy should open up and as u said, join people in various activities.
I was just speculating because i have heard him mention autism and himself in the same breath . A question mark might have been a good option . He probably has never learned any or many 'life lessons' they all might just click into place in a few more years ('arrested development') . Possibly he may have had experiance of hurt and disspointment but not had the capacity to work them into any kind of sense (not geeting it) or simply decieded they are too painful. If your not 'dealing' with the emotions both of those bring up then they simply do not exist in your reality, then you can continue not to feel those emotions (or feel them in a imature way) and then you're also not dealing with them (maturely)..then you never get hurt. jeesus ! sorry Quest_techie i am giving you the works in the emotional difficuly department Quest_techie i personaly think you will have girls swinging off your arms soon.. don't take a blind bit of notice to my ramblings :&
