Does anyone here have jobs?

Not to mention the fact that daycare/childcare (IMO) is not good for the emotional well being of small kids. I took all 4 of my kids with me yesterday to the thrift shop. The old ladies there commented on how well behaved they were and one of them looked at me and said "You stay home with them don't you? I can tell." I am so proud of my kids. Whomever your children are around during these fragile first years definately shapes the mold of who they will be. Yes, we are poor because we struggle with one real income..but I would not change that for any 'job' in the world.

 

Cre ~ I absolutely agree with you about daycare not being good for young children. My kids have never set foot in a daycare. It was a very easy decision to make for my husband and I to make it work so that I could be a stay at home mom. He happen to be making more money with his job than I was and so we decided that I would be the stay at home parent. I've never regretted this decision and homeschooling was just the next natural path for us.

Our kids are very well behaved as well and people always comment to us on this. It makes me see that we really did make the best decision for our family. It may be hard to live on one 'real' income, but to me it's worth it in the end.

 

I was thankful I at least got to stay home with them on a regular basis until my son was a bit over 2 and then I had a 7-3 job and got to spend alot of time with them. It wasn't easy and we went without alot but it was worth it. Hell we still have gone without alot since their dad was a deadbeat and owes me over $70,000.00 (LOL)

 

i work 40 hours a week at least i am the daytime manager at a restaurant its tiring sometimes and occasionaly takes a bit to get motivated when i get home
but i do find time to sew and do other crafts that i sell at craft shows and to friends and coworkers
once i get my car paid off i am quiting the restaurant
my husband is a chef so he makes plenty for me to do what i want
and what i want is to sew and do photography full time

 

i agree, though it isn't always possible for a woman to stay home with her kids. i was grateful that i got to stay home with each of them until they were 2. that's all i could pull. i work now, but my daughter is six. right now my 17 yr. old son takes her to and from school, i have no idea what i will do next year, there isn't even a bus for first graders and it's more than a mile. i would love it if she were homeschooled, but i can't do it not only because i am work but because i have learning disabilities.

 

Well, there may be someone in the neighborhood that can get her on the bus and off and maybe babysit a bit if needed. One of the parents that has to be there anyway maybe.

Homeschooling has its good and bad points. Some kids are way in advance of public schools and some are very far behind as well. Depends if they also have other avenues to socialize with kids their age too. I wouldn't have wanted to attempt home schooling. They would have had me pulling out my hair in the first month.

 

I am doing farm work now...it takes up more time than I ever thought it would. I've found out that it's really hard to sell handmade goods. There aren't many craft fairs here,and people that want to buy handmade clothes are few and far between. I'm thinking about taking some of my clothes to the local headshop,to see if they would want to buy some to sell...or maybe a consignment type deal with them would work too. I have thought of opening a website,and I probably will give it a try as soon as I get another digital camera(mine died months ago).

I can't stand the regular jobs. I've worked so many different ones and they all stressed me out so bad. Besides sewing and farming,the only other thing that didn't stress me out was cleaning houses for people,usually while they were at work,so I was alone. I would literally rather do back breaking work,than to deal with people all day lol.

 

Yes, I am a full time dental assistant..i work 4 ten hour days...i have fri-sun off...but soon i will be working at my grandmothers resturant on sunday..so i will have 2 days off...i never have enough time to sew..i've been slacking alot lately...i feel that to make the really heady things i want i would have to sew non stop friday and saturday..but then when do i see my friends and love ??? it's soo hard..i wish i coulds sew full time..but i gotta pay that car payment ya' know..

 

Thanks, I keep getting better also!

 

i hope i can find someone who will watch her. the problem is, my daughter is bipolar (like her mother), and she has a bad track record in daycares, she has been aggressive towards other children--it happens elsewhere but they can't kick her out of school and i'm not kicking her out of home. she has been doing better now, though, because i put her on medication.

 

I average about 45 hours a week between two jobs, so I know what you mean; it's hard to get motivated to get some projects started or even finished. But for me crafty stuff is so relaxing that it's an automatic thing I do... I can always find 20 minutes a few times a week to work on something.

 

im a nurse! i work at a jewish hostel. i hardly get time to sew nowadays. i take time on friday mornings for 2 hours to paint. i only picked up a brush 2 weeks ago after a yr and a half off coz of me working!!

 

no, but I'm trying to get into freelance writing.

 

goodness. money is silly. we should all just take care of each other--give each other food and clothing and healthcare and pretty things and sleep in the grass.

okay, well, now that my little dream is out there... i work 40 hours a week answering switchboard at the college i attend during the summer, and around 10 hours a week on campus during the school year. i like getting paid, although i'd rather get paid to do the things that make me happy in the first place. i'll start selling jewelry at some local stores once i get enough made up, although i won't be making any for the next month or so because i'm going to get stuck with my wrist in a splint today probably. stupid de quevair's disease.

one of my roommates my first year of college has the most amazing parents. although they both have other jobs, they also have an organic farm on their canada property and managed to, between them, always be home with their kids. i think that's an amazing commitment, and one that people who do have kids should probably think about. too many people have kids to have little people to play with or dress up or kick around... i admire people who realize they can't properly care for a child and give their children up for adoption or never have kids in the first place.

and to back that up, i've made a decision not to have kids. i don't think i could do it well, because i would really need to retrain myself. my parents were horrible people to learn from and i don't want to treat my kids the way they treated me. if i do have children, i have to grow up a lot before that. but the world is overpopulated anyway... so if i don't have children, i'll be fine. i won't be fine if i don't have a way to occupy my time that feels worthwhile and lifegiving, though. i will be incredibly unfine.

 

I work. I'm at work right now. That's when I do my computer stuff. But in reality I do work 40 hours plus a week and then go home to a very active almost 3 year old. I wish I had more time to do the things I want to do. Three weeks ago I bought a whole stack of fabric while on vacation. So far I've only been able to cut one piece of it. Usually I can sew on Sunday's while the clothes are washing. I would be in heaven if I could sew every day.

Kathi

 

your amazing!! to think that...wow...its sad about your parents, but at least they had a brainy kid!! the world isnt over populated anyway! maybe in china and africa, but australia is an ageing generation. most of my friends have been diagnosed with poolycystic ovarian syndrome so we may never be able to have children!! i dont think id be a very good mother either but id love to try. anyway this has nothing to do with the original post so ill leave it here pm me anytime!!!
Clarissa xoxo

 

I'm a naturalist at an Outdoor school

 

I work at the humane society and Petco. Doesn't pay well, but i'd rather be poor and happy than rich and miserable

 

that's EXACTLY what i want to do. except my "other job" will be making clothing, jewlery, lamps, soap, and all that other crap i like. I'm going to try to have an organic farm on top of that and be at home with my kids all the time.

I'm really REALLY happy, i just quit my EXTREMELY shitty job at Best Buy and i got a job at Value Village. I'll have a lot more time to work on my sewing now not to metion 50% off recycled fabric, WOOHOO!!!

 

not all daycares are that bad though! just the big ones where the providers don't have time to give children their individual needs. my mom has an in home daycare where i work over the summer and the kids LOVE it here! they don't even want to leave when their parents come! i think daycare can be very good for children!!!