ok this isnt really a dating situation but a group situation... i have a lot of friends that have self-mutalation problems(slitting wrists, suicide, ect.ect.) and they are all worrieing e right now... one girl just got arrested for underaged drinking and breaking cerfew and the guy she was with lied abt his age and is getting charged for rape on the girl she was with who is a minor...and most of my friends now either hate eachother or cant stand to look or talk to eachother and i am trapped in the middle and every 1 is talkin behind eachothers back and i cant escape it and theyre drivin me CARAZY!!! i dont wanna make any of them mad and i cant stand having to split my times with them b/c i have very little time as it is and ive tried to tell them how they are hurting me but they wont listen and some have their heads to high in the clouds to think any 1 else has problems and errrrrgggggggg they are tickin me off and i cant spend time with any of them with out them getting all angry b/c i mention somebody or wanna do somethin they have done before or if i like anything they like....... they need to grow up but idk how to tell them how i feel w/o getting them pissed at me.... well any suggestions?
Obviously they aren't listening to you right now, and they're pissed anyway, so tell them how you feel.. Try taking a break from them for a bit.. If they get pissed at you for telling them how you feel then you need better friends.. If you think your cutter friends will try something stupid, like suicide, then talk to them and help calm them down.. Don't just leave them.. Keeping your head on straight, you can be a good friend without getting stuck in the middle, you just need to tell them what you think/feel... Good luck with it all..
Tell your friends how you feel about each one to their face, not over the phone, but in private. Keep it real with them. You can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped. If they cannot accept that, oh well, find new friends. It sounds like you are surrounding yourself with bad association. One bad apple spoils the rest. Surround yourself with positive friends who enjoying doing the things that you like. If they get mad at you for spending time with your other friends, let them know that you need some "me" time for yourself. Put yourself first, not your friends. For example, if you were sleep and your friend called you saying that they were stranded over someelse's house and needed a ride, will you put yourself first, as far as, getting your rest, or will you put your friend first, get up out of bed to go pick them up?
