I posted something similar in the Love and Sex forum but I really didn't get much response so I still need help. Where do you draw the line when it comes to dating friends? If you've known them for a certain amount of time is it not ok? I've slept with alot of my guy friends hoping that something would come of it(like a relationship) but all it led to was more sex and a tighter bond. Also, is it ok to date a friend's ex? All my friends and I have had this philosphy that no matter you do you don't date an ex or even a crush. But, when you have real feelings for them is it ok? I've gotten to the point where I just don't know anything anymore.
ive had and im still having a problem with dating my friend she was my friend for like 6 months when she told me she had a crush on me but nothing happend for like a year because she said it was to weird, we dated for a littile untill it fell apart again becasue of the fact that we where good friend for such a long time and it was weird we where trying to work though it but ours firends that where a couple kept buting in with there stuff every 5 mintues, now we are trying things again but its not looking so good, i think we will probly stay friends but never actuly date,it wierd becasue we dont want to fuck up the fact that we are such good friends if something happens, and i almost blew it a couple weeks ago. Im having the same problem i want some one i can be with more of a relationship she doesnt,i think its hard to make something like friends dating each other work,the ex thing i think is stupied it shouldnt matter what relationship or something they had befor with a firend of yours if its over whats the problem, a true friend might be pissed but still be able to work thought the idea of you dating there ex.
ok to the first post. This is speaking from a guy's perspective, and it's really my perspective so it might not be right but it's where I'd be coming from. If I had a friend that was interested in me it would be foolish enough to think that we could be closer or something more if we have sex... I'm sorry but if they were really your friend dating or not they should know what your feeling first. I'm thinking if you haven't been friends with them for a long long time they might be using you as a friend with privlages (friends that do sexual things such as kiss touch sleep together) Not trying to upset you or nothing but how close are you with these guy's and how close are they to each other outside of you being their friends. Do they hang out if your not there? I can't see how sex will make you closer, and that's from experience! Any time I've moved into a serious relationship to a sexual relationship not long after it will end for some strange reason. If these chumps wanna have you, you shouldn't have to give it up to them to make them wanna be with you or get closer to you on a mental level. My advice about the ex or a past crush, if your going to break your code you should at least tell your girlfriend that you'd be hurting. If she's a real friend like deadonceagain said they will be mad but they should get over it. If they don't you shouldn't be hanging around that negitive mojo she's putting off anyway. Deadonceagain it sounds like you and your girl need to talk to your friends and let them know you gotta have your space to branch out. Never ever ever let friends stand in the way of love or relationships if they have advice listen to them, but if they are being negitive you need to let them know they got to let you lead your own life. Anyway this is getting long I don't know how you almost blew it, but if you remember this girl is your friend, so show respect. I've blown really good friendships due to dumbass things I wished I could take back. Don't cheat, don't lie, and be a gentalman. that's all I gotta say about that! good luck you two
Thanks for the help! I really think that I just need to layoff for awhile. I've gone from long term relationship to fucking all of my guy friends. I really need to see a good thing when I have it. These guys I'm realising are just there, so I guess thats why I throw myself at them.Screwing up last night really put things into perspective. I need to concentrate on school(can't lose my scholorship) keeping my place on my team, and on those who really care about me.
Date your friends, date your friends ex's...if they are real friends, they'll see you're happy and wont care. I've been dating my best friend of 2 years, for 3 months and some now and we're still best friends first and dating second...and it just feels right that way And to deadonceagain, if she is truly your friend before you dated, even if you fuck something up, it'd be no different than if you fucked something up when you were friends, and you can either be friends afterward, or not... Cheers, -John
well to both of you that gave me advice its pretty much over between me and her,it wouldnt have worked anyway just becasue we both want two different things i dont know if i could be her firend,we seem to have a pattern going, we are friends then we start dating/becoming closer then thing dont work out then we fight and stop talking to each other for a couple months then become friends again so far this has happend three times, i dont know if i should stay her friend or not i still like her, she on the other hand changes her mind every three secounds, its weird because something can still happen but im tierd of waiting for her to make up her mind,she hinted that she might give it another chance but i dont know,so basicly i know how i feel and she doesnt know how she feels, its over but its not at the same time, i just dont know wtf to do
As per me love and sex is different. They have different characterstics. Love look at your heart and sex look at your body. But for pure romantic sex love is most important. but for pure romantic love sex is not a important. Sex may be important for love. It differs from person to person but Love is unique and it must exist with whom so ever it happens. Albert incorporate : nevada corporation : BePenfriends- Only friendship
Dating friends is fine. My current girlfriend was friends with me for nearly 6 years before we got together As for dating your friend's ex, if its just a normal friend then go for it. If it's your best friend, ask permission first
